Do U believe in Long Term relationship with your Partner ???

@sunnycool (12714)
India
July 26, 2010 8:24am CST
Typical teens fall in love at the age of 18 and then they decide to tie the knot at the age of 20 you gotta spend the rest of your life with someone you loved which shouldn't be shocking for you.Is it that spending rest of your life with that person would be more of an imprisonment? Would you marry your love with an intention to leave them behind in a span of 10 years or so...As they "Aren't hot,Sexy,cool,happening,humourous,intelligent anymore" rather they became silly,annoying,stupid and awful ---- Just an example lol As of me i wouldnt desert my love that easily --- If you had really loved someone then you should be able to accept their mistakes,weeknesses as well. I would be there for her every day and night for the rest of my life no matter what. HURRAY!!! I just won mylot reward of ZERO cents which is weird ---and absurd too
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@hexeduser22 (7253)
• Philippines
26 Jul 10
I believe in long term relationships and one of my main goals in life is to tie the knot with my girlfriend in the future. I wouldn't think it would be imprisonment instead it would be living my days in paradise everyday or almost everyday I wouldn't leave mylot too even though I have not been rewarded with zero cents like you and life I hope mylot does not chose to leave me too
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@liaamur (417)
• Philippines
26 Jul 10
my colleague who just got married said..marriage is that happy epiphany of facing a whole stretch of future waking up next to the person you just love annoying for the rest of your life. rofl. they are a cute couple.
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• Philippines
26 Jul 10
I wish you more zero rewards to come Just Kidding
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• Philippines
26 Jul 10
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@basqui (3888)
• Philippines
26 Jul 10
well, congrats on the zero reward, Into the topic, well I wouldn't leave anyone I love if I have gotten married with her already. I've left some girls in the past though, lol. Well, at least we were not married then, harhar.
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@sunnycool (12714)
• India
26 Jul 10
I was never into any girls earlier --- almost fell for one girl in my college who turned to be a good player .Right now i'm into one girl whom i want to marry .As of the reward hope you receive one too
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@sunnycool (12714)
• India
26 Jul 10
well you have planned ahead for your wedding --- congrats
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@basqui (3888)
• Philippines
26 Jul 10
Maybe the time has passed for playing. I have a girl now and I want to marry her soon too. It's just that it's not the right time yet, maybe if the savings is enough then we could get on with the ceremonies.
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@sender621 (14894)
• United States
26 Jul 10
I will always believe in a long term relationship with my partner. If we want a short term relationship, was it worth having in the first place? When i choose to be with someone, i expect a long term commitment from them and myself.
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
26 Jul 10
yeah if you had really someone then you never get bored of them and their activities.it does take a lot of commitment to love someone unconditionally
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@bigal3 (1231)
• Thailand
27 Jul 10
I agree about the commitment and in the long run it really pays off in happiness and a satisfying long life experience togather. I wish I had been that way in my "younger days when I was with my wife instead of being a bit of a idiot like I was. To this day I still regret my actions then. The experience I feel has made me a better person for it I think and should be of value in my current relationship with this very beautiful and taented lady.
@bigal3 (1231)
• Thailand
27 Jul 10
That's "TALENTED" not whatever that word was I typed.(lol)
@mylosha (286)
• India
26 Jul 10
Hai mylotter, i alsways need to have a long term relationship. But how it is possible and what could we do to retain the relationship. The three things are very important 1.Intimacy 2.Ardor 3.Commitment. In the first category you should spend much of time together and should maintain the realm of Personality attraction. And the second aspect is very sensitive if you not have proper control then it leads to loss the relationship.But without satisfaction in the intimacy the ardor is not possible. The last and final is commitment means, you should commit each and every aspect of the person with full care. If those things go better then you can catch the passenger train rather than express.
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
26 Jul 10
you got some nice points there.i just read this --- every thing would be possible for partners who believe in each other
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@bigal3 (1231)
• Thailand
27 Jul 10
"sunnycool" I could not have said that better. I hope "mylosha" gets the point don't you?
• China
30 Jul 10
good point deep meanings clear thought
@avani26 (1518)
• India
26 Jul 10
Honestly speaking I believe in love for keeps and yes I am lucky to have married the person whom I loved and not joking but we are married for more than 15 years and we are still very much in love with each other.
