Watch your freaky little spoiled brat, lady

@bunnybon7 (35832)
Holiday, Florida
July 29, 2010 4:56pm CST
well, i decided to put this in a discussion since im cooled down a little now. yes. we were getting along ok.me and sons gf. i was really trying with everything. then, again, this morning, she took off before i got up. i was tucked nicely behind my door sleeping away when at 7am, the little boy came to my door yelling through it could i let him in to ask me something. i said go get your mom, im trying to sleep here. he says, shes gone walking. let me ask you something. i said what!! he opened the door and said, ive got to borrow coco's steps. (these little doggy steps i have by my bed, so she can walk up into the bed if she dont feel like jumping) and he proceeded to try and grab them out. i said absolutely not!!he said she'd left their dog on the bed and she couldnt get off {REALLY}!!?? and that he needed them. i said pick her up and get her off. he said, oh no she will bite me. geeessshhh! needless to say the gloves are on again, or is that off? anyway, i told my son, i have to get a place if she comes back to stay. why cant she run in place or even excersize in a nice cool house where she can watch her kid. she told my son thats boring! well to bad missy. either be bored,or dont do it...but watch your freaky kid. im not a built in baby sitter!! we had the same disagreement not long after she got here. i even close my door as an incentive to say "DONT wake the Bear" lol. im just not good when woken early. for no good reason. I jumped up. went and got the dog off the bed, turned on cartoons, (I dont care what anyone says, if you dont want to watch your kid or need a break, this is mothers best friend!!)Did i say i was cooled down....maybe not completely..lol. Does anyone try to treat you like a built-in baby sitter? doesnt that pi$$ you off? i raised my own. i watched them myself and asked once in a great while someone to watch them . but i ASKED!
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@dragon54u (31605)
• United States
30 Jul 10
She is certainly being presumptive expecting you to watch the boy. But weren't you a little harsh with him? He had, what was to him, a very important problem! It was up to him to manage a dog that is hostile to him and he thought of a solution but needed your permission--sure, he didn't wait for it but in his mind he did what he needed to do and assumed you'd say yes so he took them. I think you should try to be a bit kinder to the boy. He is a victim here, too. The person you should take it out on is his mother. I understand that your post is about her and not the boy but building a working relationship with him will go a long way toward altering his mother's behavior. Think about it, put yourself in her place and assume that if you were her, you and your son were hated (real or not, that's how she probably feels). The fact that he came to you for help means that he knows you aren't a bad person. He's reaching out to you and you should meet him halfway. If he didn't like you or feel safe with you he wouldn't have thought of the steps.
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@bunnybon7 (35832)
• Holiday, Florida
31 Jul 10
i didnt mean that its his fault. i just mean that she shouldnt have done it that way. im not mean to the kid. also, ive been informed that he just said that. the dog wouldnt bite him. we've talked her and i since. the problem is she does spoil him. he tells people NO! and "i dont want to" and not going to, etc. she lets him get away with to much and i cant take it. he comes to me tho and gets hugged and paid attention to. i dont think its my place to correct him. especially when he just goes right ahead with whatever he wants when you say no. my son has a little control over him by stacking quarters on the counter and telling him one gets removed and he wont get any if he dont behave. i was just saying. it made me mad cause she shouldnt left him to wake me.
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@dragon54u (31605)
• United States
31 Jul 10
Looks like you have a kid in your house that's starving for attention and uses his lack of good behavior to get it. Any attention, even bad, is better than none to kids. Good thing is, as he enjoys hugs and attention from you he will begin to want to please you and he'll start listening to you. I hope you got it straightened out. I know how badly my day starts when I wake up before I'm ready! You're in a bad position and I hope you can make the best of it.
@stacyv81 (5904)
• United States
29 Jul 10
Is this your grandchild you are talking about? or her son before meeting your son? Because I think that would greatly influence my comment... but ultimately.. I dont think its right to just up and leave your kid with anyone, because I'd be worried about my kid.
