Do you still keep thinking about your first love?

@alienstar (5124)
India
July 27, 2010 12:18am CST
First love is always memorable in everybody's life isn't it? even though you might have separated by misunderstandings also, you will keep remembering your first love at least once in awhile isn't it? does it happen to you all the time? i do remember my first love and really feel thinking of all those beautiful time we had and it's really painful for me to think of those times, but i just cannot stop thinking about that and especially when i am alone without any work on any particular day
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@vikkitita (195)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
I had my first love 33 years ago. And up to this time I still think about him. I still even dream about him. The break up was very painful though when he was forced to marry another girl because he got the girl pregnant. However, every time I think about him, I do not remember any painful memories at all. Not even a single one. The only memories left were the happy ones. Even if I still think about my first love, it doesn't mean that I love my husband less. My first love will always just have a special place in my heart.
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
Yes my dear...that was 33 years ago. I was 15 years old then when I first fell in love. Our relationship lasted for 7 years until I learned that he was able to impregnate another girl and was forced to marry her. What happened in between the 33 years? I meet with him for coffee once in a while but I stopped doing so before it gets to a dangerous level. The feeling is still there, so as with him. I don't want to jeopardize my marriage, that's why I stopped seeing him from then.
@alienstar (5124)
• India
28 Jul 10
It is really a long time and nice to hear that you still remember him.But i feel you should need that much of control in you to decide on not meeting him ! as said, it is not so easy and in this regard i think women are stronger than men as men are usually very weak and just cannot control their emotions.Is he still in your place now?
@attente (987)
• Philippines
28 Jul 10
Yes, I can't help but think of my first love. Specially when I see a couple so happy. heheh. It makes me feel sad though but the memories with him makes me happy. be blessed! :)
@alienstar (5124)
• India
28 Jul 10
Do you feel jealous of other couples walking along happily thinking about your past? if you are young, try to find a new one and of course if you are not married now.There are enough people around who might interest you or they might be intersest din you.Life holds too many surprises to you and tomorrow you might walk out with a new one !
@attente (987)
• Philippines
28 Jul 10
I couldn't agree more alien! in God's time, I'll have a new love. Not the first, hopefully, be the last. be blessed! :)
@thesids (22470)
• Bhubaneswar, India
27 Jul 10
People who fall in love say the same thing all over the globe... Unfortunate of me that I didnt lose my first love and am happily married to her. But when I think of the nevagive happening, yes, I think I would have spent most of my day thinking about the sweet time that we shared together. A solution to this problem - may not be 100% correct - you should find yourself a new partner. You have to remember that life moves on despite all odds that might come your way and you should be prepared for the coming unforeseen future. May sound like a philosopher but the fact is this.
@alienstar (5124)
• India
27 Jul 10
You are one of those lucky ones who got married to your first love isn't it? there are a very few people like you and maybe even you sometimes do think of the starting of your love and its still nice when you both sit together and share your old stories.As you said, life moves on and everybody tends to forget their first love as time passes and get settled with a new partner in life isn't it?
@thesids (22470)
• Bhubaneswar, India
2 Aug 10
Thanks alienstar for considering me lucky. We do. We do share those memories and experiences. We are from different castes and it would not have been possible without her consent. Anyways, Yes, Life moves on and everybody tends to forget the first love if they get separated. The time varies from person to person and you have to be patient for this to happen. Why this happens is just because humans are social beings and with time the roles and responsibilities change. They make you more mature and over the period you realize that your commitments do need you 100% attention. Other things get erased off gradually.
• India
27 Jul 10
Not at all i remember. But yes if somebody ask me who is my first love then i remember of him. Otherwise not at all i remember my first love. In fact i remember of my second love. He was cool, caring, little rough guy but very sweet to me. Somehow we broke. Because i cant marry that time when he asked me for the marry with him. I was only 18. But i still remember him and miss his love because he been so good to me. So for me experiencing the time with someone matter more then thinking about first, first and first love.
@alienstar (5124)
• India
27 Jul 10
It's easier said than done always.How long you have been together with your first love? was it only or a short period? because if it was only for a short period then forgetting is quite easy i feel as you may not be knowing hi better in that short period isn't it? to understand anything in life, you need time and without taking out time you cannot fulfill anything
• India
28 Jul 10
With my first i was around for 1 year. It was just a puppy love for us. Yes i used to love his look and his dressing sense. He was so clean guy. I was also not less than him. However we meet out except meeting at school. But there wasn't so interesting point in that and i don't remember him today.
@gabs8513 (48805)
• United Kingdom
28 Jul 10
Hi Alienstar No I don't but that is because I only found my real Love 8 years ago, even my Ex Husband who I did think I loved and in a way I did till he destroyed all in the 21 years we where married Now I could not ask for more, as the love of my Life walked into my Life when I needed him most
@alienstar (5124)
• India
28 Jul 10
It is not quite clear what you are saying over here? were you married for 21years and now separated with him? it seems from your above statement you must have joined your old love again is it? if yes, ten it is really good that you got back to your old love.But if you have married for so long, what was it that got you separated now?
