What do you hate most about your partner/ lover/ spouse?

@antilove (191)
Vietnam
July 29, 2010 9:21am CST
Well, no one is perfect, even the one you love the most, right? So there must be something that you don't like about that person. Franky but also secretly saying ^^, my husband is really a nice man. However, I badly want him to lose some weigh. His weigh is gaining more and more. Another thing I hate about him is he rarely gets up early. I have to wake him up every morning. A hard job :( He also throws his clothes everywhere and it's me who collect and wash them for him. How I hate it! After all, I still love him^^ Share your ideas please!
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19 responses
@lulu1220 (1010)
• United States
6 Aug 10
My husband is a hypocondriac so he always thinks he has some awful disease. When he is sick (like his nose is runny), he thinks he is dying. He is also narcissistic. He is right and everyone else is wrong. We tend to argue over things at time because of this.
@antilove (191)
• Vietnam
6 Aug 10
so sorry to hear about that you two often argue with each other.
@lulu1220 (1010)
• United States
8 Aug 10
Well we have our bad days and our good days.
@AutumnGold (1062)
29 Jul 10
Hello Antilove. I don't hate anything about my husband but I hate it when he works nights. I only see him for an hour after I finish work then I have a long night alone to look forward to. I suppose he could lose a bit of weight but he's my hubby and I love him for how he is :)
• United States
30 Jul 10
I agree with you. I don't hate anything about my husband, and I really think it sucks that I can't talk to him to much because he has to get enough sleep to go to work at night. I am a very scary person when it comes to staying home alone late at night^^
30 Jul 10
I don't mind being alone in the house, I just miss us spending time together. Sometimes it's nice to be alone but not when I know he won't be home until morning :(
@bslovers (57)
• United States
30 Jul 10
I love my man more then any thing but he is so money conscious that it kills me! I tell everyone that he should marry my sister bc they are the same way I'm positive they'd live happily ever after! I love to spend money but I know how not to, a lot of times he's okay with getting himself stuff but not taking me out to dinner he rather save the money for something big but things always come up like car trouble and the savings gets spent. Anyone understand?
@antilove (191)
• Vietnam
31 Jul 10
Yep, got the point. Your man is so mean right? We all know that saving is very useful in life. But when someone becomes too mean, it will be a disaster for his beloved ones. Okay, I cannot stand mean people. Thanks God, my husband is rather generous in financial aspect.
• United States
30 Jul 10
We're in a long distance relationship and it really sucks not being with him. He's a great guy and all but when he says he'll email he doesn't. He isn't much of a tech person and we rely on yahoo messenger. We see each other and talk for hours but that hasn't been happening a lot because of his new job. It would really be nice if he emailed me at the end of the day or something, but nooooooo. Either way, I still love him.
@antilove (191)
• Vietnam
30 Jul 10
Hi redmaryjane, I deeply feel what you feel when your lover is far away. I and my husband before we got married had a time to be far away from each other. Phoning and messages are all that build our love. I missed him like crazy. Fortunately he came back hometown to work, then we don't be separated anymore. Hope someday he will write you an email or come back near you forever. Cheers!
• Thailand
30 Jul 10
he he, maybe your husband is dirty guy, maybe you try once no to clean, and start to make some messy like him, i guess both you and husband will have a loud laugh and both 2 you will clean your house together. Hope so...ha ha ha
@antilove (191)
• Vietnam
30 Jul 10
Hey, a good idea. Thanks for sharing. I will try not to clean the house, not wash clothes for him. Then see what will happen, and what he will do ^^
@X18PRS (114)
• Canada
30 Jul 10
My girlfriend has to be the LOUDEST eater! I know this may not seem to be too bad, but after awhile, it gets extremely annoying. It can also be embarassing when eating in a nice restaurant and it all you can hear is he chomping away. I know it is just a cultural thing, but it would be nice to have a peaceful meal ;). My parents find it funny, but it's just something I can't seem to get over. Oh well, at least this isn't a huge issue and I love her like crazy!!!
@antilove (191)
• Vietnam
30 Jul 10
Wow, your girlfriend has such a funny habit. However, compared to your great love for her, that doesn't really matter, right?^^
• United States
29 Jul 10
Do we have the same husband? Hehe Besides the weight issue my husband does the same things yours does. I have to wake my husband for work every day too and I feel like he is grown and should be able to wake himself, I'm not his mother. He also throws his clothes everywhere. I'm thinking about not washing his clothes unless he puts them in the hamper where they belong. Eventually he'll get the point, right? Also, my husband acts like he thinks I am his maid. The minute he get's in the door he asks me to do everything for him because he worked all day. What does he think I do? I take care of 3 children all day, do laundry, clean the house, watch other people's kids to bring in some money and he thinks all of this is nothing? Ugh, but I do love him so much.
29 Jul 10
There are a lot of things I dislike about my husband. He never helps around the house unless I blow a fuse and get angry at him for not helping out with the kids. He never listens properly either to me, his kids or to what other people are saying. He does say that he has a terrible memory but I just thing he has an off button attatched to his ears. We have been together for 15 years and he has never cooked for me and complains if I ask him to make me a cup of tea, which only ever happens once in a blue moon. He also has a very 'dry' wit and I can sometimes never tell if he is being serious or not. A more recent annoyance is that he thinks it is okay to talk to the kids about 'poo' and 'farting' while we are at the dinner table eating. The kids think it's hilarious but I just want us to talk about more 'normal' day to day things.