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@bunnybon7 (35832)
• Holiday, Florida
29 Jul 10
yes, that was my feelings when mine was growing up. i never foisted them off on someone else. i hardly let them out of my site unless i had to. then, i asked. nope, not my grandchild and yet ive let him call me that. but, they know that i dont like being rudely awakened early. but still it continues to happen. i usually dont say anything but this was just to much today. put me in a real funk. i wasnt even up yet, so why leave?
@stacyv81 (5904)
• United States
30 Jul 10
Yea I agree not only is it annoying for you but also, not responsible, because leaving a child home with a sleeping adult is the same as leaving him alone, unless he is sleeping too and the sleeping adult KNOWS they are taking care of the child....So, I dont think that is right at all.
@ketybhagat (4125)
• India
11 Aug 10
Hey bonnybon, tough situation to be in. You are staying with your son, and its his house, so you cant even tell her to scoot. But you will have to come to terms with her, for if not today, she may land up as his wife tomorrow and then you will be sort of indebted to her to let you stay with them. What I would suggest that you talk to the little one. He is only 7 and Im sure you could start training him on manners like you did your son. Sit with him and explain the dos and donts, dont expect miracles, he is only 7, but Im sure with some love and understanding, you could work on it. I assume she has understood your reluctance and has stopped going for walks. I little bit of understanding on both sides would work well, so good luck.
@bunnybon7 (35832)
• Holiday, Florida
10 Sep 10
so sorry. i didnt even see this response for so long. yes she quit going for walks. luckily shes gone now, back to NY and calling him all the time wondering why he dont miss her enough to be crying actually he breathed a sigh of relief when she left...because now all is quiet. but im just hoping he will keep all the crap she put us through in mind
• India
13 Sep 10
Hey, this is good news. You must have heived a sigh of relif. But how is your son taking this. Is he really breathing a sigh of relif for your benefit and feeling really blue inside ? Lets just hope things work out for the best, and that he understands the problems she created. Good luck.
@celticeagle (117561)
• Boise, Idaho
1 Aug 10
I think you just need to get a place of your own. Hard as it is and will probably be you need to. You are never going to be totatlly happy until you do so. She could work out something with you where perhaps she went walking every other day so you aren't disturbed DAILY and she gets her walk.
@bunnybon7 (35832)
• Holiday, Florida
1 Aug 10
you know she has stopped altogether. even tho son has been coming home earlier from work so she can. and now she dont even seem to care to. so, you are right. she seems to be doing little things under the radar and i think shes trying to get rid of me without sons knowing its her. but thats ok. i plan on saving enough to get moved by some way believe me.
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@celticeagle (117561)
• Boise, Idaho
2 Aug 10
Ya, you don't need or deserve that. If she is that kind of person he will find out sooner or later. Sad but it usually comes out at some point.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
30 Jul 10
Seems you are going to need more than a hosepipe sweetie. Might i suggest a nice and very big set of speakers. Wait till she goes to bed. Why does she have a child if she cannot take care of him? Oh, and would you be so terribly kind as to watch my little niece for a week, i need a vacation? Thanx sweetie. TATA.
@bunnybon7 (35832)
• Holiday, Florida
31 Jul 10
well at least you are asking. is she spoiled very badly? cause this child is.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
31 Jul 10
Nope, she just have a awesome sense of humor. We never spoil them.
• Pamplona, Spain
30 Jul 10
Hiya bunnybon, I love kids but not forced on me like that. Still I would look after him but with some words for the other when she comes in through the Door. I have never ever been able to leave my Children like that with anyone ever. I have had to take them to work with me too so I would not tolerate this from some other Person. What´s even worse is when they don´t tell you anything either. Poor little lad does she always do that with everyone? I have a great time with Children but you have to be up and alert and it´s not right for them to drop their Children on you when you are still half asleep.
@bunnybon7 (35832)
• Holiday, Florida
31 Jul 10
so true or even total asleep. thats the problem. ive told everyone and everyone that knows me, knows that since i stopped working, im not a very good morning person. i believe in letting me sleep
• Pamplona, Spain
31 Jul 10
Hiya bunnybon, Well heres to them letting you sleep longer. Me for one would not like to have a Child dumped on me without them saying a thing just taking it for granted. Especially if they are going to leave him at that time of the Morning.