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
26 Jul 10
Nice to know that you're going strong avani .it wouldnt be surprising if an indian woman says that she has been married for years
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@hushi22 (4928)
26 Jul 10
i am currently in a long term relationship right now and i believe in it. i know it's still short - 7months with him and having 3 months being apart. ouch! but i dont lose hope.
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@bigal3 (1231)
• Thailand
27 Jul 10
Hi "hush", Hang in there it will get better. Think about when he comes back and how happy the both of you will be. That I'm sure will be a"HAPPY" moment for both of you. Yes?
• India
26 Jul 10
I am expecting to have Long term relation (As I am still single). But It depends on the relationship among them, Always Long term relationship is the best to have better happy life.
@bigal3 (1231)
• Thailand
27 Jul 10
It is only if the two people "really" do love and care, and respect eachother. Not all long term relations have those two very important ingridients. Some people stay togather for convience rather than loving and caring for eachother. I was in a relationship like that and believe me it was no fun! Therefore "ALL" long term relationships are not always good ones.
@apples99 (6556)
• United States
26 Jul 10
Hi, sunnycool. first off yes I do believe in long term relationships though I know it takes a lot of work and commitment, but if I'm truly in love and there's a strong bond it will be worth it to make the relationship work, because real love is hard to find its easy to have physical relations with a person but a real bond is much more dificult to find so when and if I find it I will want to hold on to it for as long as I can preferably forever. As for the subject of marriage I feel a bit unsure about marriage because marriage is not something a person should do lightly its legally binding, and its not always easy to get out of not to mention the fact that there could be children involved down the road of married, but if one gets married it should be forever, thats why I tend to be a little confused about getting married, but I do believe in being in a committed monogamous relationship.
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• Philippines
27 Jul 10
My husband was my first boyfriend, I was 18 when we got together. so yes, I do believe in long term relationships. He was my first love.
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
oh woaaaahhhwww...thats so sweet ;)bein with your first boyfriend in your entire life...thats so rare...thats what i like too thats why so funny that until now at my age i havent yet found a prospect to be with for my entire life lol. would you believe that i always reject guys who always said good things bout me? i mean i always reject guys who sees nothing but the greatness they could thought bout me. i always thought, what if time will reverse and that how great i am they thought would turn into how worst i am they could imagine, would it be the same? would they still say "great" even how worst i am they could expect?
@liaamur (417)
• Philippines
26 Jul 10
hello sunnycool, when i met my husband i was not looking for a long term relationship. but now, i know that he will not desert me and i know that i am not going to leave his side. there are always hardships in any relationship, but when we get to this point i always ask myself if i can live without him. the answer is always: "i probably can, but i choose never to'...and it reminds me of the reason why i am with him in the first place. :) i am blessed to be in a relationship where trust with each other is absolute--i am surrounded by friends who are always heartbroken because their partners might not be as faithful as they wanted. i feel sorry for them and i help them in any way that i can, as a friend. and these things just reinforces the fact that i may never be sure of a completely faithful future, but i have faith that we will have a happy one. i hope you are well and happy. happy mylotting.
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@bigal3 (1231)
• Thailand
27 Jul 10
Hi "liaamur" My compliments to you. You seem to have a very positive attitude towards your relationship and that is one of the key factors to it being successful don't you think?
@vandana7 (98518)
• India
26 Jul 10
Sunnybunny - personally it is like trying a new dress every week. The first one is the costliest, and with each change, it becomes cheaper, and cheaper, till the last one has virtually no value, as there is little in terms of good memories to contribute. The trick is to make any relationship work. Rarely though, some relationships are destined to break. Accept that also as part of life.
@vandana7 (98518)
• India
26 Jul 10
I dont think you got it kiddo! I meant you enter into a relationship, you need to try to make it work, and only if there are truly irreconcilable differences should you break the relationship. I also meant to say, you think your second relationship will be better than the first. But that is not true! By the time you get into second relationship, you already have some responsibilities and less time to enjoy and build up some memories that keep the relationship ticking. It goes on till the last relationship may just be one night stand. Ask Tiger Woods, he would be able to express what I am trying to say better. lol.