@antilove (191)
• Vietnam
29 Jul 10
Hi Beautyfactor, You and your husband have been married for 15years, quite long time to understand each other. I have got married for 6 months only. I think every husband is bad in his wife's eyes and vice versa. What's more important is the love deep inside both hearts. Best wishes
• India
5 Aug 10
Hello welcome to mylot Well i am married since long, it is 44 years now, we are happy in all respects, in a married life or relationship, adjustment and trust is a must, there might be minor differences though.. Thanks for sharing. Welcome always. Cheers. Professor
@deve_annrn (1857)
• Philippines
3 Aug 10
i can relate with this..i love my partner too with all the "no vices" attitude he has..but sometimes i get fed up with me picking up where he left his clothes.. and looking for things he forgot where he left..the keys for example.. he is not organized and i'm the one who's organizing things for him..and he's really difficult to awaken..tat sometimes i end up eating breakfast alone..hmf..!
@rtsh_gup (186)
• India
30 Jul 10
Absolutely I agree ....no one is perfect in the world.Every body does mistake ...I am frankly saying my boyfriend is very careless.He has a habit of smoking,he always throw the ashes everywhere and its me who collect ......It gives more burden to me and I hate his habit but I love him very much......
30 Jul 10
My husband leaves his clothes on the floor where ever he took them off, he is so untidy & never puts anything away, but because i love him i put up with his faults as i know i must have quite a few that annoy him.
• Philippines
30 Jul 10
Well that's love... But you should have to learn to accept the fact that youve married and loved a man with that kind of attitude and maybe you both need to talk about that to avoid future problems, ask him have a short conversation with him telling that he needs to do what is right, well i think and i guess that youre both open to each other right?if that's the case, your husband will understand and make his move to change the way he act...
@aldawn22 (224)
• Philippines
30 Jul 10
I absolutely agree the fact that everybody is not perfect, no matter who you are you really commit mistake. Having a flaws is very significant in every individual because one can't appreciate life if everything is perfect. In my case the thing that I hate most about my partner is his bad vice which is smoking. When we are still starting with the relationship I already told him to quit this bad habit due to harmful effects to his body. I know that he really wanted to change and I appreciate his efforts to stop smoking but the thing is he really finds it difficult. We set a lot of agreement just to boost his confidence to stop but until now he can't get over it. I also love him and I cared for him. Like you antilove I also don't know what to with it.
@skmak110 (79)
29 Jul 10
She might have been the perfect but since no one is perfect, I would definately say she's almost to the top. But the flaws of not knowing when to put a stop to her anger is killing. Frequent or excessive anger is not useful as it is likely to have a negative effect on health[high stressed, raised blood pressure],spoil relationships with others due to aggressive and destructive patterns and limit satisfaction and enjoyment of life. In all honesty, I think we both need to be counsel.
@iceamber (68)
• United States
29 Jul 10
I dislike that my lover TRIES to make me angry enough to hit her. She's done it many times, and I can't stand it! I also dislike how she has no manners at all, even though I teach them to her. She's amazing, but I want her to change these two things. They are NOT needed, and I love her!!!
• United States
29 Jul 10
There are several things I dislike about my live in boyfriend. But I suppose because of the love I have for him I over look them. However what I absolutely hate about him is that he takes me for granted. I have been doing some really major soul searching and find that this I just can no longer overlook. He argues that it is not so. Okay for one recent event, I have a life changing decision coming up in the next week, one that I will have many repercussion with and I have no choice nor can I delay it, sorry but am not at liberty to say, so discussion sake I can brief my rant. Well his twelve year old daughter is visiting for 3 weeks from England so, rather than be there for me. He says he has to take her on vacation. So he is leaving with her and I am to be here alone to deal with my decision. I suppose I would have understood had he said to me I am sorry but I need to spend time with her and I would have understood, instead said, oh you can't come with us, ok then we will go alone, then ended the conversation. So do you not think this is taking me for granted, I mean when she returns I will still be here, at least he better hope. As I surely would never ever leave someone at a time like this. Okay I vented. Thank you for allowing me the opportunity to voice it I have not with any one else.
• United States
29 Jul 10
Where oh where to begin, I have been married almost 11 years, my husband is a very talkative man, with everyone except ME. I swear we could sit in the same room for 3 days and he will say 5 words the whole time. Someone calls he starts yaking his mouth off. I'm sitting What am I chopped liver? He is a sweetie he does cook and help me when i need help, however in the relationship department, If i do not make the first move. then it is not happening. I would love for him to take the lead and not make me feel like i am begging all the time. LOL makes a woman not feel to attractive ya know what I mean?? Along with that He got comfortable in the marriage and forgot all those sweet little gestures he did, holding hands, snacking my butt, laying his hand on my knee when he drives, so forth so on. Ok i should shut up now before I write a novel here. LOL
@kristinad (185)
• United States
29 Jul 10
i can't stand it every morning he gets dressed in the kitchen for work and he leaves all his clothes there i understand that he is being nice not getting ready in the bedroom so i can sleep BUT what happen to the bathroom and he could put him clothes in the laundry basket