I have made a decision.

@GardenGerty (102466)
United States
July 29, 2010 2:50pm CST
When I accept a new friend, and they immediately ask me to join something under them, I will refuse, then hit them with all of my referral links in response. I am going to set it up in my notepad and just copy and paste it into their message. Do you think I will get referrals? Do you think they will stop spamming me? Do you think they will recognize their real opportunity to earn here at MyLot? MyLot pays, but it is a social site. Come on people, lets be social.
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34 responses
@mysdianait (64056)
• Italy
29 Jul 10
I never thought that you would come up with something like that I must be lucky because I have added a lot of new users recently but I haven't had all these PMs with links that I hear others speak of. I find that the accent here is now on earning sadly and that the newer Lotters seem to think of it first for the cents and only later, those that remain, realise that there is so much more to it - and it is then that the cents add up without them thinking about them!
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@GardenGerty (102466)
• United States
29 Jul 10
Well, the latest is ugno, and it is just not for me. I have been requested here and on Sidetick. I just automatically accept everyone, give em a chance and if they get aggressive about spam they are gone. It is a shame that people do not just relax and have fun here. This is my primary fun and friend site, although Gather is getting more like it for me.
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@mysdianait (64056)
• Italy
29 Jul 10
To me social sites are like coffee shops - you can't be in more than one at a time and I prefer sticking to my favourite and get nto know all the regulars better rather than only knowing a few here and there. I have heard of those that you mention too but I have not been tempted yet
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@mysdianait (64056)
• Italy
4 Aug 10
I joined Sidetick to and that was all I did. I am here and on myLot and it keeps me busy
@sergeantrom (5712)
• United States
30 Jul 10
OMG I could barely type reading this. This is a great idea and so relevant. In fact, I just got an email from a new member who befriended me. I just deleted the email and didnt even read it. I dont think they will stop spamming you or even get the point. Thanks for the laugh!
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• United States
30 Jul 10
I used to take the time to tell them no spam in a nice way. Nah dont stoop to their level. Just not worth it. They will get the picture sooner or later. After spamming everyone and getting no hits, spammers usually go away.
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• United States
30 Jul 10
Spammers will, indeed, go away eventually. Someone will usually complain to admin about them and they WILL GET DELETED.
• United States
31 Jul 10
Thats sure true!
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@AutumnGold (1062)
30 Jul 10
Hello gardenGerty. I'm still laughing after reading that, what a great idea! I wish I'd thought of that. We must all get hassled by the spammers so what better than to fight fire with fire. I give that idea a big thumbs up! We're being polite at the same time because we're answering them...Perfect :)
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@GardenGerty (102466)
• United States
30 Jul 10
If you are offering them legitimate sites you may also be doing them a real favor.
31 Jul 10
Thank you for giving me the best response. You just made me smile again :)
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@sacmom (14315)
• United States
30 Jul 10
Hiya GardenGerty. I like the way you think! Most of the time I just ignore PMs like that, though I have written back to a couple of people before after they spammed me numerous times. Next time someone sends me a referral link I might just give that a try! Who knows if we'll get any referrals this way, but it just might shut them up! LOL Either way you look at it we just can't lose! Thank you for such a great idea! Happy mylotting!
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@GardenGerty (102466)
• United States
31 Jul 10
I am glad you like the idea. It just made me feel good to do it, like "gotcha" in a way. Some people are so caught up in their money making efforts they fail to take the blinders off and look around on the lot.
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@sacmom (14315)
• United States
1 Aug 10
Someone was kind enough to spam me today so I was able to send my first one out! Wee! LOL Thanks so much again GardenGerty!
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@marguicha (101857)
• Chile
29 Jul 10
Hi GardenGerty, Don´t you think it might be easier if you just deleted those people from your friend´s list? I am not too good at computers but I feel that what you want to do will take a lot of your valuable time. Or am I wrong? When a new friend (I always accept if they ask me) send an unasked for link I just don´t reply. I do some trading here through PMs but it is by mutual consent. I earn some money at Mylot but for me the best that the site gives me is company. I have some nice friends but, of course they are a handful and no more. Then come the people I know and I´m interested in knowing better. And then it is the rest Take care!
