DO you expect a good relationship with your partners in spite of long distance

China
July 27, 2010 7:51am CST
I can not see my boyfriend for a long time. Because we work in different places. All I have in my mind is tragical end! Do you think we can have a happy end? Or how can we end with a happy end?
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8 responses
@hongocha (63)
• Thailand
31 Jul 10
sometimes distance makes you guys love each other much more.Also, there won't be daily conflicts like normal couples who hang out everyday. and both of you will feel so desperate to union and the time you share together would be wonderful. good luck
• China
2 Aug 10
but if you can't see each other for a long time, there will be conflict between each other.by the time, you can't see each other, you can not make it out clearly, so the conflicts will become too difficult to solve...then the end will become a tragic...but all in all, i hope it will be a happy ending, but who knows how would the things go ...
• Philippines
29 Jul 10
Hi, all relationships long or short distance must be worked on to succeed. It's really up to you both what you want to happen with your relationship. If you think that yours will come to a tragic end then it will because you have already decided that it will. Thus, you have decided that you won't work for your relationship as hard as you would if you saw yours lasting.
• China
30 Jul 10
thank you soraya428, what you said is accurate. but you know what, if i put all my heart to him, if in the end, we don't go together, i'm afraid i can't accept it. my heart will broken. that's really bad. i don't what i really should do. i hope Lord can send a angel to help me make a decision.haha
@simonelee (2721)
• China
28 Jul 10
Hello there. If both of you are truly in love with each other then it is possible to survive in this kind of relationship. This kind of relationship would not be easy because temptations are more higher, if one of you are weak then this may cause a heartaches. Long distance relationships are not 100% assurance that you'll end up together but if you have faith, trust, patient, understanding, care and love for each other then you'll survive. If you think that way it would end up that way because it will program you and your mind and unconsciously you'll act the way you see it and slowly change you and the way you treat your partner. Avoid this habit because i've been there and im having a hard time to omit this attitude it affects me and my partner. Just be positive and follow your heart. If you love your partner then don't mind the future, just give your best so that in the end no regret.
• China
30 Jul 10
thank you simonelee, i think i really love him. i'll try to do like what you said. you know what sometimes i just could't help it...but this time i will try my best to control myself to give him a new impression.haha
• India
27 Jul 10
As far as i am concerned about this I think that a true relationship doesn't see how far you are or how close you are.If we have faith on each other then the distance doesn't matter.Only thing is that we should have faith on each other.Sometimes a thinking comes in our mind that my bf/gf is far from me.He/she might have forgotten me.Thats natural.But from both side a word called 'TRUST' should be there.If we keep this kind of thinking in our mind then automatically the ending will be good.
• China
30 Jul 10
THANK you very much,chilex916. you are completely right. i'll try that. i hope we will have a happy ending!
@sirrob (4112)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
There are a lot of long distance relationships that end just fine and well, just like mine but I don't want to give you more hope when in fact, I don't know your real situation at all. All I can say is that, constant communication, trust and believe to God are some of the things that you guys needed in order to sustain the loneliness. Just like me, I've been thousand of miles away from my girl for more than 2 years, there are rough roads and seas along the way. It never was easy but it's not that difficult either, we just constantly communicated and now she's with me already and we are married for almost a year now. We had have our new baby boy just several weeks ago. Hope my story will give you some light and hope but just want to let you know that this doesn't happen overnight and you both have to work it out to be successful. Good luck..!!!
• China
30 Jul 10
hi,sirrob, firstly, it's very nice to hear that you just have your baby boy. it's really nice.haha. i know that constant communication, trust are very significant to people like us, but i'm afraid things just don't go on like this. seeing each other has become a problem, which is the most common things between two lovers. i don't know what it would be like in the near future. i think what i shold do is to have a peace mind to wait for the result.
@ashton77 (292)
• India
27 Jul 10
There is a saying that out of sight is out of mind. Distance does play an important role in the relationship. I was with my girlfriend for 3 years and we were happy being close to one another. Then because of some work I had to go away to a new place. Although we kept the relation for next 4 years but I could see the difference. I could sense that everything was not the same.There were lot of doubts, fights, misunderstanding which was not there earlier. We then decided to mutually end the relation. I think distance does makes the difference. Having said that it also depends on the love you have for each other and the commitment. I think my relation with my ex lacked there. Te bottom line is communication si the key for every relation to survive. The less of that will ruin the relation. Best of luck.
• China
30 Jul 10
hi,ashton77,thank you for your reply. outof sight is out of mind. this is really a good saying to describe my feeling. I don't know whether it is because i'm too sensitive, but you know things don't happen like what it should go...cmmunication is really important, i think it can help me save my relationship!
@Skade24 (750)
• Romania
27 Jul 10
I have a distance relationship aswell, and it`s not my first. I usually don`t expect anything bad, until i feel we going to different directions in life i mean. We speak on the phone every day for 3-4 hours. The secret is to keep in touch, to speak as much as you can, every day, or if it`s possible to move in the city where he works, or the other way around.
• China
30 Jul 10
thank you very much,skade24. i will try that.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
27 Jul 10
I think we would all like to have good relationships with our partners. Distance great or small should not make a difference in how you feel about each other. It's hard to be far apart from the one you love. Your heart breaks to be woth them when you can't. If your love and commitment to each other are strong and true, there is no distance that can tear your relationship apart.
• China
30 Jul 10
hi,sender621,thank you for your reply. i completely understand what you said, but you know sometimes, if two lovers don't see each other for a long time, the commitment to each other will become more and more poor...