Are you a good daughter/son to your parents?

@laniekins (4585)
Philippines
July 24, 2010 1:20am CST
I've been asking myself if I am. I guess when was young and still studying can say I am a good daughter. I finish my studies without any love involve, my father told me that he will sent me to college but with the condition of no suitor and bf. So did follow him although I didnt finish cause my father retired and he can't support my studies. But now Im old and I dont think I am the same good daughter as before. How bout you?
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@arahvma23 (269)
• Philippines
26 Jul 10
I am not really sure how to answer this because I had been a black sheep of the family during my teenage yeears though I am a better person now. I already have my own family and still my dad seldom talks to me. Perhaps he still feels bad that I got married and had a son at an early age whereas I am the eldest among the siblings and he's counting too much on how I could help out in the family financially. I had nothing to do right now but to understand how he feels. On the other hand, I can feel that I am a better person now because I live for my family and I am more responsible than before.
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@laniekins (4585)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
Its never too late to help your parents if you like. Just what my sisters do, they have their own family too and they live an average life but they still give some money to my mother. You can still help them in your own little ways.
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
Who wouldn't want to help them? Of course I want to, it's just that they are richer than me because my parents both work in a private office. Sometimes, I give money to my siblings and for the medicine of my lola, that's how I help them. I just feel awkward that I cannot really talk to my dad even though we're just inches away when we're both at home. :(
@laniekins (4585)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
I see, you're lucky to have a rich parents, lol. You are now a good daughter, even if your parents don't need money you still give your part. They must be proud of you. In God's time, I'm sure your father will forgive you totally. Hope it will be soon
@SinfulRose (3529)
• Davao, Philippines
23 Jan 12
I am still under my father's...actually more like my mother's care and I don't think I am a very good daughter to them. Even though I stay in school and get good grades, I've known it long before that only those won't make good ol' daddy happy enough. Though it's a different case with my mother. But still, whatever I do, nothing is good enough for me to be called a good daughter...
@dilrajj57 (1759)
• Pakistan
23 Jan 12
thank you for very very good response of the discussion, you looking very very good daughter of your parents be work hard of your school work, and lover with parents and dont say that nothing good enough for you to be called a good daughter, i say you a good daughter from, plese remember me also in your heart.
@laniekins (4585)
• Philippines
25 Jan 12
In my case, it's my mother whom I am having a hard time to be proud of but life is still go one, I just try my best to make her content.
• United States
2 Aug 10
I am kind of feeling this way too. Before I went to college to pursue my major, I was raised in a strict household where my parents had the last say with everything I did. I hardly had any friends because my social skills were way out of whack. But once I entered college, I began to discover who I was as a person and my likes and dislikes. I found that once I really did this, I was comfortable with myself and I began to really appreciate my own worth as a person. Now, my parents were not too keen about this boost in confidence and saw this as a problem. They both had trouble letting go, but I had to be persistent, no matter how hard it was for both them and me. It is a very hard path to follow in this situation. I learned that you need to be happy. It is your own life and whatever direction you take, it is of your choosing. Parents should be there to love and support you, not boss you around. Stand up for yourself and do not be afraid. It will not be easy, but know that you are a good daughter and your parents will always love you!
@laniekins (4585)
• Philippines
3 Aug 10
That was very well said, I like what you said. But sometimes our parents see us as baby. We will always be baby in their eyes even if we already have our own family. If I can decide for myself, I do, cause at the end, all I can depend is my self. I've never told my parents most of my problems, I hid it to myself or I told my bf. I don't want my parents to get involve in my problems, I don't want to give them headache.
@krnavtr (285)
• India
29 Jul 10
I don't know what my parents think but i always think that i am a good daughter to my parents.I always listen what they say and i never disobeyed them till date.If we do good to our parents naturally our child will do good to us and if we do bad to us than our child will do same as us thats the law and i think its happening to everyone.Obey your parents and try to fulfilled your parents desire and wish so that when you are a mother your child can do the same.
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@laniekins (4585)
• Philippines
30 Jul 10
I believe in that but not fully, I think it still depends on how you raised your children. My mother told us that she is a good daughter, always listen to her parents and don't disobeyed them but she got kids whom disobeyed her and do some bad stuff. I don't say that my mother is a failure when it comes to us, but she may be lacking something. She's come from province so she has a limited knowledge on some parts. I congratulate you for being a good daughter, no I realized I should love my mother more, she's the only parent I have. I will really try my very best to make her happy.
