Friendship............. Love.................... friendship brings problem

Nepal
July 29, 2010 3:20am CST
I have a friend who is already married and is living happily with her family. Few months back she got in contact with her very old friend. They were so happy to meet each other. They were in contact continuously. Her friend was a boy and he used to love her. He was not able to confess his love in front of her later she got married. But even they wanted to remain good friends and it was not a great problem. They were in contact with each other, they mailed each other. but now it was time for boy to got married and he told his every past to his fiancee. Before his fiancee was ok with his past but later she felt herself insecure and even quarreled with the guy in my friends matter. but actually they were just good friends nit more than that. His fiancee even phoned her and tried to know what kind of friend she is of her fiancee. She was not convinced with my friend and talked so rudely to her. Looking at the situation my friend called that guy and made him promise that he'll then never going to mail or phone or make any contact with her, forget her forever cause she thought that her presence will destroy the newly bonded relationship. Was she right to end up her friendship with the guy or the fiancee of her friend was wrong who put on question mark on eir friendship.
8 responses
@jose431 (164)
• India
29 Jul 10
I have friend,who have got her boyfriend,But I don't know what happened to her she had made relation with my bf knowingly.I never aspect that she will do like that to me.I used to trust her as she is one of the my best friend,even I used to shall my personal things to her.At last she really gives pain in my heart.
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@skysuccess (8882)
• Singapore
29 Jul 10
xavier_sh, I don't think there's a better solution than what is being adopted by the guy's ex-girlfriend especially when it is so obvious that she is being the main problem for his relationship with his fiancee to move on. It might not be entirely the fault of one party in this where everyone is equally responsible for this debacle, starting with the fiancee for her inability to trust her fiance's casual friendship with his ex. The fiance for failing to communicate effectively on his former relationships. I suppose this drastic situation is for the better good and perhaps when the couple could resolve this conflict within, friendship may resume and go on another level.
• Nepal
30 Jul 10
Thanks for your comment but the lady was not his ex- girlfriend but was just a friend . It was the guy who use to love her. I think there is great difference between friend and girl friens????
• Singapore
30 Jul 10
xavier_sh, Let's really be realistic here, if there was never an inkling feeling from the gentleman at all, then I am sure this fiasco that you had brought up - would not have happened at all. I can see the implication and the catalyst of this fiasco when you state in your post and I quote: "Her friend was a boy and he used to love her. He was not able to confess his love in front of her later she got married....etc...." Surely, there would be some implications here and as such 1+1+1 just adds up. The maths may not be different from the 3 of them but how the equation could conclude with such volatile devastation is definitely the works of all involved.
@krnavtr (285)
• India
30 Jul 10
Friendship is a feeling of comfort and emotional safety with a person.To experience what is friendship,one must have true friends who are indeed rare treasure.Like wise i had a problem thats my bf started falling in love with his ex girl.He had shown her photo and told me she is his ex girl.I had believe that but later in my absence for 2 months he got pair up with the same girl.She know that i belong to him but knowingly she was in love with him again.The only result i could hear is what can i do than?
• India
30 Jul 10
The lady did a right thing. She shows her maturity. If she continuied her friendship with that guy it will create much more problems to both. This is suitable time to leave the relationship. This decision brings happy and joy to both the friends and theur families. The true friend did like this.
• Philippines
30 Jul 10
Yes she is right. it will be the best for both of them. You can not blame the fiancee for what she thought. as I read your post, its sounds there friendship is more than that. and it looks both of them hid there feelings. The boy should respect her friend decision and try to understand his girlfriend.
• United States
30 Jul 10
Friendship brings love because that girl you have a small friendship with will want a upgrade if they like you. It also brings problems, because loyalty comes into the equation of love. A normal friendship can sometimes bring problems, but mainly if your a girl I guess.
@george000 (166)
• India
29 Jul 10
If a person is married and there is no point of loving another one because those person does not think of their partner and these person does not keep value of their partner. It is really a sad thing to here and handle the situation .It is really hurting and there is no point of saying that other one is my partner.
• India
29 Jul 10
Well your friend is in quite a confused state right now and i wouldn't want to be in his shoes. I think he is forgetting the fact that his best friend is already married and has a family. They should just be friends or better yet what he did was right. They shouldn't even contact each other in any way. That may seem harsh but it's the only way he will get married. It's difficult to maintain and hold relationships between the boy and the girl. But he has to know that it's for his own good.