What is the Major problem do you have right now and how do you solve it?

Philippines
July 27, 2010 10:43am CST
if not solve it, how do you deal with it? Every one of us has a major problem. It is a part of life. the question is how do you solve it or deal with this/these problem/s? The purpose of this discussion is to create awareness and other people reading this would get help from one of your intelligent ideas if ever they are encountering the same problem just like you or they will know how to handle it in the future if in case they might have similar to yours. As for me, aside from the financial problem i am having right now, I always think of how to solve this other problem I am having. I recently got involved with a fight of one married couple. the guy who is a captain of the ship is now on the sea. he is only MY FRIEND. The wife has been bugging me a lot because she traced my mobile number from all the calls that his husband has been calling. There are lots of girls also that her husband has called aside from me. But being his friend and his adviser and the one he can talk to while he was out there and nobody to talk to, I was accused of flirting with her husband which is not true. no matter how i tell the wife that i am just a friend, she still keeps on bugging me. I told her husband regarding this one and no matter how he tell his wife that i am only a friend, she still doesn't believe me. so what i did. I sent her a copy of what we have talked about the whole time when we were chatting on the internet. she was really ashamed of herself because what included in the chat was her husband's problem with her that he is not satisfied in bed with his wife! My lesson, never go beyond the usual conversation to the people you already know that he/she is committed. share your problems guys!
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8 responses
@ashton77 (292)
• India
27 Jul 10
You got a big problem. However I feel strange reading the last line. I mean why woul anyone tell about his wife on bed thing. Anyways, mine was similar. I had a friend and we were close. She made a boy friend but nothing changed between us. We would tex each other and talk with each other. One day I got a call from her boy friend and he was asking my relation with his girlfriend. I tried to make him understand but I think he failed to understand. I arranged a meeting with him and talked with him directly. He was a small guy. I am sure he got intimated by my size. I made things clear with him and told my friend that we need to go our separate ways. I lost a good friend but it's okay. If her guy felt that I was giving problem then it's better to leave them alone and out of their life.
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
Thank you for that. He told me he had this kind of problem with his wife because he is still looking for other girls out here as soon as he comes back. so i asked him why is he doing that if he is already married. so he told me the reason. and that was the reason he told me. sounds REALLY lame but then he is really persistent with his plans. plans of getting some girls here as soon as he arrives. plus there has been a lot of issues already with their marriage. But i really don't want to meddle. It is their problem but then i don't want to get involved just like the wife is claiming that i am. I am so disturbed by this but the best thing is not to communicate to neither one of them anymore.
28 Jul 10
best thing u can do..do not communicate on neither one of them.
@Metatronik (5899)
• Pasay, Philippines
27 Jul 10
Actually your story is not new to me anymore I have heard other cases that wife is becoming angry with husband's friend who happens to be a woman too then they thought that their husbands are having affair with another girl but the truth is they are not doing anything. One thing for sure that wife has insecurity problem and that is the reason why the husband is having problems with her. In my case I can't even solve my problem as of now since it is all about the salary issue that our bosses does not want to pay us. I am now seeking for justice but I have my plans on what to do. Well I don't want to divulge it first here it could be hard but later on I will inform you guys of what are the things that I've done with my problem.
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
thank you for the insight. we will be waiting for that. it might help us as well. i have also issues like that with my co-workers before.
@de_toya (2434)
• Indonesia
28 Jul 10
Currently, I don't have a big problem in my life. I have belief that there is no problem that couldn't be solved if we will. Do you remember the wise word "Where there is a will, there is a way"? I do belief that wise word. God won't never give us problem that we couldn't handle. There is always the solution for our problem. For you who has big problem right now, I suggest you keep the faith! You can solve your problem. If you can't solve this by your self, share your problem with the others. Talk with parents, friends, teachers, or others that closed to you and you believe. Always keep pray to the God and may someday He show you the way.
• China
28 Jul 10
My big problem right now is my personality. I am somewhat perfectionist. It really make me unhappy and very tired. Now I am trying to change it .Perfect is not important, the health and happiness are.
@shia88 (4582)
• Malaysia
28 Jul 10
Hi, Feel sad to read about this bad incident happened to you. Cheer up!! as long as you are not doing anything wrong,nothing to be scared about. JUst carry on with your life and enjoy your life as what you like to be. A marriage need to have a trust in order to carry on. Based on your story, the wife seem does not trust his husband and she just keep accused you of being flirting with her husband. In the first place,does she ever asked herself what is her own problem? She really need to have a good chat with her husband to solve their problem. For the time being, it is good for you to keep a distance from her husband,not to go even deeper into their relationship. I don't mean that you have to avoid his phone calls and stop talking to him,but at least,don't talk too much and get him to treat his wife better and have a good and open-minded chat with her wife directly. Never dragged their husband and wife problem for too long,or else their relationship might get sour. Stay at your own position and be strong!! Takecare!
@goldeneagle (6776)
• United States
28 Jul 10
The major problem I have right now is financial. My wife and I are really struggling, even though we are both working all that we can work, and we do not really waste a whole lot of money. The area we live in makes it hard to find good-paying jobs, because there are not too many jobs here. The only thing we can do it to keep trying...
@Skade24 (750)
• Romania
27 Jul 10
My major and stressful problem is my school. I had to finish college this summer, but i didn`t go to some exams, because i wasn`t prepared. And now i have to finish my school this autumn, or else i will have to pay some taxes, and i don`t have the money, and i will disappoint all my family and my boyfriend, if i don`t finish my school.
@vhings_88 (294)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
My mom. I never spoke to my mom for two years. She was so upset with me when I choose to settle down to the person she truly disliked. Well, I don't really know the reason why she hates my husband but still I could not talk to her until now. I miss her so much but I'm so afraid of what she's going to tell me if we meet.