Handyman Skills, Do you Think it is Important for Boys to Still Learn These?

@Aurone (4758)
United States
July 26, 2010 2:34pm CST
A few days ago, I posted a discussion about if it was important for girls to learn housewife skills and so when I thought about it, I wondered about the reverse. If we expect both guys and girls to learn housewife skills, do we expect guys and girls to learn handyman skills? Is it still important for guys to be able to fix the car, fix the sick, do DIY projects and yard work? Are there still guy chores vs girl chores or do we expect a girl to be able to build a shelf, fix the sink, mow the lawn and change the oil in her car? Personally I would love for my future guy to be able to do all the handyman type work, I don't know how to do any of that stuff but I am sure I could learn. Right now I rent a condo so the handyman stuff is not a big deal, if something breaks I call the property manager, but I expect to own a home someday and then it would be nice to be able to fix stuff myself. I am useless with cars, and I have done yard work but currently I have no yard, and I hope I never have one as I am allergic to most plant pollen. So what do you think, do girls like a guy with handyman skills, does it make him more desirable as a mate? Do we expect guys to know how to do these things? And what about technology knowledge? Who gets to be the one who knows how to fix the computer in the home?
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@niairen01 (1018)
• Philippines
26 Jul 10
well, it's a plus. just imagine a man without these kind of skills... and their (he and his wife) table broke.. His wife would grab a hammer and start fixing the stupid table while the husband just stand there and watch.... lol! not really a great sight isn't it? and would MEN allow this kind of scene.. oh this will totally melt their ego!!! I grew up with "my Father can fix anything!" family. I used to admire my dad who is an Electrical engineer who could fix all the broken appliances, install burglar alarm (since he was working abroad and would come back a year or so leaving his wife and 2 daughters behind), do all the carpenters job.... so with this kind of setup, I grew up to like guys who are very reliable with these kind of stuff. But, if a girl really loves you.. she'll accept you for what you are. ^.^
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@Aurone (4758)
• United States
27 Jul 10
Interesting scenero. lol. My mom was the fix-it woman. I can't even imagine my dad fixing a table or anything else. He dealt with the electronics in the house and nothing else! I guess it is all in what you grew up with.
@niairen01 (1018)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
Yes, maybe. ^.^ That's why I rate my husband 3 out of 10 with this kind of things. Since he can't do a single thing! well, he is trying his best but it always ends up a disaster. So when our things got broken here at house, I'd rather call the carpenter than make it worst with his hands. lol!
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@Aurone (4758)
• United States
29 Jul 10
And he probably thinks he can fix it too. lol. Hopefully not too many things break.
@speakeasy (4215)
• United States
26 Jul 10
These are not "handyman skills" or "housewife skills" - these are LIFE skills. Every person should be able to take care of common everyday tasks themselves. There are basic tasks that every person should learn how to do. Everyone should know how to change a tire or cook a meal; hang a picture or wash the dishes; mow the yard or take care of a minor injury. After the basics are learned; then, if a person discovers they are interested in a particular area; they can learn more about that area. Not everyone who can cook wants to cook gourmet meals and not every one who can change a tire or change the oil in a vehicle wants to learn to be able to rebuild a engine or transmission. My husband and I can both cook a meal or do minor car repairs; but, we both have skills we have developed that complement each other. He does more of the work on the house and I do more of the "technology".
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@Aurone (4758)
• United States
27 Jul 10
Well put speakeasy. I am glad you and your husband have complementary skills and are willing to help each other to develop a harmonious household.
@speakeasy (4215)
• United States
27 Jul 10
We both made sure our son has the basic skills he needs for "survival". He can do all the basic tasks (whether he enjoys them or not). He will make some lucky person a wonderful spouse someday.
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@Aurone (4758)
• United States
29 Jul 10
That is good. My brother's wife cannot cook she had a hard up bringing so I bet my brother's wishes right about now that he had learned to cook from my mom. lol. It is good that you are teaching your son how to be self-sufficient.
@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
26 Jul 10
Learning any skills is good for both girls and boys. It likes completing the education they are learning at schools. In the end, every skill will benefit them when they grow up and live in society, in real world. So, I always encourage my nieces and nephews to learn more skills at their holidays.
