advice

Philippines
July 26, 2010 3:19am CST
i am getting married this october, im 23 y/o, could anyone share their experience and advice me of my situation..thank you
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8 responses
@puccagirl (7316)
• Israel
26 Jul 10
Congrats! I am getting married next year (in the beginning of next year), so I am in the same situation as you, but I haven't gotten very far in the wedding planning yet. Good luck with your wedding!
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@SomeCowgirl (32266)
• United States
26 Jul 10
Read my response above, and if you have any questions just ask as I'd be glad to help where I can.
• Philippines
29 Jul 10
Thank you! simple planning is enough for me..
@p3ks626 (6550)
• Philippines
26 Jul 10
Congratulations! Marriage is a big thing. It needs a lot of preparation. You need to prepare yourself financially, physically, emotionally and most of all spiritually. There are going to adjustments that you need to make, some things you dont expect that you have to do but you really have to. There are so many things in marriage life that you should be prepared of. Its fun as well as there are going to be challenges, But remember that those challenges are just there to make you strong.
• Philippines
29 Jul 10
Thank you, i know that it is not easy preparing wedding. You're right, it needs a lot of preparation, i hope i'm prepared enough to march on my wedding day.
• Philippines
26 Jul 10
I have been with my boyfriend for 13years before we decided to tie the knot. I waited so long that I want my wedding day to be perfect in every way. I was to focused on finding the perfect dress, perfect reception, perfect church, perfect hotel, etc. Everything was about making the day perfect. I forgot the essence of getting married. I was too occupied with the things I thought was important. A week before the big day, problems would still come up out of nowhere. Little things such as delay in wedding invitation distribution, RSVP issues, sudden increase in hotel rates... I was too exhausted, physically and emotionally. Then, I realized that it really doesn't matter how will I look on that day, it doesn't really matter if the food is not that great or if the quartet would be late for the intermission. What really matter is I will be marrying the one I really love and we will be spending the rest of our lives together... There's no such thing as a perfect wedding day... it may be simple or extravagant. Its up to you how you will spend the day with the one you truly love and with the people who will be there to witness the most important event in your life. :)
• Philippines
29 Jul 10
i just want it simple, we decided to invite close friends and few relatives. we even plan it to have a secret ceremony but im afraid she'l envy those women who had an extravagant marraige. i should never forget your advice about hte true essence of marriage. what matters most is how you're going to keep the promises forever.
@SomeCowgirl (32266)
• United States
26 Jul 10
First of all congratulations to you! My husband and I got married last September. Have you started to plan the wedding? let me tell you the best advice you can get is through this website, just search here for wedding advice and I am sure you'll be amazed at all everyone has learned in the past. Are you on a budget? I can definitely give you advice there as my husband and I were on a budget, I believe we spent $1500 +/-. We did a lot of things ourselves, our decorations came from our room and bathroom and from hats someone had given us. Our wedding was a themed wedding western / cowboy, and so I didn't wear a dress, and hubby didn't wear a tux. We were married at a church and even the church fees were waived as we knew the church and preacher. The cake was made by someone local, and was beautiful, the invitations were done ourselves from a kit from Michaels ( a craft store) and flowers were fake from Michaels. Food was bought and prepared ourselves, though we did a few things food related catered. Plastic silverware and plateware, and tablecloths that were cheap and on sale. You can do a lot of things for the Fall season when it comes to wedding's on a budget.
• Philippines
29 Jul 10
thank you somecowgirl.
• United States
26 Jul 10
I am hoping at this point that you have everything planned out. I had saved a lot of money by making my own boutineers, my own bouquets and my own ceter pieces. I had also made my own save the wedding date cards. The best thing to remember is that a wedding does not need to be expensive. The most important is that the people who matter the most to you are there to share your important day. I had a backyard barbeque with hot dogs and hamburgers. We had aregular salad as well as potato salad and deviled eggs. Our wedding cost us under 1000.00 including the rings and my dress. We had burned CD's and played them on a stereo instead of hiring a dj.
• Philippines
29 Jul 10
that's my problem. she's a busy buddy and im quite busy too. we only have weekend to talk each other personally. but i believe in you, what matters most is we are going to work our relationship work. hehe, i cant wait to have a baby ..=) tnx
• Jamaica
26 Jul 10
Happily married couples are committed to the goal of giving each other pleasure. You must stay focused on the ultimate goal -- which is to give each other pleasure and not cause pain. It sounds simple enough, but can be very hard in practice.For just one day, try to maintain a consciousness with everything you do, by asking yourself, "Is what I'm about to do or say going to cause my spouse pain or pleasure?"
• Philippines
29 Jul 10
yeah, it surely teach me once im in to it. for now i cant really see what's behind mariage but with your meassage, i hope it'll helps. thank you!
@weraful (58)
• Bulgaria
26 Jul 10
only i can say is CONGRATZ !
• Philippines
28 Jul 10
thank you weraful.=)
@phyrre (2324)
• United States
3 Aug 10
Congrats first and foremost. The only advise I can really give you is to communicate. It's the most important part of marriage. If you can't talk to your partner about what you're thinking or worried about or why you're mad at him then it's not going to last. Don't go to bed angry. Talk it out before you hit the sheets. I've seen so many marriages fail because the people weren't able to talk to each other, they just bottled their thoughts inside until they turned into resentment for each other. Also be willing to compromise. You're entering into a combining of two people, so your opinions and your desires are not the only ones you have to worry about. You can't always have your way. At some point your spouse has to win, so be ready for it. Know what battles to fight and what battles to let go and be sure to pick your battles carefully. If neither of you is willing to give a little to compromise then it'll never work. I've known plenty of people that divorced because of this problem, too. They were both too stubborn to give a little for the other and so they weren't able to make it work.