@Bellapop (1281)
26 Jul 10
You can only do your best, and if you can put your hand on your heart to say that you did all you can and care for your father then you should have no problems...I think I am a good daughter to my parents and i keep reminding them, and then they say no! Of course not! They say i am bad because of the things that i do to a make them worry, angry, frustrated, but they only say these things just to raise my standards, and i do know that sometimes that the things I do do make them worry, so I try to compromise sometimes, just to do as they say and listen to them and you know, they are sometime very right... :)
@laniekins (4585)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
Parents, most of the time is always right.
@rtsh_gup (186)
• India
26 Jul 10
Ha.....I feel am a good daughter to my parents because I am very helpful and supportive,when ever they were in trouble.
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@laniekins (4585)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
Wow! congratulation to you!. Just stay what you are to your parents. God bless you always!
• Philippines
25 Jul 10
For me, I'm a good child...:D Haha. I think of my what'll my parents feel before I do things especially those that are not so good...:D I've been doing well in my studies and have been consistent with my grades and my goals (of course, they're part of them). I don't talk back to them; I wait and listen of what they have to say before I say my thoughts (but it's hard when I am angry, to control myself I mean..):D
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@laniekins (4585)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
I know what you mean, sometimes we tend to answer back but doesn't mean your saying the bad words. Congrats for being a son!
• India
25 Jul 10
Hello friend My parents are no more, dad left for gods abode in 1965 and mom in 2000, but they are in my heart each second, YES i have always been a good son to them, good parents to my grownup kids and good grandparents to my grandkids, i am a HAPPY man.. Thanks for sharing. Welcome always. Cheers. Professor
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@laniekins (4585)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
I can feel you really are a good son and parents to your kids. I miss my father, thanks for reminding me of you.
• Philippines
25 Jul 10
i have not been a good daughter because i never did what my parents wanted me to do. I didn't agree with how they run things at home and how they made me feel that i was the least favorite child. But now that i have daughters of my own there are a lot of things i realize and appreciate about my parents. Oh and by the way, I was not a good daughter but I did not become a bad person. :)
@laniekins (4585)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
When Im at home, my mother always gets angry or annoyed by me. She always tell me to the household choirs which I really hate but I still do some cleaning and washing plates, but not cooking. Sometimes I feel that she favorites my brothers and sometimes I feel that she favorite me. Its like upside down, being a not so good daughter doesn't mean you are already a bad person.
@juryse (753)
• Philippines
25 Jul 10
I think I am a good daughter to my parents. I may not be perfect but I do my part as their daughter as part of their family. I do not forget my obligations to my family.
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@laniekins (4585)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
Good job, I also never forget my obligation to my family. Even if my salary is so low, I still give part to my mother.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
24 Jul 10
I have always tried to be a good daughter. I might not have always agreed with my parents, but i always had respect for them. There were times when I might have wanted to do things my own way. Still, I would do my best to be a good daughter to my parents. I hope my own children feel the same for me.
@laniekins (4585)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
I'm sure they are. As long as you set the good example to them and you teach them good manners.
@Skade24 (750)
• Romania
24 Jul 10
I think i am, i have 2 brothers and one sister. I`m doing my best to be a good daughter, i listen my parents to what they have to say, and when i was young i did what they told me too, without saying a bad word to them, because they were and are my parents, i think that makes me a good and obedient daughter, my mother is closer to me than the other brothers of mine.
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@laniekins (4585)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
Wow, I think you really are a good and obedient daughter, I want to have a daughter like you in the future. Keep it up!
@PDBME2 (1023)
• United States
24 Jul 10
Honey I think you tried to be the best daughter possible but you have to understand that you are growing up. You must want to find your own happiness in some way. I am sure your parents will eventually find this out that they can't hold on to you forever. I think there are ways of slowly letting go in both directions without being bad to one another. I am 42 but not everything I have done has pleased my parents, yet we love each other.