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@Aurone (4758)
• United States
27 Jul 10
That is good. I really wished schools still offered shop and "life skills" as it is called now and that you had to take one or the other or both in school. I took neither and I could use some of those skills right about now.
@AutumnGold (1062)
26 Jul 10
Hello Aurone. I think kids of both sexes should be taught these skills. Some women live alone and they haven't got a clue how to change a fuse in a plug or replace a washer in a tap. My dad taught me these things when I was young, I used to watch him doing repair jobs around the house and he patiently talked me through things and let me have a go myself. I can do basic emergency stuff and put shelves up, decorate, just every day things really but I'm glad my dad taught me becsuse when I'm on my own and something needs to be fixed I know I can do it :)
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@Aurone (4758)
• United States
26 Jul 10
I agree. So many of us leave our parents homes now and live on our own, we don't go from our parents home to being married anymore. So we need to be able to take care of ourselves and that involves being able to do those small repair jobs. I wish someone had taught me those repair skills before I left home.
@cher913 (25893)
• Canada
26 Jul 10
i think its important for both boys and girls to learn handyman skills. a guy should know how to cook a meal and do laundry and a girl should know how to change a tire andstuff like that.
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@Aurone (4758)
• United States
26 Jul 10
Agreed. You never know who will be home when and will need to be able to do whatever needs doing, our lives are so hectic now sometimes we cannot wait for our partner to come home and do or fix something.
@deebomb (15323)
• United States
26 Jul 10
in my opinion both boys and girls should be taught both house keeping and handy man repairs. One never knows when they will need to fix something. My daughter just had to fix the kitchen sink drain because it was time for her husband to go to work and he didn't have time. The sink could not wait for him to get home the next morning.
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@Aurone (4758)
• United States
26 Jul 10
I agree. Both girls and guys should learn both types of skills you never know when you might need them.
@pastigger (618)
• United States
26 Jul 10
I know that my parents taught me how to do things for myself. As a girl I know how to change the oil in a car, not that I do it. When I bought my first car my mom taught me how to change the tire in case I needed to do it, that came in handy and let me tell you I change a tire in a dress and didn't get dirty! It was good I knew how I didn't have a cell phone then and there was no one around. I know how to replace a light switch or a wall plug. I can hammer a nail and even helped my parents when I was young reshingle the roof. I am not as handy as I used to be as it is my husband who does most of it now and that is what he prefers and I don't mind. My husband is very handy and has saved us thousands of dollar with different home repairs that we didn't have to pay someone to do. And if he doesn't know how to do it he either reads about it or asks someone in the family so he can learn to do it. He does some electrical (replaced about every light in the house and installed a celing fan in our office where there was not light at all) He has replaced doors, front door and sliding glass door. He does the yard work. He put in speaker on our paito. He has replaced toilets and sinks. Put in light switches where we needed them. I do think that is importaint to know these things and to me it makes my husband more of a man because he knows these things. He replaces breaks in the cars and other things if he can. It is getting harder to do car repair with some of the newer vechiles. My husband is more into technology then me and he usually fixes the computer, if I can't figure it out. He is totally in charge of the sound sound with our tv. I am allowed to use it but I don't mess with the setting! I think everyone will be better at some things than others but you should at least know how to do it. My husband is so handy usually family gets him over to their houses to help out with things, he gets tired of doing that sometimes! You should at least know how to do things and then if you want to pay someone else to do it that is your choice but it is best to have the choice not just stuck depening one someone else all the time.
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@Aurone (4758)
• United States
26 Jul 10
Sounds like you have a real handyman there. But it is good to have some knowledge like you say, it can save you a lot of money. My Mom learned how to tile a bathroom so she could save money. I don't know anything about cars which is why I have roadside assistance, especially since where I live it is real easy to get hit while changing a tire, several people a year die here because another driver hit them while they were pulled off the road changing a tire. I would probably qualify as the computer person if I were in a relationship, if I can't get it going then its time to take it to the professionals.
@shockrayz (200)
27 Jul 10
It will be important since it will be an extra talent for boys to learn that handyman thing. They can also use that talent in everyday life. Besides, there's nothing to lose in learning that.
@babyEj (1525)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
I and my husband are helping together most all of the time building and finishing our house. I am the helper and the brain of the tiny things. I know how to saw woods and steels. I know how to mix sand and gravel with cement. I learn these things from watching my father, uncle and husband doing it.