Husband buys an Extra Cellphone to Call His Girlfriend, Wife Finds It in Closet!

United States
July 30, 2010 4:35pm CST
There were two people in love. They were getting married, but there was one thing, or rather one person causing much pain to the wife to be, another girl. Seems that her fiance had not severed his relationship with an old girlfriend. The wedding was called off and he cried and she took him back. The wedding went on and the new bride is happy and believes her husband is true blue. In reality, the husband was still dating the old girlfriend. The wife found calls and message to and from the old girlfriend. They breakup, but she is pregnant and he wants his family, so they try again. Of course he promises never to see the other woman again. They have a new baby, things are going well,that is until the new mom did the laundry and was putting things away in the closet. While arranging clothes in the closet,to her surprise a cellphone fell to the floor. She picked it and after examining it she recognized the numbers and realized that her husband had purchased an extra cellphone and was still cheating on her. He was not just cheating on her, he was cheating on her with the same girl from before they got married, after they got married and during the marriage. Now what should she do? Leave him for good? Have it out with the other woman? or Put him out of the house? Why didn't he marry the other woman if he could live her alone? ea wife to do when her husband is a cheater from beginning to the end?
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@andy77e (5165)
• United States
31 Jul 10
Well attacking the other woman, is a waste of time. If she did somehow meet the other woman, and convince her to break it off, there's a million other cheating women in the world to take her place. The problem is the husband. He's scum. A waste of human tissue. If this was the first time, then she should offer the ultimatum of ditch the girlfriend, or end the marriage. Since this is the second time, she MUST leave the guy. She absolutely has to, because otherwise why should he believe her ever again? If she does not leave him, then he has no reason to ever leave his girlfriend. Think about it. If you say if husband does X then I'll do Y, and he does X, and you don't... why would he believe you the second time? Or the third? He made his choice, and she has to make hers. Perhaps she should have dated him a bit longer before getting married to find out what character he has.
• United States
31 Jul 10
Hi andy77e, I am in total agreement with you. In fact, I just called him scum in a previous reply. I don't think it would matter what women he is with, I think he would cheat on her as well. It just happens to be his innocent wife and child who is getting kicked around like old shoes.. Absolutely, she should get rid of him and probably should not hve married him in the first place, but what is done is done. The solution to this outrageous farce of a marriage is to give her dog of a husband to the trashy b----h and let them wallow in their own filth. For sure, if she doesn't leave him, she should look for no sympathy from and anyone, and she deserve the treatment. He is never going to stop cheating.
@andy77e (5165)
• United States
31 Jul 10
However I have never met a wife that is 'innocent' either. Nevertheless, what is done, is done, as you say.
• United States
31 Jul 10
Hello and77e, That is hard to believe that you have NEVER met a wife that was innocent. I am not saying that some women don't cheat, that would be foolish.If you don't think men cheat more, just take a listen to the media about all the recent divorces, Tiger Woods, Jess (Sandra Bullock husband) Michael Jordan,not so recent, and on and on. You may hear about a women here and there, for sure,like Madonna, but you have to admit the big time cheaters are men, that's my humble opinion.
• Pamplona, Spain
31 Jul 10
Hiya angel, What a carry on and such a shock for that poor Woman. She must be devastated to say the least. I would up and leave him and get on with my life somewhere else. Even if they did manage to get to talk and work something out there will always be that what if he does it again in the Background. Definitely not trust him at all no chance of that.
• United States
31 Jul 10
hi lovingangelsinstead, This cheater has done it over and over again. As far as I am concerned, everytime he called the other woman he cheated and he has been doing this for a long time. I say that because I am sure when he calls or she calls they are not talking about the weather, if you get my drift. So, yes, she should definitely make other living arrangements, for him!!!!!!!!!! Her best revenge is to move on with her life and be happy and successful.
• Pamplona, Spain
1 Aug 10
Hiya angel, Yes that is what she should do won´t be easy but I just hope she finds someone else and makes her happy enough to forget the other one. Here´s to that. She deserves to be happy many others would have thrown a fit.
• Portugal
1 Aug 10
must leave him for sure. that guy is clearly a liar. that woman gave him a lot of chances and trusted his words for three times. still he continued to lie and if she didnt find the cellphone in the closet he would continue to cheat on her. is clear that he doesnt love her so she must not waste more or her life and time with him. she must find a new guy that really loves her. that one is a stupid. that woman must be happy with someone that doesnt lie and really loves. if she is with that guy she can never find a true love and never a true happiness. just a fake happiness and live in a lie. go find true love bcs we live for it^^ dont waste time with losers^^
• United States
1 Aug 10
Hi sweetloveforeve, I agree with you, he doesn't love her and she must leave him and find someone who will be a decent guy and love her and her baby. The husband doesn't deserve her love and trust. And, yes he is studip for allow another woman to breakup his marriage. He will be sorry, but it will be too late.
@romzz05 (573)
• Philippines
1 Aug 10
Its time for her to move on and leave the husband. Obviously the guy is not planning to change his way anytime soon. He wont be a good role model for his kid. In the long run his philandering ways will not just cause pain to his wife but also to his child better part ways before the love she has for him turns to mad hate...
