I have made a decision.

I never thought that you would come up with something like that I must be lucky because I have added a lot of new users recently but I haven't had all these PMs with links that I hear others speak of. I find that the accent here is now on earning sadly and that the newer Lotters seem to think of it first for the cents and only later, those that remain, realise that there is so much more to it - and it is then that the cents add up without them thinking about them!

OMG I could barely type reading this. This is a great idea and so relevant. In fact, I just got an email from a new member who befriended me. I just deleted the email and didnt even read it. I dont think they will stop spamming you or even get the point. Thanks for the laugh!

Hiya GardenGerty. I like the way you think! Most of the time I just ignore PMs like that, though I have written back to a couple of people before after they spammed me numerous times. Next time someone sends me a referral link I might just give that a try! Who knows if we'll get any referrals this way, but it just might shut them up! LOL Either way you look at it we just can't lose! Thank you for such a great idea! Happy mylotting!

Hi GardenGerty, Don´t you think it might be easier if you just deleted those people from your friend´s list? I am not too good at computers but I feel that what you want to do will take a lot of your valuable time. Or am I wrong? When a new friend (I always accept if they ask me) send an unasked for link I just don´t reply. I do some trading here through PMs but it is by mutual consent. I earn some money at Mylot but for me the best that the site gives me is company. I have some nice friends but, of course they are a handful and no more. Then come the people I know and I´m interested in knowing better. And then it is the rest Take care!

Hi gardengrety, I know what you feel coz I also recieve those kind of pm every time I accept new friends, I am new to mylot ans I never pm my friends on my friendlist with tons of referral link coz I am more enjoy responding and reading discussions here in mylot. It's really annoying sometimes receiving those kind of emails from spammers on our friends list and I think I will copy you for writing all my referral links in my notepad and send it back to those spammer haha Now I have chance to get referralsgrrr,,,

Hello gardenGerty. I'm still laughing after reading that, what a great idea! I wish I'd thought of that. We must all get hassled by the spammers so what better than to fight fire with fire. I give that idea a big thumbs up! We're being polite at the same time because we're answering them...Perfect :)

I doubt that would work. People who immediately spam are usually interested only in their own earnings and not someone else's. The ones you can do that with is people who have taken a few days or weeks to "know" you and only then ask you to join under their link.

You can do this but I just turn off their notification and when I get time I delete them as friends. Hope that works for you.

I signed also to others sites but I'm not earning from them yet. And whatever happened I'll always stick into mylot. I can relax here and released my feelings and make me feel comfortable typing my ideas and here are lots to know in a very simple way. Thanks and have a nice day!

Yes GardenGerty, We should all put spammers out of our misery and tell them to get knotted. As you say, this is a social site and should be treated as such.

The funny thing is i have had alot of people trying to add me aswell.I have got people that want to add me that have no numbers aswell as that they have not done anything on this site only joined the site,nothing else.Other times there have been a few people that have had a few numbers under their name yet i will accept them only for them to send me the message join this site and another list of sites.I think that in future i will send them my links to my sites,if we all do the same will they get the hint to stop,lol.

Great idea I never thought of that, but it can get annoying when they just keep sending you their referral links and wanting to join under them. Still love your idea wait to go ^^.

Hi Gerty I totally agree with you!!! Way to go Girl Take care and stay cool Snow

hahaha...i like your decision. I want to add you as my friend. When i noticed your decision the first thing caught my eyes was the number 24460...how long have you been on myLot. awesome...i love your patience and dedication.

I sure know what you mean here! You might get some referrals, but at what cost, rflol. Yes, it is annoying when people are so driven here. We want to say lighten up, eh? I've started looking to see what kind of discussions a person has started before accepting new friends whereas before I would just accept anybody and weed the "bad" ones out later. I like most people but not the repeat rule breakers.

Oh that's so funny GG! I hope it works for you and I'll be curious to see in a month or two what has happened, so keep that in mind for another discussion. I think it's hilarious. I usually get 2-3 people every week wanting to be "friends," yeh, and when I check their profiles it's all about making money, blah, blah. No thanks, not from someone I don't know, so I just delete them. I don't really have anything to send them back but now I wish I did, how much fun is that! Just be careful someone doesn't catch on and send you a virus.

They would probably try to get you to exchange with them on another site they're on! Seems to me they'd think it was acceptable behavior to just pop up with a referral link!

In had never request anyone to something under me. When I read some discussions and responses from myloter and if their writings influence me any way then I send them friend request. Do you think I will get referrals? Every friend request is not intended with referrals exchange. Do you think they will stop spamming me? I think everyone is not..... Some people are here who really send their request to communicate their discussions properly. Do you think they will recognize their real opportunity to earn here at MyLot? It is a great opportunity to earn. Hope that many myloter use this opportunity properly.

Good for you GardenGerty. The majority of people, especially those who are trying to earn or make money online, have absolutely no idea how to use a social site to get referrals. What they do is exactly what happened to you. That way of trying to get referrals is presumptuous and intrusive. I could tell you guys right now that if your trying to get referrals by shoving banners and links down someones throat, it just will not work. Whether or not you know it, GardenGerty has given you a hint on how to be successful in getting referrals, if that is what your looking to do, by being social.

That's a realy good idea. So far, I've ignored all friend requests from people who have an unusually high number of friends relative to the number of questions they've responded to, but I like your idea better!