@derek_a (10904)
28 Jul 10
I can well remember my first love even though it was way back in the 1960s! But I don't keep thinking about it and the pain it was when we separated. We were only kids and she was here in the UK from the USA visiting with her grandmother for around 6 weeks or so. She had to return and it was hard. We didn't tell anybody because we were afraid that people would only say that we were far too young at 12 years of age! .. It took a long time for me to stop comparing my subsequent girlfriends with this first love. But I realized one day that the past was really gone and would never come back. Never would, never could. _Derek
@alienstar (5124)
• India
28 Jul 10
1960s ! my goodness and its really good that your memories are still evergreen.Its more than half century now isn't it? but love at 12years old is not at all love and maybe it is infatuation thats all.You were too young at that time to know what is love isn't it?am i right? love will be understood only when you grow old and not at that young age.But still, i know the pain yu are experiencing of missing her
@will_win (222)
• India
28 Jul 10
Every body says and believe that first love is always memorable in their life and i believe it...........because what ever we have expressed to our first love wont be same to other ........this is what i think.
@alienstar (5124)
• India
28 Jul 10
As it was all new and experiencing everything for the first time,w e feel the opposite person as our world.W don't even like to pass a single day without him/her isn't it? it is really sweet to think of those teen days as we do miss those wonderful days once we grow old now.We also might have done many adventures to gain those pleasures isn't it?
@mods196621 (3631)
• Philippines
28 Jul 10
You know I never think of my first love again. The most thing that I always remember is my present love which he is always on my mind and causes me to live continuously. My first love is my memory which anyone passes by at this stage of life. And to think of it is happy to remember that once in our life we experience this happy feelings. A great day of us when we are still young. A great memory!
@alienstar (5124)
• India
28 Jul 10
Life passes on and so we also go on passing those younger day's.Everyone wants to stay young and don't like to pass those younger day's isn't it? but life doesn't allow this as we all grow up and later on these are only memories to remember and not anything else but still it is nice to remember those days isn't it?
@kshp_dpk (214)
• India
28 Jul 10
Yap! i still keep on thinking about my first love.everybody know that first love is the gift of god and it is memorable in our life.It is difficult to forget our first love.I always think him and talk about him to my friend.I try my level best to forget him thinking that we are not made each other but i cant forget him.
@alienstar (5124)
• India
28 Jul 10
I do have long list of friends with whom i chat a lot and so, whenever i get alone i start talking about my past affairs with all these people around to satisfy myself.I do get some relief by talking about my past love stories with someone who is close to me as the also share many thing s with me then
@Shinyqiu (119)
• China
28 Jul 10
I occasionally think about my first love.It is pure,romantic when we start to learn how to love in the heart of everybody,and it is always memorable still we get older,even though somebody marry with partner who was not the first lover. My first love happened when we study in high school.We studied,eat,played games ,laugh with together?There is no any interference of benefit between both,pure love in my heart,beautiful for me,although we graguated from high school has not contact with each other any longer,but i will wish him everyhing is good.^^
@alienstar (5124)
• India
28 Jul 10
How long you have been separated now? you mean that you were in your high school days? was it not infatuation at that time as most of them do get confused with infatuation with love and infatuation as you know is just attraction of opposite person at that teen age.But in your case, i feel you were more involved in other things like playing, eating, studying together etc and so obviously you have so much of old sweet memories isn't it?
@aurorastorm (1136)
• United States
27 Jul 10
I think of mine from time to time, like what it would be like if I wound up marrying him instead. My first love is very successful and I am sure does not have money worries like I do. So very easy to daydream about what a life would be like if I was with him still, but then I realize even people without money problems have other problems they have to deal with. So even though the grass may appear greener it seldom is.
@keshia2007r (2886)
• United States
27 Jul 10
HI & I use to be in that position. But now, I really don't think about him at all. lol. my story might be a bit different. Now my second love, felt like my first and i use to think about him all the time. But here is my story My first love was my brothers friend. I identified him as my first love because I remember liking him so much, at one point I couldnt even eat. I was maybe 14? But things happened and he bascially went the other way. His lost, not mines. So when I got to high school, I ran into my second love, and he felt like my first. He bascically made me like him. Bc at first, i paid no attention to him. So I use to think about him all the time, like he was the only guy in the world for me. lol, but now since graduating high school. we both went our seperate ways (btw he was only a crush, that we both had). but anyway. that's my story, my second love was my first, and i still think about him, as in where is he and how is he doinng. but nothing like before. he changed and not for the good. so i couldn't see myself w/ him now. plus i have a bf for almost 3 years now. long story? sorry. lol happy mylotting!!1
@alienstar (5124)
• India
28 Jul 10
At 14 years of age and liking somebody is infatuation my dear and it is definitely not love as at that age one will not have the maturity to deal with so called love and will not be knowing the meaning of love also at that age for sure.Reading your lines it is clear that you were just attracted to him in excitement at that time, but still experiencing that feeling at that age is really cute isn't it?