• United States
30 Jul 10
Hi bunnybon, Sorry to hear of your problems. I am so glad I have my own house. I do have some problems with one daughter just expecting me to watch kids when she works but that seems to have passed now, so even though there are 10 grandchildren nope not the built in babysitter. Thank God, I am more like a witch with horns holding my hat on so I don't get asked much. I absolutely HATE to be woke up at 7am for any reason. I don't have to be up at that time and I don't want to be woke up!!!! How horrible. My problem is that from about 5-8 is when I sleep my hardest and best so to be rudely awaken that way is horrible for me. I hope that you can find a place of your own or you can reach a workable solution wiht son and GF. Best wishes to you.
@bunnybon7 (35832)
• Holiday, Florida
31 Jul 10
yes im like you. hate getting up early. no job any more so why should i? right? ive been going to bed earlier then ever and still end up getting wakened rudely. its not cool. like i told her if it hadnt been in such a bad way, i wouldnt have gotten as mad. you know,
• United States
31 Jul 10
yep, me too. No job so don't need to be up!! Today I had 3 of my granddaughters then the little one came, then later the older one and a friend! I did not want them all running in and out of the house. Can NOT trust the 3 year old, so of course can't do anything but watch her and yeah, just like you I had things I wanted to do (was cooking a meal for a family in church that lost their son this week, he was the same age as me and had cancer, I have known him always, we were in SS together, youth group together, just friends, nothing else, he was a teacher and also worked at the ycenter)anyway I couldn't do that and watch kids too. I finally sent them all back to their aunts! My 3 year old sounds like your son's gf son!!!!! I really want to help my daughters out but that 3 year old is more then I can deal with and she is the one that they need the help with!!!! I told my oldest daughter she should have had a better mother!!!!!
@jdyrj777 (6558)
• United States
30 Jul 10
My last landlord tried that when i first moved into his house. I let him know right away that wasnt gonna happen. Then a young neighbor girl i used to hang out with while she was pregnant. As soon as and i mean the day she got home from the hospital she wnated me to babysit so she could run to the store. She always wanted me to babysit so she could run somewhere. I let her know right away that wasnt gonna happen. The only kids i want to babysit are my grandkids. My daughter has a babysitter but i would watch them whenever her babysitter could not. Im not old enough for ssi so i still need to work. Babysitting doesnt pay enough to do it as a job. When im done working im tired and do not want to watch kids. Im like you i raised mine and i dont wanna do it anymore than i have to. I raised mine alone so i got the full of it.
@bunnybon7 (35832)
• Holiday, Florida
30 Jul 10
i certainly understand that. i most of the time was alone raising mine to and im tired. as i said before, i dont mind a few hours if the kids well behaved or is taught to do as i say. problem is she didnt even ask, cause i wasnt even up yet.
@jdyrj777 (6558)
• United States
1 Aug 10
yes and that may actually be negelct too. I do not know the age of this child but kids of all ages can get into anything while unsupervised.
@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
30 Jul 10
She really takes over & assumes alot when she comes. I don't blame you one bit. U are right u are not her babysitter. I would love if i could keep my grandson more but he's mine. She should have told the son not to borrow u unless it was an emergency. I know u will be glad when she goes home & i don't blame u for that either.
@bunnybon7 (35832)
• Holiday, Florida
30 Jul 10
she again finally apologised today and said it wouldnt happen again. i guess we will see. still not sure thats true but, this morning, she didnt go, i got up and the kid was quietely watching cartoons. i told her now thats what kids do on summer vacation when they arent going to an activity.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
30 Jul 10
iT'S JUST A BAD SITUATION ALL WAY ROUND. hOPE i have a good weekend, Bon.
@ElicBxn (60802)
• United States
29 Jul 10
I don't blame you a bit, probably why I DIDN'T have children! besides, you probably also PAID them to look after your kids (if not in money then in kind...)