• United States
1 Aug 10
Hi romzz05, Yes, it is way past time for her to be rid of him. His probably never going to change his ways, I pity the woman that really get stuck with this guy. I just hope it won't be his present wife. She needs someone she can trust to love her and be faithful.
@cream97 (29166)
• United States
31 Jul 10
Hi, Angelgirl16. This woman just needs to leave her husband alone. In this case, it is, "once a cheater, always a cheater". Her husband has no intention of being faithful to her at all. He is still in love with his ex girlfriend. If he is that much in love with her, then he should just marry her and be with her. Why waste someone else time fooling around? I feel so bad for his wife. She trusted him only to be caught back again in his web of deceit of lies.
• United States
31 Jul 10
Hi cream97, You tell no lies, she should leave the cheater and I hope he get just what is come to him. A cheating lover, which he probably already has. Someone yesterday mention the possibility of passing some form of STD to his wife. I think she should get out now. In fact, I think she should have been gone, or better yet she should kick him out. Why should she have to uproot herself and her baby for a louse like that. Why, so he can bring the trashy girlfriend up in there? No! I don't think so. I agree, get rid of him.
@apresto (127)
• Bulgaria
31 Jul 10
In my opinion she should sew him or want a divorce. That is the proper way and the legitimate by the law way. It really is a bad choice to marry a woman with another one on his mind. That is cruel. And from the way you are telling the story it really looks and sounds like he was planning on doing that cheat from before the wedding. Or maybe I didn't get it right? Anyway she should divorce him if he can't make a decision who he loves and who he wants to love and who he actually really loves truly from the heart. They shouldn't be married if there is a cheater in the house. It pretty much sounds like they shouldn't be married if there is a cheetah in the house. It is very close to that. Like an animal's instinct to kill he has the same for loving women. Do they have kids? That can really complicate the situation. You did not say if there was a child involved in that relationship. I assume they don't have kids. Maybe the man is not that stupid to make a baby of his wife while cheating on her. That would be even more cruel.
• United States
31 Jul 10
Hi apresto, Your opinion is a valid one, she should sue him for divorce and move on with her life. Yes, this relationship was going on before they got married, so she did know about the other women, but thought that it was over. So, she trusted him to be just with her. In the 3rd paragraph, I mentioned that they do have a baby, which makes it a really saddir situation. She will still have contact with him because of the child. He is just the scum of the earth.
@ynalane (105)
• Philippines
31 Jul 10
oh! my,what a terrible situation,I can feel the ache and pain in that situation. Well all I can say, Don't nag him,It is so hard to do I know,but you have to let him know that that you know that he cheated you. Ask him why he have to do that in your family.Call the girl,ask that lady about her relationship with your husband. But for sure they will deny it. I would like to emphasize in that action "The importance of they knew that you know the situation.That they will be guilty for their wrong doing.
• United States
31 Jul 10
Hi ynalane, This is not my husband. No, I don't think she should nag him either. What I think she should do is to kick him to the curb and say good ridden to bad rubbage. She should get her divorce and move on with her life. Maybe next time she falls for a guy he won't be a cheater, but I think there are more cheaters than not. So a good mate is hard to find now.
@quelyn (2)
• Philippines
31 Jul 10
this is overly cool that it sounded so pathetic.. i dont want this to happen tp me.. but for me i might quite say cool..
• United States
31 Jul 10
Hi quelyn, I a little confused as to why you think this is cool? I don't think the wife who has been cheated on over and over my her lying husband would think that this is "cool." It is disgusting and he and the other women should be ashame of themselves for hurting anothe humban being the way that they have. There is nothing cool about getting your heart broken by some one you trusted, like your husband.
@elmiko (6640)
• United States
31 Jul 10
i'm sure alot of cheaters probably do this.
• United States
31 Jul 10
Hi elmiko, No doubt. I think the cellphones will be ruining a lot of relationships. You can lie about where you are as long as the cellphone get answered. Cheaters are just loving it.
@ip5217 (1656)
• Philippines
31 Jul 10
What a cheater!!! I would say throw him out of the house and never let him come back. If he can't leave the other woman then let the two stay together. The wife needs to free herself from that kind of stress. That is very unhealthy for her emotionally and physically. She doesn't deserve to be treated that way. Meanwhile, the other woman definitely has no breeding. She is so selfish. I hate guys like this.
• United States
31 Jul 10
Hi ip5217, I agree with you a 100%. The wife should have already thrown him out of the house and never let him back in. You sometimes hate to admit that we made a mistake,especially as of a mistake as to marrying a jerk like this one. She needs to face it and move on with her life. As soon as the wife kicks him to the curb, the other woman will probably not want him either, which would serve him right. He should know how it feels to be used. She probably is not being faith to him anyway. She a woman with no values.
