decisions, decisions....

Philippines
July 25, 2010 7:00am CST
have you ever made a decision wherein it hurts both yourself and someone, but because it will be for the both's peace and sake, you have to push through it? can you tell me about it...
5 responses
@ada8may21 (2419)
• Philippines
25 Jul 10
I can still remember that I've been in that situation. Where I made a decision that crushed my heart because I need to let go of someone that I really adore. I need to let him go in favor of my friend. I caught them having an affair without my knowledge of course. Then I just decided to stop our relationship without listening to his explanation. What for? I already caught them in bed. Six months had passed and I really in terrible situation because I keep on missing him but that is stupidity
• Philippines
25 Jul 10
I assure you that it is a wise decision. I am sorry about it, but it will be better for you without him...it is also bad of your friend to do that to you. I hope you will feel okay in time...it is not easy to forget, and you are not stupid for missing him, coz i am sure there are lots of good memories. But i hope you will get over that soon, and please, don't listen to him even if he begs you...be happy. =)
@ada8may21 (2419)
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
A wise decision that would give me peaceful life. I will get over this one soon. I am just taking it one step at time. Yes you are true that good memories are really difficult to remember. But they are just there to remember and nothing more.
@meemingNEW (2228)
• Philippines
25 Jul 10
The only decision I made that hurt me and my ex was when I turned down the chance of rekindling our relationship the 3rd time around. We dated for more than 6 years. He was my high school sweetheart all throughout up to our college years.. When we broke up the first time, I dated another guy and he did dated other girls too. But when we saw each other again 8 months after breaking up the first time, we just fell in love with each other over again. As what they say, "Love is sweeter the second time around". We swore we'd be together for always this time. But we were both wrong. There was already that "GAP" and that we just can't get along well as how we did before. Our second chance lasted for 3 months and so we broke up again for real.. He wanted we back again but I just can't imagine being with him even though I still loved him with all my heart. That happened last February 2009. I broke his heart as well as breaking mine. Decisions, decisions really... at the end of the day, all that matters is what really makes you happy.
• Philippines
25 Jul 10
well, if at the second time that you've been together, you feel that there's already a gap, then I guess, it's better that you give each other the freedom and liberty to meet other people than to trap yourself into a relationship with a broken notch...i wish you the best next time around...whether with him or with a new guy.=)
• India
25 Jul 10
Yes in life i have made that decision once. I chose my parents over my love as she wanted me to elope. I refused to do that and though it hurt me of being seperated by my love i believe that nothing would hurt more than staying away from my parents and their unending love. And later when i stopped and thought about it, it seems like i had made the right decision for once.
• Philippines
25 Jul 10
well, what matters most is you made a decision you didn't regret. and maybe you arrived at that decision because there is someone else that is really meant for you and her...=)
@pinoycity (422)
• Philippines
27 Sep 10
It's part of life. Every second of life is about making decisions. Some easy, some hard and then there are the really hard ones, when it will hurt somebody you love. In this instances, you really have no choice but to follow what you know is right.
@eurekafemme (5881)
• Philippines
27 Sep 10
Yes. It is the decision my husband and I made. Well, we did not really discuss about it but it seems that this is the case. We are in a bitter relationship (long story) and because we have kids we are trying to be together even if it is both making us miserable. It is not unknown to me that there were other women that he met of whom he truly felt something , and I can tell he regret that he is no longer free to pursue any of them. (I happened to read some of his mails, bad me.) For the sake of his children and peace of everybody, except himself.... I, on the other hand, am longing for someone who will truly love me because he loves me and not because he feels obligated to do so. We are missing a lot of things in our lives. I'm longing for a loving husband who'd hug me when I'm feeling bad, take care of me even if I am not asking him to, hold my hand even if they are rough from doing all the chores, listen to me when i need someone to talk to, someone i'd love seeing first thing in the morning, and someone I can cuddle up to...and someone I will be saying I love you endlessly other than my kids.... These are just the few things we are missing out i our lives because we decide to do the right thing for the sake of the kids....