Do you bathe with your children??

United States
July 29, 2010 4:23pm CST
I remember watching the tyra show (an older show) where parents bathe with their young children. Bascially the show was about being comfortable in your own skin. Some people was for getting naked in from for their children, and the other half wasn't for it at all!! So what do you think about this situation? Parents who bathe with their younger children??? For me, and this was also said on the show. One lady said he son bust in her room while she was changing clothes, they were both shocked, she bascially said it terrorized the both of them. And thats how I felt when I was younger and seen my mom. lol. terrorized. but any way, whats your opinion?
6 responses
@rejin_rob (395)
• India
30 Jul 10
Bathing with your kids is a very personal decision. It seems that most parents think it’s fine for a toddler to take a bath or shower with either parent. Things get a bit more controversial after that. Many parents drift away from “co-bathing” during the preschool to early school age years. Exactly when parents stop has to do with how the parent and the kid feel about this issue more than anything else. What you’re comfortable with depends on the age — and gender — of your kid. Also, you’re likely influenced by what was considered “normal” when you were growing up. Here’s what we think: when either you or your kid feels uncomfortable and wants more privacy, then “co-bathing” should stop. Some kids (and adults, of course) are simply more modest. If you continue to shower together during those inquisitive preschool years, you can definitely expect curious stares and “anatomy” questions. My own somewhat precocious preschool daughter asked rather directly as we jumped out of a shared shower, “Why is Mommy so fancy and me is so plain?” It’s helpful if you anticipate these inevitable questions so you can respond without making your kid feel uncomfortable or embarrassed. Occasionally, kids also try to touch parents’ body parts out of simple curiosity. Although you might feel very comfortable bathing with your kid, you might wonder if others will question your parenting choices — and misinterpret them.
• Philippines
30 Jul 10
from birth to 6 years old. i bathe my kids. two boys.its normal for parents to do that. specially mother, that is the essence of becoming a mother,to take care of their child,but now that they can do it of their own, i only remind them the right way of taking a bath. i am aware that my children are boys. so i put limit on a physical connection with them.
• India
30 Jul 10
I really wonder how parents bathe with their young children because it is a shame for children to see the nakedness of their parents.It has a curse with it.I am not a mother right know but I guise I will not bathe with my children , we should know the different between children and parents.
• United States
30 Jul 10
Yes, i agree. I also keep hearing it has a curse against it, and its not of God. btw thank you for your comment! btw happy mylotting!
@advokatku (4039)
• Indonesia
30 Jul 10
in our ethics as the east person, naked in front of the child who has aged over seven years is an act that does not educate because it will only teach the child on immoral views
• United States
30 Jul 10
thank you for this comment, and I agree. I also believe it could lead to promiscuous ways. again thanks & happy mylotting!
• Philippines
30 Jul 10
I think that it's not right to show your body to your children. I never practice this routine because i always bath and dressed up privately. Because I'm worried that these innocent shared bath and showers are appropriate and may lead to a not so comfortable situation when they see you and talk about it to somebody else. As a parent we should teach our children on how to bath alone when he reaches 5 or 6. Maybe a toddler up to 3 years old can still shared this moment but from ages 4 and up, they should be thought to bathe by themselves.
• United States
30 Jul 10
I agree, I also think children should learn how to bathe and bathe privately at the age of 5 or 6. I too have grown up dressing in private, so to me none of this is normal to me. its actually abnormal. btw thank you for this comment!
@rejin_rob (395)
• India
30 Jul 10
Bathing with your kids is a very personal decision. It seems that most parents think it’s fine for a toddler to take a bath or shower with either parent. Things get a bit more controversial after that. Many parents drift away from “co-bathing” during the preschool to early school age years. Exactly when parents stop has to do with how the parent and the kid feel about this issue more than anything else. What you’re comfortable with depends on the age — and gender — of your kid. Also, you’re likely influenced by what was considered “normal” when you were growing up. Here’s what we think: when either you or your kid feels uncomfortable and wants more privacy, then “co-bathing” should stop. Some kids (and adults, of course) are simply more modest. If you continue to shower together during those inquisitive preschool years, you can definitely expect curious stares and “anatomy” questions. My own somewhat precocious preschool daughter asked rather directly as we jumped out of a shared shower, “Why is Mommy so fancy and me is so plain?” It’s helpful if you anticipate these inevitable questions so you can respond without making your kid feel uncomfortable or embarrassed. Occasionally, kids also try to touch parents’ body parts out of simple curiosity. Although you might feel very comfortable bathing with your kid, you might wonder if others will question your parenting choices — and misinterpret them.