Would you love someone who is younger than you?
July 24, 2010 7:59am CST
I have a friend, a girl who has been proposed by a boy who is ten years younger than her.....the guy says that he has been loving my friend since childhood and that he has been admiring her stealthily since many years and that he has feelings for her but he was afraid to tell her. When she analized the situation she find that everything the guy is saying is true. Now she is in confusion she does not know what to do. But she is not sure about her feelings for him even if she is attracted the him. Should she accept this love...10 years difference and moreover the boy is a nephew of the girl by the family ties.
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• United Arab Emirates
24 Jul 10
I had this problem right from my college days. Girls a lot younger to me have been proposing me and i have been having a difficult time making them understand that it will not work. It also happened after my marriage a neighouring girl who is just 16 proposed me. I had tough time with this one as well...i told her that i am married and explained about the age difference. Luckily she understood things and she takes me a good friend now.
25 Jul 10
I don't know. It really depends on the couple if they don't really mind the age difference. Its just other people who give too much emphasis on age. And one reason that it has been thought that the boy has to be older than the girl is because people have always deemed older women as not capable of having children. But if they really love each other, it should not matter.
24 Jul 10
aww thats so sweet ^^ he has been loving her since childhood and knows all details about her thats why she said that all he said was true. she should go out with him and see if she loves him too^^ he is a special guy she shouldnt waste the opportunity to at least let him show what he feels ^^ even if they dont become lovers they can go out and see what happens^^ about family ties is ok what matters is that he loves her really for so long and if she feels attracted to him she should go out with him and see^^that guy is so cutee
24 Jul 10
I am in a relationship right now with a guy who is 6 years younger than I am. We never talk about the age difference because we both believe that age won't matter when we both love and understand each other. Regarding your friend's situation, if she feels that the guy is mature enough to handle the relationship and you get along well, why not consider it. But, if she does not love the guy, then forget it. Do not force love to appear. Since you mentioned that she is not sure of her feelings for him, then take some time to get along with him. About the family ties, here in the Philippines, what the law prohibits is marriage between relatives within the 4th civil degree. This means that 4th civil degree is until your first cousin. In other words, you cannot marry your brother, father, grandfather, your father's brother and your first degree cousin.
24 Jul 10
Thanks for the nice advice...you are right if you really love a person age barrier is not a problem....if my friend is not sure about her feelings then she must take some time to consider this relationship. Here in my country there is no law regarding weddings in the close family.Bye
• United States
27 Jun 11
Well... She needs to find out what the family will say. If that causes a big problem, then it may cause problems in the marriage. Second, she need to know she is ready to love him, not just be attracted to him. Third, she need to figure out if the age difference is going to bother her. If it is, don't go forward. If it's a problem now, it will most certainly be a problem later, only worse because she'll be married to the problem. Finally, whatever she chooses, she needs to be very firm in her answer. If it is yes, then YES. If it is no, then NO! None of this 'well sort of, kind of, a little bit, maybe... not sure'. No, be absolutely SURE of what she thinks, and then go for it.
27 Oct 10
Not really. I'm married and I could foresee any reason why I could love someone much younger than myself. I think five years is personally my limit, as I think it's slightly creepy when a 30 year old dates someone who's 16 or even if an older guy was. It doesn't really bother me if an older women is with a younger guy because they generally know what they want. I couldn't though for these reasons.
1 Aug 10
Yes, it happened on me. I really like this girl, we used to play together in the past, i'm 3 years older than her, i think that she likes me, actually i'm not sure and i'm not goona tell her ever that she's my first love, but i was just wandering, is it strange to like a younger guy?? haha
28 Jul 10
I don't mind as long as the guy is matured bacause sometimes we can't base a persons maturity with his age. But i think 10 years is too much. If the man is older by ten years with the woman that would be a lot considerable than a woman 10 years older than the boy because scientifically girls matured earlier than boys.
28 Jul 10
Ya ...........what to do if my heart doesn't listen and its depend on faith.If there is love ....doesn't matter of age.........there is a saying "LOVE DOES NOT HAVE AGE".I think she should accept him if he really love her and 10 years is nothing.....we have 15 years difference between me and my husband.
28 Jul 10
Before, when it comes to love, I told myself never fall for a younger guy. But to my luck, I had a bf whose 5 years younger than me and my present is a few months younger than me. Few years is still ok but 10 years is a not for me. If she loves that guy then go for it.
26 Jul 10
Well, for me, age really doesn't matter... what matters is how compatible you are with each other. I mean, how happy you two are when you're together, or how you hold on to each other when problems come your way. I had the same situation when I was in college. I was a graduating student and he was only a freshman. I didn't have any problems with his attitude because he's a little witty and humorous, except that he was too aggressive (maybe because of his age). The only reason why we broke up is because I am feeling a lot different when the people around us know that I am already graduating and I have a boyfriend who's three or four years younger. I feel so old. Sometimes, colleagues jokingly say that it's child abuse, but it hurt inside. It's a different issue if they are relatives. In my country, they say that if a person marries an own blood, there will be complications with the baby. I just don't know if it's true but it happens most of the time.
26 Jul 10
its ok to love someone who is younger than you..in love age does not matter though sometimes it may affect the flow of a relationship but always remember that all is fair in love..the success of a relationship does not depend on age or any other reason but it is a continuous effort of both parties..=)
26 Jul 10
The boy younger by ten years , no the age difference is simply too much. This sort of alliance won't work. The girl would soon turn old and boy's interest in her would wane away. Moreover, she is not sure of her feelings for him. It is not good to marry someone whom you do not love. Besides, the boy is related to her. That is making the matters worse. The girl must think over.
25 Jul 10
you know this kind of relationship been confusing me for a long time seeing it happening with people around me and even when i was single i was trying to convince my self that it is ok if this was the only obstacle on the way but all the time i had the feeling of the elder sister or even mother!!! something i couldn't deal with and when we come to logic for the elder women we all know that women age faster then men and in this case ten years is a perfect disaster for here even if she was at her 30's by the time she become in full need for care and stablty he will be at his peek of manhood of course she thought of this don't let here do this the is throwing her life into abyss.