how will you know your lover is cheating on you?

Philippines
July 26, 2010 7:03pm CST
its simply hard to know that the person who you love and who you think is true to you is cheating on you. Share your experiences or maybe ideas.
14 responses
@besthope44 (12145)
• India
3 Aug 10
True love is trust without expectations.
• India
3 Aug 10
I can make out by the way he loves and care about me.A person who cares and love to much is changing day by day means he is cheating me but then I leave him and I will not ask anything to him because I only wanted the truth I go after him and find he is with some one there is no point of loving him.It is better to go for some one who loves you more then your boyfriend and keeps you in peace that is enough.there is no reason of feeling sad or be in depressed.So be happy and lead your life happily.
• India
30 Jul 10
It didn't happen with with me till now that my present boy friend had ditched me but if my boy friend ignores my calls, if he denies to meet me,if he says that he is very busy every time etc.... then I will think that my boy friend is ignoring me.
@maylaine (444)
• Philippines
28 Jul 10
as a woman its usually our instinct that tells us that our loveone is cheating on us..you can feel it! and sometimes in their action it shows that he/she is falling out of love.If she/he is not doing the same thing he/she doing before i think that is also a hint.
@maean_19 (4662)
• Philippines
28 Jul 10
I think the best way and most reliable is "women instinct"...Suspicion sometimes may be improper because it may lead to argument or fight because in a relationship there has to be trust. However, there is this instinct of ours that sometimes lead us to feel that there is some thing wrong. If the instinct is there, that is the time you need to be observant with your partner. His behavior and the way he reasons out are just the apparent signs or symptoms that he is cheating. Behaviors that are out of the routine or normal actions. The signs: He has many alibis. His tone is loud when you question about his whereabouts. He goes out more often than the usual. He stays up in the office or work, though he is not there. He gets out when someone is calling or he does not want you to hear conversations when someone calls him. There are extra sweetness. Those are just the few signs.
• India
28 Jul 10
Hey shiquitatw, thanks for writing though i didn't taken out this topic but thanks it will help me a lot....
@ketybhagat (4125)
• India
28 Jul 10
Actually, the best part is the whole world knows your partner is cheating on you and you are the last person to know it. Its sad but true, for we often wear blinkers where our loved ones are concerned. When you feel neglected, you put it down to his or her being tired. We try and make excuses for their behaviour. But as our other mylotter has put it very very plainly, telling you all the signs of being cheated, then let your antenna be up. Work around the problem and see it with your open eyes. I sure hope you will not have to revert to this, but if need be, be brave and face it. Good luck.
• India
28 Jul 10
To tell somebody's nature , it is very difficult. But you can catch your lover whether he is cheating or not , just look on his eyes deeply,try to find he cares your word or not or whether he is following whatever you are saying like before or not.If he is doing something differently like previous than you can notice something from his nature.
28 Jul 10
if she always look pretty and sexy, when she go out for a meeting, and she will be late at your dinner.
• China
27 Jul 10
I will not suspect my lover in any situation.I think we must believe other side base our love.Cheating doesn't exist in lovers.when love is not exist,then cheating followed.But another condition is goodwill cheating.It's a good ability to distinguish the goodwill cheating and cheating!
• India
27 Jul 10
The person whom I love is cheating me.At the first movement he use to contact me regularly.As the month passes he calls me frequently.I thought he is busy.I used to make a call I found his his numbers is always busy.I came to knew that he was busy with other girl.Iloved him very much and I asked him what is wrong with me.He had lie me that she is his friend girlfriend.In reality she is his girlfriend.
@george000 (166)
• India
27 Jul 10
As it is very hard understand the person whom we love.For some extend I can says that my lover is not cheating me but I used to cheat and when he came to know it,it is very hard to explain and if we cheat more and more, they won't believe us as we will be having difficult time to manage our self.
@babyEj (1525)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
If your lover says "no" to things you usually do, if your l0ver always say excuses and if your "intuition" says there's something wrong then your LOVER is cheating on you. LOL!
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
It's really hard to know unless you caught them yourself. You need to be very observant with the simple changes in your relationships. But be cautious as well because you don't want to wrongly accuse him of cheating. You must have a proof. That way he'll have no other excuse otherwise he'll fire back at you for having no trust in him. Look out for changes in the quality of attention she's giving you. They say woman have strong intuition, I say most of us were just more sensitive of other people's feelings that we tend to notice the difference more.