How to apologize your friends?

United States
July 28, 2010 1:47am CST
Sometimes,we all will make mistakes.someone will apologise quickly but others don't know how to apologize is propoly?For they afraid break the friendship again. So have you any suggest to solve problem?Maybe someday we all will come about this thing. Come on,let's talk about this topic.
15 responses
• Philippines
29 Jul 10
Acceptance is what matters most. An apology should be accepted whole-heartedly. If we all learn the essence of acceptance, asking for an apology will not be difficult.
• United States
30 Jul 10
I agree with you! thanks
@eyah04 (61)
• Philippines
28 Jul 10
when you have done something wrong or bad with your friends and it's hard to say sorry.. you just stay away or stop communicating to your friends involve for awhile and let the wound be heal...and when both parties are ready to talk about it... saying sorry is not that hard and free flow of thoughts, words will be utter and at the end of the conversation i hope that there will be a reconciliation...
• United States
28 Jul 10
thank you I will try like that.
• India
28 Jul 10
Hi, More important than apology is sincere repentance. If one doesn't realize his mistakes then there is no use apologizing. If you do that, it will appear as if you are forcing yourself in making up with him. First of all, we should try to let go of our ego and think about what we've done. We have to identify our mistakes and take all responsibility of that. Once the realization is complete, which should be reflected by the repentance, the rest becomes quite easy. You go to your friend and tell him that for the past couple of days you've been in terrible discomfort. Let your friend ask about it. Then you tell him that its about him and about something you've done. Then tell him everything and then just say this words, "I was ignorant, I don't know what I was thinking then, but now I've realized my mistakes. Will you be able to forgive me?" Your friend should forgive you at this moment, but it actually depends on how sincerely you feel sorry for what you've done. Give your best efforts in it and you have the best chance to be forgiven. Even after giving your best, if your friend is not ready to forgive you, then give him some time. Be sure to do that. Let him get over the shock. He will understand and forgive you someday. But you have to wait patiently for that. In the best case, you may be forgiven right then and there. Thanks God bless you
• United States
28 Jul 10
Thank you! your written is very detial! oh,thank you.now I realize that let ego go and humble,sincerely is very important for apologise. thank you of all,my friends.
@Skade24 (750)
• Romania
28 Jul 10
First of all you can talk about your last discussion with your friend. Explain your friend your point of view, and listen to him/her to see his/her point of view, try to understand him/her, and then say where do you consider you have mistaken, and then apologize for being so selfish, and saying those things, or doing those things to him/her.
• United States
28 Jul 10
yeah.you are right I can appointment him do like you said! I appreciate you very much.
• Philippines
28 Jul 10
to apologize is so easy to do,if you are sincere to do it. but if not.. rather not do it,it's useless because it will reflect your words. don't forget .. action speak louder than words.
• United States
28 Jul 10
sincere is most of important!yes,I got it.just like your name.haha thank ya
• Jamaica
28 Jul 10
I know that sometimes it is hard to say Sorry even if you know that you were wrong but don't let pride get in the way of a friendship. No matter how you do it, you have to say I am sorry. The longer that you wait the more your friend may hold on to bitterness.For some friends, a long-distance apology is best.But never try to say sorry until both you and your friend have cooled down. Other people find that face-to-face apologies are preferred, apologizing from a distance can be better for others. Sending a carefully crafted letter or note to the offended friend can be a way to apologize without confrontation. Eventually, the letter will need to be followed by a personal visit for the rift to be healed.
• United States
28 Jul 10
Yes.your methods is good and I prefer apologise via messages/letters more.For sometimes I really cannot utter a word. Thanks
@antilove (191)
• Vietnam
28 Jul 10
We live in Asian countries, so say apology directly doesn't happen naturally. We prefer indirect ways. There was one time when I made my lover sad. I felt that saying sorry to him was so hard. Then I made a small box with some decorations inside with the words "I'm sorry". I gave the box to him, and from that he felt happy again. A nice way, ryte?
• United States
28 Jul 10
Wow,a romantic apologise way~haha yeah,that is a good idea.we should take a indirect route. by the way,your way is really creativity. :P
• India
28 Jul 10
when it comes friends it necessary that one should be helpful,sacrifice ,apology and should maintain a never breaking bond
• United States
28 Jul 10
got it.thanks
@rosebinas (181)
• Philippines
28 Jul 10
If you've done or said something that has offended someone without meaning to do so- a light apology for such blunder might be educated enough.
@voga91 (10)
• Malaysia
28 Jul 10
People are different, we all different. The best way to start a nice relationship again after having some mistake is to admit it first. It's solve many problems after one had admit his/her fault, and apology is something that only a method of showing your admittance of your fault. What I practice is that or what I prefer is actually for my friends to just admit their fault if they did something wrong to me, and that's all I ask for.
@george000 (166)
• India
28 Jul 10
When I am making mistake at that time I usually say sorry and I will not repeat it again and I usually explain the the thing according too the what happened at first and what will be the result and all.We should not thing our self as a great and be demanded and we should respect others.
• India
28 Jul 10
Its simple. Say sorry with true feeling being wrong to him/her. I am girl so if i have to convince my friend then i would buy card and soft toy for her.
• India
28 Jul 10
Always try to apologize your friends if you have done mistakes either by writing on piece of paper 'sorry' or by sending.Never keep things not saying for longer time your friend might feel bad of you.
@xylem916 (95)
• India
28 Jul 10
Before we apologies to your friend firstly we should try to let go of our ego and think about what we have done, we have to identify our mistakes then only apologies to your friend. Unfortunately if we come across the mistake with friend, simply say sorry that will enough.
• Philippines
28 Jul 10
Asking for an apology won't make us less a person. The very requirement to bring is humility and accept that in a way, we have offended or hurt a friend. A simple "sorry note" with lots of sincerity i think would be a great help. The note will then be the very means to start a good talk and settle the issues involve.... The very key there is be humble and sincere enough to show to that friend, you are really sorry for offending him/her.