miscarriage

@joiele (49)
Philippines
July 23, 2010 12:24pm CST
I had a miscarriage last year. I was on my 3rd month when I begun bleeding. I went to my OB and she said that the baby has no heartbeat. The OB gave me high hopes, she prescribed vitamins and a complete bed rest for 2wks. But the bleeding did not stop. One night, I woke up at strange hour of the day feeling pain. My mom guessed it was the same as when someone will give birth. I tried to endure the pain but can't. So I was rushed to the hospital. On our way, I felt blood flowing down my legs and a mass of full blood suddenly fell. I cried and knew it was my baby. It has been a year now, but the pain and the guilt are still here. How can you handle the pain? How can a mom tell her child "I'm sorry I lost you"? How can a mom say "I miss you" to her child that she had no chance of seeing?
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10 responses
@krnavtr (285)
• India
28 Jul 10
I heard the word"Miscarriage"before and too seen my neighbor friend got miscarriage when she was 5 months pregnant.We are travelling from home to a brothers place,The road was very rough suddenly she told i got a pain.I was helpless and couldn't do anything when she started bleeding more and more.We went to hospital but it was complete when we reach there.I regret why we had travel too far but now she is happy with her second child.
@acie_21 (5647)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
hi friend... did she lost her baby because of traveling?? or any reasons? thanks..
@tb1990 (9)
• United States
24 Jul 10
I had a miscarriage in my room at 2 months. I woke up to use the bathroom and I knew that something was not right when I starting urinating blood. When I went to put a pad on to rush to the hospital the mass fell out right on my floor in my room and it was scary because I knew that was my unborn child I was looking at right underneath me. I didnt talk about it for weeks even though the doctor told me it was normal with the first pregnancy. I thought that it was something that I did wrong and I use to ask myself why did it happen to me. I deserve to be a mother unlike some mothers in this world. I handle the pain one day at a time and everyday it gets better. God has a better plan for my unborn that I didnt get the chance to know or hold. I still say I miss you all the time. Even though I am 6 months pregnant right now it will never replace my first pregnancy. No matter how many children I have in the future.
@acie_21 (5647)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
hi tb1990.. may i know why did you lost your baby?? i had miscarriage before and now im 5 months pregnant... and may i know what discharges you have right now?? im very nervous and scared...that why i kept on asking questions to other woman who already experienced pregnancy hope you can help me.. thanks! friend!
@pastigger (618)
• United States
23 Jul 10
I am so sorry for your loss. That is so horrible that you would even have to go through that. You are unable to get any closure maybe buy somthing that would represent your lost child, like a little box so that you can write a letter and tell the child what you are thinking and feeling. I am not sure I would ever get over something like that. My daughter was born at 29 weeks due to a placenta abrubtion and even though she is fine and 3 years old now I still feel guilty because my body let her down. She had to spend 3 months in the NICU, I am very scared to even try for another pregnancy so I am sure she will be an olny child. I hope that you can find the strength to try again and have a wonderful pregnancy with no problems and a wonderful health baby. But take your time and maybe see if there are any support groups in your area for moms with miscarriages it might help to talk to someone who has also been there.
@joiele (49)
• Philippines
24 Jul 10
oh! i think you're right. i will write letters to my baby and put it in a box. though s/he can't read them maybe someday the pain will fade. and my baby will have a chance to see me writing letters even if s/he is already in heaven.
@cher913 (25891)
• Canada
23 Jul 10
i had a miscarriage like you in my third month too and i know how you feel. although many woman have had them, each one handles it differently. as for me, i had a very busy 2 year old at the time and got pregnant again within 6 months with our sweet 13 year old.
@joiele (49)
• Philippines
24 Jul 10
that should be my first child. i wasn't married then but i really would love my child. fortunately for you 'coz you had a diversion.
@LovelyxOdd (1192)
• United States
20 Mar 11
I know exactly what you are feeling and how traumatic having a miscarriage is. Me and my husband lost our child this past November and we are not over it still. For your question - I don't know if I can answer because I am still in pain. Recently I stopped being as depressed but I will always remember and always feel that pain and void of losing a child. I just try my best to not think about it. My husband is a great support system. And we just keep trying for another.
@acie_21 (5647)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
hi friend... im sorry for your lost..i also had a miscarriage last 2007.. the baby was almost 3 months ..now im already 5 months pregnant and praying that my pregnancy will be successful...but still bringing the fear and trauma..that i experienced before...may i know what was the cause of your miscarriage?? did you do some biopsy on baby? be waiting.. thanks! take care always..
@mimifrap (40)
• Philippines
4 Aug 10
I'm sorry for your loss. I also had miscarriage just almost 2 months ago and I understand how you feel. I has spotting on 6weeks but stop on the 7th week. On the 8th week I had bleeding and had a miscarriage. It was supposed to be our first baby and now I am trying to conceive again. Just keep on praying.
@jasmeena (850)
• Indonesia
24 Jul 10
Is it your first time?My colleague`s wife also had miscarriage several months ago, they are still childless in their four years of marriage. My brother-in-law`s sister had to wait until 10 year before giving birth to their first son a year ago, and she had miscarriage twice. I am not married yet, but I can feel how sad you are after losing your baby. THe most important thing is you have hubby who always supports you.Hope you will get pregnant again soon!!
@kathysmi (73)
• United States
24 Jul 10
The first thing I want to say is how sorry I am for your loss. I have never had a miscarriage but I am a Momma. You have a mothers heart, and losing your lil one wasn't your fault. You can tell your lil one you miss them, because you felt your lil one inside of you. You carried your lil one and even though you did not see your child your baby was still yours. Have you tried any sort of grief and loss groups? They may help you to see how you aren't alone and help you try to cope with your loss and maybe even help you with those questions. I am on a pregnancy/1st year board now, and in the same community there is a grief and loss board. We call the lil ones lost Angel babies. I know you don't know me from anyone else here but know that you aren't alone in your grief, just reading your questions and a lil bit of your story made me tear up. Whattoexpect.com has a great forum, that may help you with your grief, and the beauty of it is, you can say anything you need to, and you can get it all out right there on the screen. Again I can't say I know how you feel, nor can anyone know exactly how you feel, but please know that it isn't your fault. Sometimes God takes his Angel babies back up to heaven before they truly have a chance to meet their Mommies. There is no true explanation, no rhyme or reason, I wish there was. I'm sending a huge hug your way because it sounds like you need one. I hope that helps a little bit.
@frogers (10)
23 Jul 10
I am so sorry for your loss. The only answer I can come up with is one most people hate to hear...and that is time (time heals all wounds). The problem with time is that it is an open ended answer. Time varies from person to person. I personally can not comprehend your stuggle as I have not gone through it myself, yet I know someone who miscarried her first pregnancy and has since given birth to 3 children. I know that doesn't help right now, but maybe a support group would be a safe place to share and recieve support.