@GardenGerty (102466)
• United States
29 Jul 10
It is not really time consuming to copy and paste a generic reply. It may help them and it will certainly help me if they become my referral.I like to give people a chance. I do accept everyone initially. Yes, the charm of MyLot is that it provides good company.
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@GardenGerty (102466)
• United States
4 Aug 10
Well, all of my requests lately have zero activity, so I have quit accepting them. If they have a little activity that is different.
• Japan
29 Jul 10
Hi gardengrety, I know what you feel coz I also recieve those kind of pm every time I accept new friends, I am new to mylot ans I never pm my friends on my friendlist with tons of referral link coz I am more enjoy responding and reading discussions here in mylot. It's really annoying sometimes receiving those kind of emails from spammers on our friends list and I think I will copy you for writing all my referral links in my notepad and send it back to those spammer haha Now I have chance to get referralsgrrr,,,
@GardenGerty (102466)
• United States
29 Jul 10
I thought maybe that would be a better choice for me than to be annoyed. We all know that we can check each other's links for opportunities. I am not even sure all of mine are there. You obviously enjoy being here and visiting though, because you are getting up there in post count.
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• Japan
29 Jul 10
You're right grety,we all have our choice to choose and yes I am enjoying here on mylot haha
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• United States
29 Jul 10
Hi Gerty I totally agree with you!!! Way to go Girl Take care and stay cool Snow
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@GardenGerty (102466)
• United States
29 Jul 10
Well, I will not go out seeking referrals, but they obviously are into money making, so why not play?
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• United States
29 Jul 10
Thanks for responding back to me and have a wonderful day. Snow
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@savypat (20246)
• United States
30 Jul 10
You can do this but I just turn off their notification and when I get time I delete them as friends. Hope that works for you.
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@GardenGerty (102466)
• United States
30 Jul 10
I have been just deleting them and then sometimes they bug me over and over again. It seemed humorous at the time to bug them back.
@ANIME123 (2473)
• United States
30 Jul 10
Great idea I never thought of that, but it can get annoying when they just keep sending you their referral links and wanting to join under them. Still love your idea wait to go ^^.
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@GardenGerty (102466)
• United States
30 Jul 10
It is just my sense of humor that feels like saying "Why not try?"
@jugsjugs (13045)
30 Jul 10
The funny thing is i have had alot of people trying to add me aswell.I have got people that want to add me that have no numbers aswell as that they have not done anything on this site only joined the site,nothing else.Other times there have been a few people that have had a few numbers under their name yet i will accept them only for them to send me the message join this site and another list of sites.I think that in future i will send them my links to my sites,if we all do the same will they get the hint to stop,lol.
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@GardenGerty (102466)
• United States
30 Jul 10
I had not been on at all today. I came on and found five requests, but this time, for a change, four of them were fairly substantial participants. I would love to have some referrals, so that is why I hope this works. It also makes me feel like I am taking control of the situation.
• United Arab Emirates
30 Jul 10
hahaha...i like your decision. I want to add you as my friend. When i noticed your decision the first thing caught my eyes was the number 24460...how long have you been on myLot. awesome...i love your patience and dedication.
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@GardenGerty (102466)
• United States
30 Jul 10
I have been here for four years. I found the friendships on here to be very good and it was a hobby that gave me a lot of joy. I came looking for earnings, but that is small compared to what I found in the way of friends and knowledge, and even some networking.
30 Jul 10
Yes GardenGerty, We should all put spammers out of our misery and tell them to get knotted. As you say, this is a social site and should be treated as such.
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@GardenGerty (102466)
• United States
30 Jul 10
The social part is really the best part here. You will find lots of good friends and learn a lot as well. I know people need money, I do myself. They need to form relationships before trying to recruit, so we do not feel like they are trying to use us.
@mods196621 (3631)
• Philippines
30 Jul 10
I signed also to others sites but I'm not earning from them yet. And whatever happened I'll always stick into mylot. I can relax here and released my feelings and make me feel comfortable typing my ideas and here are lots to know in a very simple way. Thanks and have a nice day!
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@GardenGerty (102466)
• United States
30 Jul 10
MyLot is my first earning site, and I have the most friends here. I like it and I come here for the social aspect. It is just nice that it also pays me.