@bokal2703 (757)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
I think that all of us will agree that there will always be something unique with every person that we have in our lives, may it be our first love or the other exes, they left a mark in our lives that will make us remember them in one way or the other. So yeah, I sometimes think about him, but not to the point of keep thinking about him and what might have been.
@alienstar (5124)
• India
28 Jul 10
Yes everybody are unique and will also be having different kind of stories with them and it's really nice to share all such stories here that happened in each one's life.Having first love experience, marks will be obviously left in our life isn't it? when we area lone those memories will keep haunting more, but during busy work schedule isn't it?
@Sharon38 (1920)
• Jamaica
27 Jul 10
I still think about my first love and never stopped. As a matter of fact, i have no need to think of him too much because he is back in my life and we are soon to be married but I thought of him so often before that I wondered if I would meet him again or not. I am so happy.
@alienstar (5124)
• India
28 Jul 10
Oh ! this is a different story in your case and how lucky you are to get back your lost love ! what separated you two in the first case? was it any misunderstanding and if yes, don't let it happen again as i can feel the pain of losing someone so dear .Life has taught you something and you have also taken lessons to live life with your love and may you be happy getting married
@JamesKYTan (1607)
• Malaysia
27 Jul 10
I have not experienced a true first love. But from what I knew from friends, most of them treasured their first love very much. Just like in most love movies, first love is so unforgettable and it was very meaningful. I wish I had a 'first love' too! It will always stay fresh in our memory as long as we live. No wonder people used to say that 'first love always wins'
@alienstar (5124)
• India
28 Jul 10
I don't believe in your final say "first love always wins" ? what you meant by that? according to me first love always happens at young age and most of them do get physical also losing interest later on leading to breaking of their love and later on it will be sweet memory for them as they also do treasure their first experience in this field
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
27 Jul 10
I still like to think about my first love. It is a happy memory from my childhood days. I often wonder where that person is today and if they are happy. I wonder if my life would have been different if my first love was still my love.
@alienstar (5124)
• India
27 Jul 10
It seems you had your first love at very young age and also lot of time must have been passed by now isn't it? it does give pleasure as well as some kind of pain remembering those lovely days we spent with our first love isn't it? gone are those old days which are never gonna come back in life and it is the real fact of life which everybody has to just accept
@abhi000 (235)
• India
27 Jul 10
As a saying first love is the gift of god.Ya sometime i think about my first love because he is one who tough my heart and i think weather he is still love with me or not.Sometime when i am alone i use to think of him the way he talk and the smile to me.
@alienstar (5124)
• India
27 Jul 10
First love is always memorable and cannot be forgotten easily and i too agree with this.How much ever happiness, sadness we face in life, but we may not forget our first love for sure as it is the first experience of the beautiful feeling of love isn't it? more over in teenage, it becomes extremely difficult to come over the lost love but as you grow up one tends to forget first love and move on in life
@rjkmrr (172)
• India
27 Jul 10
Yea, I do remember my first love, it is not eraser able from my faithful heart. Even though he betrayed me. I don't bother whether he thinks about me or not but I keeps on thinking at least once a day. Memories still remain fresh and more sweeter than the real one. I feel closed to him specially when other guys propose me.
@alienstar (5124)
• India
28 Jul 10
About more than 90% of the people who commented here agreed that it is not possible to forget first love and its really nice to see everybody sharing their life experiences here.When we all are alone, these thoughts do cross our mind isn't ti making it painful memories and also its nice to think of all those good old days
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
first love is your first experience how to love and how to be love..your first experience being in love, hurt, betrayed and happy..all of this things are too memorable to us..and we can't deny that sometimes it come and goes to our mind our first love..but maybe that's a part of past life that should be forget and move on to the present..
@alienstar (5124)
• India
27 Jul 10
First experience of first love is exciting and i do remember my first date with my first love which is evergreen in my memory.I was so nervous on that day as i was moving out with my love with people around looking at me.Actually if you are conscious of something, people will notice you obviously and as the days passed we were moving around without looking at anyone looking at us.
@m32584 (1)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
I may agree on the memorable side of life but I don't think of my first love that much. Maybe because we remained friends after the split up. Guess the friendship that we made is more important that bind us despite the decision we made for the both us. We also made sure we accepted our decision with open mind and heart even the hurt is still there...
@alienstar (5124)
• India
27 Jul 10
It also depends on how long you have been together as if it was just fro a short period, ten chances of forgetting is more.But if you both have moved around a lot of time, you will have so many beautiful memories of your first love isn't it? but with decision between you have eben taken to remain as friends you can always meet up i believe