@sunnycool (12714)
• India
26 Jul 10
if you marry someone with that kinda mind then it wouldnt last longer.you gotta trust each other and wrap up things with thorough understanding than to call it quits when it comes to handling issues.
@bigal3 (1231)
• Thailand
27 Jul 10
What does "Tiger Woods" have to do with it? I think you do not get it "vandana". What Tiger did could happen to anyone male or female. In fact it happens all over the world everyday. "sunnycool" does have the right idea. It requires maturity and wether you are a teen or an adult in a relationship "TRUST","LOVE" and "RESPECT" are what keep people togather along with understanding eachother. "vandana" I have to agree with "sunny". If a person enters into a relationship with what you suggest as a way of dealing with it, the relation is over before it gets started. If You enter into a relationship with negative feelings and thoughts I can assure it will fail sooner than later.
• Malaysia
7 Aug 10
i used to believe in a long term relationship with my partner.....but i found out that she believed in something else so i'm just trying to believe in it again
• Malaysia
7 Aug 10
thanks sweet
• Malaysia
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• Malaysia
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@PDBME2 (1014)
• United States
26 Jul 10
I was watching this show called "Cheaters" and they catch a person who might be cheating on their mate. Anyhow this one guy told his girlfriend the only reason he cheated was because she gained weight. I had to laugh at that one because how many people gain weight when you get married? have children Realistically we all change in some way when it comes to long term relationships. I was looking at people who I used to go to high school with and the ones who were thin gained weight. If that doesn't hit you then you might look older due to wrinkles. Young adults who focus on outer beauty are in for some kind of big surprise.
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@bigal3 (1231)
• Thailand
27 Jul 10
if someone builds a relationship only on the way a person looks it is a relationship destined to fail. I should think one would want to have a little more foundation to their relationship than "appearence" don't you? How a person looks to another is in the first place highly subjective. Physical qualities that are acceptable to one person may not be the same for another. I agree that if a person places the most importance on "looks" then they are in for a rude awakening. "BEAUTY IS ONLY SKIN DEEP".
@ashton77 (292)
• India
26 Jul 10
I would always stay in a long term relation no matter what happens. A person becomes a part of every thing you do in life. I would never ditch her. We need to love a person not just for her good qualities but also for her bad qualities. What is better than sharing and have along term relation with someone you love truly and want her to be the every part of your daily life. 100 years the life span of human is less!!!!!
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@bigal3 (1231)
• Thailand
27 Jul 10
Yep, it is really good to have someone in your life that you love and care for as much as they love and care for you and to have that mutual respect that goes with it. Don't you think?
• United States
2 Aug 10
To me a long term relationship and a marriage are two different things. I see marriage as a trap and it having Nothing to do with love. So there wouldn't be a connection.But a true love match can last long term. I can see being connected to my guy for our share of forever. I will Never marry him because I love him. That's why I can see it lasting a very long time.
@nangisha (3496)
• Indonesia
8 Aug 10
Hi Sunnycool!. I think I wanna to have long term relationship someday with someone I love and respected. I see my parent relationship its never about psychical attraction (from my opinion, I never ask them) because my mom not a beautiful woman but my dad really good looking. I never know what he see in mom except her beautiful heart but the marriage last until today. One day I ask my dad whats makes it last my dads said you must have good friendship with your spouse to make it work.
• Philippines
31 Jul 10
I never wanted break ups after the monogamy. For me, it's something very sacred. By the way, what is mylot reward of zero cents?
@rameshchow (4426)
• India
1 Aug 10
relationships are depends upon confidence, heart, mind and character. Situations may effect................
• Indonesia
20 Sep 10
Love and togetherness is a mystery, we will not know until when love and togetherness will run. we always try to do anything, so that love continues to exist for us. But business can not be done alone, couples must also have the same desire to maintain love. Mutual understanding and genuine love will always be timeless.
@rkbazad (131)
• India
26 Jul 10
hi sunnycool, i am agree with you . Teens fall in love but they dont know meaning of love but its also true that love is not dependent on age. if their love is true then their relationship will go long.
@bigal3 (1231)
• Thailand
27 Jul 10
Yep, that's how it works. It's true for adults too.