Do you think, you need to explain yourself to others?

Philippines
July 28, 2010 2:14pm CST
Good day to you fellow mylotter, I am a type of person who really loves to be quiet. Even there is a discussion around, I am not the type of person who will try to butt-in and contribute any unnecessary idea. I rather keep quiet and just smile than to butt-in an unsolicited idea. And for this reason, there are times, I am misunderstood. And thru this reason, there are times, I want to explain my side. I want to say to them, that, I am just a simple and quiet person. How about you, do you think that you need to explain yourself to others?
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16 responses
• Regina, Saskatchewan
28 Jul 10
In real life, in a perfect world, we would never have to explain ourselves. But sadly, we don't live in a perfect world. So yes, there are times when we need to stand up for ourselves and help the people around us understand us better. Never be afraid to stand up for yourself airasheila, as long as you do it with respect. You may find that being a quiet person keeps you from confrontation, but it also keeps people from getting to know you better. Sites like this are actually very good for helping quiet people come out of their shells and gain confidence. I wish the best of luck here and look forward to watching you grow..........
• Regina, Saskatchewan
28 Jul 10
WHAT does this comment have to do with this discussion or my response to airasheila? HOW RUDE! And meluan, calling someone a racist (as you did on the thread that started your vendetta against me) is grounds for banning here. I'd be very careful if I were you. Airasheila, my apologies for this person bringing their petty arguements into your discussion. It is unfair and unnecessary.
• Regina, Saskatchewan
28 Jul 10
First ANYONE can respond on ANY thread anywhere on site. It's called discussion. And as your response here was slamming me and Annie, of course I stood up for myself. The rudeness was in your bringing your problem with Annie and me to this thread! Like DUH! Now, I am NOT going to spoil someone elses thread by getting into another argument with you. Got it? Good!
• Regina, Saskatchewan
28 Jul 10
As for the 'tag', I don't know what one you mean. But I can assure you, whether you believe me or not, that I NEVER tag other people's discussions, only my own. A little paranoia surfacing there meluan? Ascribing to others what you do yourself?...........
• Jamaica
28 Jul 10
I came across this line at a friend's website: "Never explain yourself to anyone. Because the person who likes you doesn't need it and the person who dislikes you won't believe it." It made me realize that, yeah, it's true. People have their own impressions and assessments of others. Whatever they think, you cannot change. Even if you do everything possible to please them-if they never liked you to begin with & have this negative impression of you based on hear-say or reputation. Whatever you say or do doesn't matter.
• Philippines
29 Jul 10
Good day to both of you, You are absolutely right Shiquitatw. You almost given the perfect response.
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
You are not under any obligation to explain yourself to other people unless someone gets offended or in any material way affected by your conduct. You are a person of your own and you should not change to fit in and be pleasing to everyone's eyes. I can relate to your situation. I am also a quiet person. I only speak when I need to, and I filter my words because I'm not comfortable of saying nonsense stuff. I know there are some people who think I'm a snob and I'm hard to deal with, but there are more of them who either think it's ok, or who like me for that. I really don't care, just as long as I don't intentionally offend or hurt anyone.
@Danzylop (1122)
• Philippines
30 Jul 10
From my own personal point of view, yes you have to. You should explain yourself at once and then leave it to them regardless if they will understand it or not. The point is, they cant blame you for not letting them hear you. It would be lighter on your side to stay away from them if you have talk but they refused to understand rather than just stay away from them at all. Being vocal is good but you have to watch the words you say so that you wont offend somebody when you try to explain your side. The best way to explain yourself to others, is to explain it while being sensitive to their positions.
• Philippines
30 Jul 10
people might already know that your such a quite person so no need to explain to them from time to time if they wont ask as they understand unless they told you to talk then thats the only time you explain to them that your such a quite person who just love to listen than talk but if they didnt bother to ask you then just leave it as they already have a conclusion that your a quite person.
@2004cqui (2823)
• United States
29 Jul 10
The most kind and quiet man I ever met in my life was my father. I have met people since then and always invite them to my parties! No explaining necessary!
@mononoke (12)
• Philippines
29 Jul 10
I am a kind of person with a principle of "What You See is What You Get". In everything I do, I don't have to explain to anybody. I do believe that what ever consequence i'll get by my actions i'll be the one whose responsible for that. People are just there to listen to you. After listening to your explanations it's either they contempt or understand you.
@Theresaaiza (9677)
• Australia
29 Jul 10
That is actually one of my defects. I explain myself too much to the point that I sound rather defensive. Sometimes, even if I am at fault, I still try to justify myself. Which is really wrong. Sometimes there is no doubt when it comes to my talent of always finding a way to get out of a mess but I think it ruins some relationships in the process. Sometimes I gotta learn to just admit my wrongs and shut my mouth.
@elmiko (6640)
• United States
29 Jul 10
sometimes because i don't want people to get the wrong impression of me. i don't let stuff like that eat away at me though whether it convinces them overwise or not as that doesn't do any good.
• India
29 Jul 10
Trust me the more silent you are the sought after person you become, the world is full of people who want to butt in every conversation, and always attention seeking. You are doing the best by keeping quiet and reserving your comments, if you are really misunderstood, trust me the person will always find a way to get that throught to you and then you can clarify. Till them all is well.
@Shinyqiu (119)
• China
29 Jul 10
The person a type of quiet will be misunderstaned by other person who don't comprehend your personality.Any one can't know you was the person who rather keep silent to explain. But sometimes in important position you must stand up and bravely explain what do you think of,why do you do so.....it is helpful for you to be understanded by your friends and colleagues.
• India
29 Jul 10
Yes people might think that u r proud person when u speak nothing to them.... But if they knows u from long time then i think they knew what type of person you are but if they don't know you then sometimes you need to speak few things so that they don't misunderstand you.
• Philippines
29 Jul 10
depends on what situation, if you are not involve in any discussion or what ever,so you don't need to say anything,enough to be quiet, but if you are involve, it's better to voice out and explain.
@rosebinas (181)
• Philippines
29 Jul 10
I have nothing much to say but this... Our worst mistake is to speak when it is proper to be silent and being silent when it is proper to speak.
@jose431 (164)
• India
29 Jul 10
Yeah,I am joker and straight forward type of person who really love to create jokes even if some people were serious in their work.Moreover I don't know weather they will get hurt or not if I tell something,but they got hurt and they are angry to me so I have to explain from myself to others.
@Thumb86 (290)
29 Jul 10
I relate to this. I am really shy and find it hard to speak confidently in a large crowd. I prefer small gatherings to being in a large party of people. I also find that I am persistently misunderstood by others. It used to get me down but now I find I prefer my own company and I dont break my back to become peoples friend. I have given up on trying to explain myself to others.