What is the hardest Decisions you had to make recently?

@34momma (13895)
United States
July 27, 2010 10:46am CST
Hey Mylotters, We all have to make some hard decisions in life. Some are so much harder then others. Some are life changing. Some are heart breaking... What is one of the hardest decisions you had to recently make that was either life changing or heart breaking? More importantly... how did you pull thru it? Please share. You never know.. you just might help someone who is dealing with a hard decision right now in their life.
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@Skade24 (750)
• Romania
27 Jul 10
I have a beautiful relationship, but it is a distance relationship. So my boyfriend proposed me to move with him, in the city where he lives, and i decided to move with him there. It was a hard decision, because he lives pretty far away from me, and by moving there, i will be far away from my parents, but it`s better this way, because in my town it`s not possible for me to find a job at this moment, because of the crisis.
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@34momma (13895)
• United States
27 Jul 10
wow that is a big decision to make. I am happy for you and I wish you and your boyfriend the very best!!
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@Skade24 (750)
• Romania
27 Jul 10
Thank you very much. All the best!
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@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
28 Jul 10
I moved away from my family and all my childhood friends when I decided to turn a long distance relationship into a husband. Never regretted it for a moment. I resigned from a good job too... oh well. 7 years and kids later, I'm still glad lol.
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@juryse (753)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
I've made a couple of hard decisions in my life already. One was very personal that changed my life but I'm in a way happy that I made it coz my life is better in a way. The second one was very recent where in I decided to turn down a very tempting job offer from a good company to stay in my current office. It was hard coz if I chose to leave I would probably be enjoying my time there and the fact that I made the jump but since I've been with my current company for 5 years, this is my comfort zone so to speak. It actually took me 3 weeks to decide and it stressed me a lot. To pull through with hard decisions, you should have a support system be it your friends or family. Don't do it alone.
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@34momma (13895)
• United States
30 Jul 10
that must have been a hard one. i am like you i really do like my job and i am very comfortable here. i don't know if i would turn down a better job because i have a family to support, but it would be a hard choice to make
@Hatley (164507)
• Garden Grove, California
27 Jul 10
34momma this was not recent but so so hard. In March of 1991 my hubby had a bad heart attack and was in the ICU then I assumed he was better as they moved him into a private room. But I had visited him the night before and something told me to tell him I loved him specially and hugged him, a cold chill came over me. They called me at work the next morning, insisting I come at once,he had had another heart attack, he was unconscious and on the breathing machine. I wanted to believe he would recover, I really wanted it so bad I kind of fooled myself for a while ,. then they called me about noon as I had gone home and asked me how many times did I want them to resuscitate him and they recommended taking him off the machine, I could not do it but I asked my son , and he suggested phoning my husband's sister in WAShington state and se e what she wanted. she told us to tell them to wait until tomorrow. well an hour later the hospital called me and s aid he had just expired. so I did not have to kill him, God took him home. that was a decision everyone so blithly says oh I would not hesitate, why let him suffer. Oh yeah? wait til you are actually in that position and t hen tell me what you would do.
@34momma (13895)
• United States
27 Jul 10
Hi Hatley.. as i said in the post before this one. I had to watch my mother pass away back in 94. I was in the same situation you were in. She was in so much pain... i mean so much pain i felt it. and I asked the Dr. can you please give her something for the pain.. her moans are to much... cause i couldn't do anything. the Dr. told me we are giving her all we can. If we give her any more it will in a short while make her pass on... My brother and i spoke and we said we had to let her go... When they came in to give her the last of the medication... she opened her eyes and spoke for the first time in over three months and said to my us... Don't worry... I'm ok now. then she was gone... trust me i know just what you went thru. Oh man not a easy decision at all...
• China
27 Jul 10
For me,my hardest decision recently is to keep persistent in mylot.Could that be the answer? But it is true to some extent.You know,it is not easy for a person whose first language is not English to insist on existence in mylot.Unless for me it is quite ture.Meanwhile,my leisure time is limited and don't give me too much space.But persistence is always my particular personality and I don't give up in half way.Finaly I have made my decision ,so I am still here right now.
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@34momma (13895)
• United States
27 Jul 10
you know interacting with people here at mylot will help you out a lot with your english. i say keep coming back to mylot. it's free easy fun money
@peavey (16856)
• United States
27 Jul 10
I have decided to retire from my major job. I'm getting too old to meet the demands properly. It's hard to let go, and I will have to scramble to make enough money otherwise but I just can't do as good a job as my boss deserves, so I have told him I will train the next in line, then I'll be gone. It's a good job and I will miss the people, too.
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@34momma (13895)
• United States
27 Jul 10
wow wow wow!! now that is a bigger then big decision to have to make. even more so with the way things are with finding jobs. You are brave and i take my hat off you to. wishing you very best
@mommyboo (13198)
• United States
28 Jul 10
I just posted a discussion about it actually.... it will be a decision that isn't really mine... to move. It's a good thing, really, but it doesn't feel good to me. I think it fulfills both categories, it's life changing AND heartbreaking. Leaving my life here is never what I imagined us doing. I know I have the same chance of building the same support system and friends wherever I go but the idea of being alone and without it is crazy. How do people do it?? I won't be alone, I'll have my husband but my friends are all here . They are irreplaceable.
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• China
28 Jul 10
Oh,I have so many hard decisions in my life now. My husband choosed to start a major task,and my mother help me to take care of my kid.We moved to my husband from Shenzhen to Zhongshan,so I resign the job in Shenzhen now.---this is my first hard decisions. Because of many reasons,my mother is always desirous to leave here to homecoming.If that,it means I can't find any job to work and have to take care of my baby for myself.But that will cause our economis crisis in my famliy.If no do that,my mother is always very suffering and then I also feel sad.---So choose to let my mother come home or no is my hardest decisions.I can't really know how to choose. Thirdly,if my mother doesn't go home,I have to choose my job how to do prefectly.which industry I should choose,what nuture I should choose,where I should choose and so on so on. In brief,in my life now,I have too too many uncertainty elemnet.I always feel so tired now,but at the same time I have to deal with everything.So just wish everything will be better for my life.
@wongchoiyee (7401)
• Malaysia
28 Jul 10
My hardest decision is to make money online or work in the office. I know this will be a life changing for me that I no longer suffer under the cruelty employment of a bad boss. I was in an on off trying period whereby I work in the office and at night I work online. From 1-2 years I struggle how to stay in only one job and at last I feel that working online is much better. Although the salary is little, but I guess I am more happier. The most important that is I am happy and that is all matters.
• India
28 Jul 10
My hardest decision i make till now in my life is to be with someone i love but also different from my nationality and from my religion. We are same but we are different people. His way of living life is different and mine is different. His custom is different and mine is different. My custom is very easy and simple. Nothing much to do but in his custom.... so many things to follow and different way of living in the society. so still we are together, may be because its love for each other. So this is my hardest decision i make in life. Even still also we learn lots of things about each other every moment. It is like new living life for each other.