Would you dump someone if you can't stand their parents?

United States
July 28, 2010 10:15pm CST
I know most people don't get along with their in-laws. Some of the arguments between husband and wife involve the in-laws. I was wondering, that because of the in-laws would you break up with someone?
11 responses
• India
29 Jul 10
Wow a really interesting question. That depends on how much i love the girl. If i like her so much that i am willing to be in a serious relationship with her then i would go forth and try to win her parents also with my charm and then i would feel that the girl is definitely worth having. If i believe that the girl is just good enough to be friends then i wouldn't be serious with her at all in the first place.
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• United States
5 Aug 10
Well... in my scenario it's you that don't like the future in-laws. :P What would you do if you just can't stand to be around them? Dump the girl and never see them again? Or stick with her and just ignore the parents?
@shia88 (4582)
• Malaysia
29 Jul 10
Hi, Like my situation, I am staying with my in-laws and we are getting well. We have to give and take,never can always in the win position. Staying with in-laws will definitely have less freedom and have to give them a respect in every aspect. Bit tiring too! That is why I intend to move out to my own house soon. Just need to wait for the right time to move out. Argument between couple might involve the in-laws and in order not to make things more complicated,moving out is the best choice. At least ,you have your own freedom and space and no need to see their face on every things you want to do. I won't say never break up with my husband because of my in-laws.As long as, I pay the elderly a respect and never talk back to them,things might be going well and my husband will have a good day too. It is better not to make my husband like a sandwich,stand in between me and my in-laws. Getting along well with in-laws will lead to a happy family.
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• United States
5 Aug 10
I agree. Living with your in-laws or anyone else can take away certain freedom. Getting along with a person can be really hard. If you really love that person, then you will try. But it's not easy. I hope you get to move out soon.
• Philippines
29 Jul 10
I won't, instead I would show them (the in-laws) that they made the wrong choice of not liking me.
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• United States
4 Aug 10
It's not that they don't like you. It's you that don't like them.
@basqui (3890)
• Philippines
29 Jul 10
Well, for me, I'd rather transfer my family to another house, maybe rent a new one so that the arguments would end and not the relationship. If you really love your partner then you should learn to accept her whole family.
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@BlueGoblin (1833)
• United States
29 Jul 10
People should honor their parents wishes within reason. Obviously most parents dislike their daughter-in-law or son-in-law. You should really talk with family and try to make them understand why you love their son or daughter.
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• Malaysia
29 Jul 10
Hi, I am a bachelor, I would certainly dump my boyfriend if I can't get along with my future in laws. I guess I was not matured enough when I was younger, so I didn't consider about this thing at that time. However, now I am already married so whatever the problems are I can't do anything about it. If my in laws make problems I would never give a care because they are not living in my house. That means they can't do anything to harm me, it's just that when we meet occasionally during holiday seasons and celebrations that I feel uncomfortable. Whatever it is, I'll keep my mouth shut and just let things go by. I know this condition is temporary and when I go back home they won't be around to disturb me. My husband is very good to me and he doesn't argue with me about nonsense. As a conclusion, I will not break up with my husband if I can't stand his parents as long as they do not interrupt my life and my decisions.
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@simonelee (2718)
• China
29 Jul 10
Hi! it depends on how my partner going to react about the issue. If my partner balance things, listen to me then i wouldn't. If my partner become bias then the marriage won't work. I'll return her to her parents. So, leaving with the in-laws is not advisable also.
@p3ks626 (6550)
• Philippines
29 Jul 10
Dealing with in laws is something really difficult to do. I think there are some people who do that especially if they cant stand dealing with in laws anymore. And if your partner is not on your side and is taking the side of his or her family then that's something difficult. If that will happen to me, I would have to tell my partner that we have to stay somewhere away from them but not break up with him of course.
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@swn_chik (266)
• India
29 Jul 10
Well,I think I won't dump anyone for their parents because I'm not really going to stay with them but with the person .I would love to stay away from both our parents so,in this way we 'll miss eachother rather than having problem staying together.
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@Thoroughrob (11750)
• United States
29 Jul 10
As long as my husband was not always siding with his parents and starting arguments, I would not break up with them. If it was to the point that you were always arguing over the in'laws, I might.
@allamgirl (2145)
• Philippines
29 Jul 10
personally, i wouldn't. i know what it feel like to be dumped because of parents. and it really sucks. it feels like that that person doesn't love you and care enough to fight for you. i know that it's one of the most common problems in relationships, the "in-laws". it's just that for me, if you really love someone, you're gonna be willing to stand up for that person. even if your parents doesn't like him or her. you gotta make them see what you see in her or him. they may not be the best of friends or get along really, really well. but you can make them try to be at least be okay with each other to work out the relationship.