@bunnybon7 (35832)
• Holiday, Florida
30 Jul 10
yes, very true. plus, i would not have left them without asking with someone i had already had problems with their way of doing things with kids.
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@ElicBxn (60802)
• United States
30 Jul 10
• United States
29 Jul 10
How old is he that she left him like that? And didn't even ask you? What if something REALLY happened and you didn't know, is she crazy? What if he started a fire or something? I would certainly tell her to never do that again, ever, unless she asks you the night before, this is just nuts. No, there is not one person I know that would do that to me.
@bunnybon7 (35832)
• Holiday, Florida
30 Jul 10
lucky you. you choose people wisely. hes 7 yrs old and supposedly special ed to. yes i think he takes his stupidness after his mom ive already told her. no use. then my son wonders why im staying mad. i say if someone just continues to deliberately do things like this to you, then , they are really stupid idiot or dont give a chit...right?
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• United States
30 Jul 10
I don't think she gives a crap about what you say. I'd go sleep out in the garage and fix them both. She sounds like nothing but a witch, and your son doesn't have a clue about what he's getting into. I hope you get to move soon.
• United States
30 Jul 10
This kid isn't your grandchild, is he? Anyway, she needs to be a mom and take care of her kid, and if she cannot handle what she has, then she needs to set her priorities straight. I love children and I love animals, but if I were to have any children or pets, I would have my OWN place and my OWN backyard, and I would politely ask my mother if she wanted to babysit my kids, but I would not just dump my children on her. That would rude. When my brother and I were children, we didn't have our first pets, which were two kittens, until the age of 10 and 11, and my brother and I had to show responsibility before we could have those cats, and we had to do some reading. Your son's girlfriend needs to be a mother and she needs to learn to handle what she has.
@bunnybon7 (35832)
• Holiday, Florida
31 Jul 10
no not my real grandchild. may some day be a step grandchild . i let him call me grandma. i really do try and keep in mind that a child will of course do whatever you allow them to and its her fault all this goes on. you are so right.
@nanajanet (4436)
• United States
30 Jul 10
I would tell her that you would gladly watch the kid for the going rate of $15 per hour. If not, she is not allowed to leave the child with you, except for a true emergency. I have not read your other posts so I am not sure of where your son is in all of this, but he needs to step up and say something, if he is around.
@bunnybon7 (35832)
• Holiday, Florida
30 Jul 10
hey nana. yes he says things to her and obviously a long talk was had yesterday. for she apologised today. guess we will see.
29 Jul 10
Hi bunnybon7, I would have been so angry that she has done it again, I would have thrown her out right then and there, I think your son is deaf when you tell him, what is wrong with them, don't they care at all? Tamara
@bunnybon7 (35832)
• Holiday, Florida
30 Jul 10
yes, i think you are right. tamara. its why ive told my son i must have a place of my own. this time i mean it. i dont think he has any sense left himself.
@Hatley (164672)
• Garden Grove, California
29 Jul 10
bunnybon7 if I remember this is your son's house yet that does not mean his girlfriend should use you as a built in baby sitter. when by the way is that pesty woman going home? I would be furious too if that kid was waking me up like that. that's her son let her care for him. I have a built in roomie problem here. she is slowly getting either senile or Alzheimer and does the weirdest things and I an expected by her to find all the crap she loses. it is usually out in plain sight.lol. then she sleeps most of the day when we get to bed she comes alert, she gets up turns on a glaring light, wakes me at two and three and four going down stairs to get ice. now she has a fit if I want to stay up til say eleven pm but she stays awake half the night. I really do not want to change rooms as usually she is sweet as pie. Just wish she would sleep at night like I try to do. lol also changing rooms would be more cable charge as each cable is led to one on the roof for each room and time warner would undoubtedly charge a goodly amount just to change rooms.so must find a way to get my sleep. lol
@bunnybon7 (35832)
• Holiday, Florida
30 Jul 10
that sucks. im so sorry Hatley. it seems we are both people others like to take advantage of and expect us to like it. yes, thats been my problem to. every time i have to move, its always the wrong thing to do and now im in a pickle again.