@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
30 Jul 10
I doubt that would work. People who immediately spam are usually interested only in their own earnings and not someone else's. The ones you can do that with is people who have taken a few days or weeks to "know" you and only then ask you to join under their link.
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@GardenGerty (102466)
• United States
30 Jul 10
I was getting my links organized anyway, so I thought I would do it. I will let everyone know if I unexpectedly get a jump in referrals. You are probably right, I will not.
• United States
30 Jul 10
Good for you GardenGerty. The majority of people, especially those who are trying to earn or make money online, have absolutely no idea how to use a social site to get referrals. What they do is exactly what happened to you. That way of trying to get referrals is presumptuous and intrusive. I could tell you guys right now that if your trying to get referrals by shoving banners and links down someones throat, it just will not work. Whether or not you know it, GardenGerty has given you a hint on how to be successful in getting referrals, if that is what your looking to do, by being social.
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@GardenGerty (102466)
• United States
31 Jul 10
Oh, many of us have banners and links all over our profiles, but do not get obnoxious about it. I know that I could probably go to your profile right now and learn something about marketing, just from this response. I really like getting to know people on here. Anything else is just extra.
@aaitrahb (52)
• Australia
30 Jul 10
That's a realy good idea. So far, I've ignored all friend requests from people who have an unusually high number of friends relative to the number of questions they've responded to, but I like your idea better!
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@GardenGerty (102466)
• United States
31 Jul 10
That is often a clue. I know that many websites operate on the principle of having many many friends. I have a lot of friends. I can see where that might confuse someone. The real tip off is when they have a zero, instead of a number like your (41)
@drannhh (15240)
• United States
30 Jul 10
I sure know what you mean here! You might get some referrals, but at what cost, rflol. Yes, it is annoying when people are so driven here. We want to say lighten up, eh? I've started looking to see what kind of discussions a person has started before accepting new friends whereas before I would just accept anybody and weed the "bad" ones out later. I like most people but not the repeat rule breakers.
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@GardenGerty (102466)
• United States
31 Jul 10
I am still mostly doing "weed you later, alligator" many request friendship and never come back to the site again, and that is sad. Obviously I like it here, and I am a little prejudiced. I wish the people that join could relax and make a few friends.
@Aaleexix (2291)
• India
30 Jul 10
In had never request anyone to something under me. When I read some discussions and responses from myloter and if their writings influence me any way then I send them friend request. Do you think I will get referrals? Every friend request is not intended with referrals exchange. Do you think they will stop spamming me? I think everyone is not..... Some people are here who really send their request to communicate their discussions properly. Do you think they will recognize their real opportunity to earn here at MyLot? It is a great opportunity to earn. Hope that many myloter use this opportunity properly.
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@GardenGerty (102466)
• United States
31 Jul 10
You are right, not every friend request is a search for referrals. It just was one of those evenings. I try to be nice and accept all friend requests, and I still left that person on my friend list. However there are lots of places that that is an acceptable behavior, but MyLot is a social site, it just happens to share revenue as well.
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@SomeCowgirl (32270)
• United States
30 Jul 10
They would probably try to get you to exchange with them on another site they're on! Seems to me they'd think it was acceptable behavior to just pop up with a referral link!
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@GardenGerty (102466)
• United States
30 Jul 10
They might ask for an exchange, I thought of that. Mostly I just make this list and say "See how busy I already am?". They already think it is acceptable behavior to pop up with a link, that is what made me decide to do this.
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• United States
29 Jul 10
Oh that's so funny GG! I hope it works for you and I'll be curious to see in a month or two what has happened, so keep that in mind for another discussion. I think it's hilarious. I usually get 2-3 people every week wanting to be "friends," yeh, and when I check their profiles it's all about making money, blah, blah. No thanks, not from someone I don't know, so I just delete them. I don't really have anything to send them back but now I wish I did, how much fun is that! Just be careful someone doesn't catch on and send you a virus.
@GardenGerty (102466)
• United States
30 Jul 10
Oh, I initially accept everyone to see what they are going to do. I get one or two a week who want me to join ugno right now. Last time it was PeopleString. I do check some of the things out, but join very few of them. I needed to get my referrals all put in one spot for my own access and then I can just copy/paste it to convince people I am too busy.
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