married at 60

@savypat (20246)
United States
July 26, 2010 11:26am CST
My wonderful cousin is getting married next month. She's in her sixties and this is her second marriage. She raised her two sons alone after her first marriage died and now that both sons are out of the house and on their own she has met this wonderful man and will continue her life as his wife. Do you think a marriage like this has more chance than one when you are young? If so why?
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@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
29 Jul 10
I think it's great that she has found love again. I think there is a better chance because she knows more about herself and she is more settled. I do think there are those that are so "set in their ways" that it might not work but for those that are open to a new love and a bit more aged..well..it could be the best time.
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@mayka123 (10598)
• India
29 Jul 10
They are certainly not the oldest couple to be getting married. I think the oldest couple getting married is in their 70s or 80s. I do not see any harm in a person getting married at a late age. After all her kids are settled and she would be feeling lonely now.
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@dawnald (84147)
• Shingle Springs, California
28 Jul 10
I think it totally depends on the people. If they have learned from their past mistakes, and have learned to clearly communicate what they want and need, and if they can listen to the other person's wants and needs, they have a very good chance.
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@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
28 Jul 10
I don’t know if it’s fair to generalise because every marriage is different but I would say that if a person is older and has been married before he or she will of course have the experienced behind them to know what marriage entails. I think the fact that a person is older means that usually they know themselves by this stage and have learned the ability to communicate and compromise which are two necessities to a successful partnership. So if the two people are older it may be a benefit although as I said everyone is different.
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@andy77e (5165)
• United States
27 Jul 10
Generally the chances are higher. The school of hard knocks can teach people humility and maturity, in a way that no young person can really grasp, and few parents do well teaching. So that's one plus. The other sadly, is that the less time you have, the better chance you have at making the most of it. Older folks tend to not make small issues into big ones. A 20 year old may complain "I'm not going to pick up his dirty socks for the rest of my life!" while an older person would rather pick up socks and enjoy their marriage for the time they have. Sad thing people have to lose so much before they appreciate what they have.
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@mods196621 (3631)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
Married for a second time around in her 60's is just seeking for her companion. More chances for them to be happy as long as companionship is a subject matter. And if they are in their young age happy too. Both become happy if they love each other. How I wish to be happy too in my second marriage.
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27 Jul 10
I think the secret of a happy marriage is if they have a stable and strong foundation. At this stage in her life, she deserves to be happy. And maybe if she was able to save, then the financial aspect won't be a problem anymore. As long as they have respect and love for each other and they put God in the center of their marriage, then it would definitely work. Congratulations to your cousin.
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@krnavtr (285)
• India
27 Jul 10
It doesn't mean she can't get married by the age of 60's.Hope that guy is good to her and he might care as more care is needed by this age.if the feeling is there,love can happen not only for the youngsters but for for adults too.
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• United States
26 Jul 10
Hi, Pat! I don't think age has as much to do with success as attitude. When people get along well and are really good friends, it's hard for the relationship not to flourish!
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@gabs8513 (48716)
• United Kingdom
26 Jul 10
I don't think I would say that but I think it will work better as they are a lot more mature and they must really love one another if they are going to commit themselves to each other
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@jillhill (37384)
• United States
26 Jul 10
I have been divorced for over 30 years..if I met someone that suited me I would go for it again.....the one thing that is the advantage of being older is that you know what you are getting. By this age people are pretty settled in...not alot of changes coming until the end...but when you are young...people still have alot of growing to do.
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@dragon54u (31617)
• United States
26 Jul 10
I think a later marriage might have more chance of succeeding, especially after the first failed. Hopefully, the person will have had years to examine what caused the marriage to fail and recognize their own faults that may have contributed to it. If we know the cause of a problem then we tend not to repeat it! I hope your cousin and her fiance will have a lifetime of happiness together. She deserves it and he undoubtedly does, too!
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@sach143_u (859)
• India
26 Jul 10
Oh my god!!!!!!!!!! i am really surprised by seeing this discussion. I can't believe this!!! But yup off course if people want they can marry at any age, every body is having their own thinking, their own style so according to that they will survive. Any way its nice to see.
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@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
26 Jul 10
oh pat! how wonderful! its feels so good to be in love. i am very happy for them and for all you people who thinks that being in love at a mature age is going to be a wonderful successful marriage, God bless u. i have my friend here 54 and she too fell in love.. and i can see how her eyes glows when she sees the love of her life. let love grow and stay in each of our hearts. ann
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@Angelwriter (1956)
• United States
26 Jul 10
I don't know that it has either more or less of a chance then when they were young. It's possible that any chance this marriage has for being successful depends more on being with the right person, rather than the age. But, congratulations to them.
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