@laniekins (4585)
• Philippines
24 Jul 10
yes I am but so sad that my mother cant let go of me and think that I have my own mind to decide for myself. She even told me that I should have let her know if Im going out before preparing to go out. I dont know but I am 30 and I dont think that's unnecessary. I can tell her I'm going somewhere if Im ready to go.
@PDBME2 (1023)
• United States
24 Jul 10
Out of courtesy I told my parents where I'd go and how late I'd be. I think you should because you just don't know how parents worry about their children. My mom still tells me stuff like I married the wrong man, I'm not doing my parenting right, I need to dress up more, and one time she even asked what I planned to cook only to tell me that she could do it better. As you get older parents can become like children. At 30 I'm sure you are kind of wanting to start your own life. I know my parents would be annoyed at their children while we grew up but as soon as we started leaving they wanted to still have us at home. I love my own kids so much that I can understand how they might have felt. My kids are small still but one day they will want to leave then I might get drastic like your mom to tell them stuff...lol. Just hang in there and remember they do it because they love you, because you have been a good daughter.
@laniekins (4585)
• Philippines
26 Jul 10
Actually I tell her when Im already dress up and about to go, but she wanted it prior to preparing, prior to taking a bath and dressing up. This sounded like I am an elementary, asking her parents that if she can go outside. Anyway, thanks for bringing back the confidence that I am a good daughter, god knows I am trying.
@ucs2121 (33)
• India
24 Jul 10
I will try to be best son but not due to my love stories with a girl of not our community. My parents did not happy with this. And also many matter when differences arose between us. Hence I think I am not a good son for my parents
@laniekins (4585)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
Parents are sometimes against our choice of person to love. Even mine, but I will prove them wrong. As long as you love the person and as long as that girl loves you too and is a good girl, then fight for it. You can never erase the argument between your parents. Just don't say anything bad and do not hurt them physically.
• India
1 Aug 10
From which country you belong. In my country cast ism is the main problem. I know I love a good girl but all the thing is hide behind cast ism. I can not proved that we are right due to cast ism. Thank God you proved them wrong.
@dilrajj57 (1759)
• Pakistan
23 Jan 12
yes why not, about you, you good to your parents?
@laniekins (4585)
• Philippines
25 Jan 12
No, I don't I will ever be good daughter to her but I'm trying.
@george000 (166)
• India
27 Jul 10
I also a good daughter because I never go again to my parents and I am always listening to them and what ever they plan for me I am always agreeing with their decision .When ever they have me to finish my studies .They always concern about me and me too to them.
@laniekins (4585)
• Philippines
28 Jul 10
Well, congrats for being a good daughter. I only know few child who follows what their parents said.
@wase09 (21)
• Colombia
24 Jul 10
I think I am a good son. Diferent, but good. My family, a christian family, ans a son(me), atheist, is not a good combination. Althought they understand they have to respect my believes, there are always sort of things. I think I am good with htem. I try not to be a pest, and explain them I a diferente to them, but I am their son. I keep on studying. I am not an example, but I think its ok. :)
@laniekins (4585)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
I can relate to that but we have the same religion. My two siblings convert into Christian and the rest were Catholic. My mother and sister attend mass with my Christian siblings. Its ok to them to atleast attend the mass even if my sister and mother are still Catholic.
• Brazil
24 Jul 10
I think that i am an ok daughter but i feel a little bit of pressure though.I am an only child and I kinda feel like all bets are on me, you know...Also, I want to be able to help my parents and give back to them as i am aware of many things they have given up because they thought of me first and what would be better for the familly as a whole.But yeah i want them to be really proud of me.
@laniekins (4585)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
Yeah, being an only child puts a lot of pressure. I didn't feel it much cause I have 8 siblings and I am the youngest.
@weraful (58)
• Bulgaria
24 Jul 10
Hi all :) I can say honestly i am verry bad son :( I shall change it :)
@laniekins (4585)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
You really shall change for the better. Step by step, little by little. Goodluck!
@satylot (98)
24 Jul 10
I was a good son before I went to my college but if i know think of myself i think that i have lost many of my characters for which i was loved by my parents.. As the time passes you have to change yourself to it..
@laniekins (4585)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
I think because we are growing up and we have our own decision and parents sometimes forgot that we have our own mind. They actually think of us as a baby forever.