@krnavtr (285)
• India
31 Jul 10
I hate a married man making girlfriend in a another place.I don't know what they are getting by going through second one.Instead of getting thy might loose their belongings and a caring wife too.This type of guys are the real cheaters.Life of a wife would have turn to good if she happen to know his character before she marry with him.Might be thats fate and they had to face as it comes.So friends don't marry a person with whom you can live but marry a person with whom you can't live without.He is not a kind of good husband,so hope you will not regret even he leave you alone.
• United States
31 Jul 10
Hi krnavtr, This is not my husband. I agree with you that he is not a good person and he will lose his wife because he cannot leave the other women alone and just be a good husband. He was cheating from the very beginning and there never should have be a wedding. I hope the wife can move on and find some happiness.
• United States
31 Jul 10
wow this is really messed up for one yea i do think he should of married the other girl in the first place he would have saved this women alot of pain but in a way the women was stupid for taking him back after he continually kept cheating on her that just shows theres no point to the relationship i think she should end it i understand she has a child but this marriage is gonna end up bad anyways so she should save herself some pain and just let it go sorry :(
• United States
31 Jul 10
Hi ilianag16, You're absolutely right, he should have married the other girl, because they both (he and she) are nothing but trash. That is probably why he didn't marry her in the first place. She will not want him after she breaks up his marriage. There will be no challenge for her and she will not want to see him all the time either. They both deserve what they get. Hope the wife can find peace.
• Malaysia
31 Jul 10
WOW! Tragic kind of story. I also wondering about the husband. If he like the other woman, why he marry his wife now and having extra relationship with other woman at the same time. This is not a good example but considering the husband kind of stupid and not being honest to himself and to others specially his wife.
• United States
31 Jul 10
Hi cursoralbert99, You asked the million dollar question, why didn't he just marry the other girl. It appears that he was dating both of them at the same time. He married the one he could take home to his parents, the quality one. So, the other girl is just his "piece on the side." Trash! with no values.
@jaiho2009 (39013)
• Philippines
31 Jul 10
I think the guy needs some special treatment (psychologists) How can this man keep on cheating his wife and keep pretending he loves her wife and yet dating and keeping an old flame. I am not a psychologists myself,but this guy is keeping these two woman not for love,but for his ego. If he truly loves his wife after his wife forgiven him the _nth times. He should have the heart to be a faithful one. But here is the reality,he keeps two woman for his own desires and lust,can we call it love? Another proof that a cheater is always a cheater(which i don't believe coz i still believe that every person had always the chance to change) But in this case,another cheater is on the loose. I hope the wife can make a better decision and have the courage to give her husband learn his lesson. Have a wonderful weekend
• United States
31 Jul 10
Hi jaiho2009, Yes, this guy is definitely in need of some serious counseloring, but I doubt if that would help him. He seems to be a natural at lying and cheating. The wife made some misstakes here too. She kept taking him back and believing in him. I am sure she must have have some kind of signs. If your inner soul tells you to take notice, we need to listen. I just hope she can move on with her life and be happy.
@paula27661 (15899)
• Australia
31 Jul 10
I would kick his butt out to the curb while telling him that he should be with her if that is where he wants to be because I am too good to put up with a cheating husband. I would kick him out, cry until the tears dried up and move forward as best I can. A situation like this is going to be painful and there is no avoiding that but it there is no need to endure such treatment for a man not worthy of a good wife’s love.
• United States
31 Jul 10
Hi paula, Amen! I am hoping she will have the strength to pull herself up by the little thread of digity he has left her and move one. She is the type of girl he wanted to take home to mom, but the other trash is just that someone he wanted on the side to wallow in the pig pin with. They deserve each other. He is not going to want her when his wife finally leaves him for good.
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• United States
30 Jul 10
That is horrible! I do know the Bible says to forgive over and over again but I also know the Bible says if their is cheating going on in a marriage divorce is allowed. I never knew that until recently. Sorry but I would get rid of that guy. He has no love or respect for either of these women... I would get rid of him and divorce him ASAP.
• United States
31 Jul 10
Hi, lilanglespreschool, I know the bible makes it clear that adultery is the reason a spouse can be granted a divorce. I agree with you, If I were she I would be divorcing him so fast it would make him crazy. He really doesn't have and respect for either woman. The lady that he is cheating with is stupid, in my opinion. She is willing to be the other women for all this time, even after he goes and marries the and has a child. She has no respect for herself. Thanks for commenting.
@spalladino (17925)
• United States
30 Jul 10
A cheater is a cheater is a cheater. Someone who has the mentality and lack of character that it takes to cheat on someone he/she claims to love is not going to change. This woman is in for even more heartache if she stays with this man because he has proven that he cannot be trusted. Not only is he hurting her, he is putting her at risk for catching a STD since who knows who else the other woman is sleeping with. She should dump this loser.
• United States
31 Jul 10
Hi spalladino, You have made some very good points her. I am afraid the other women is not faithful to him, so the STDs are a real possibility. I am not sure she has thought about this. I am hoping she will be strong enough to get rid of him and stick to her decision and not take him back, no matter how hard he cries. Fake tears from a cheater....
@mensab (4207)
• Philippines
30 Jul 10
this is pathetic. even though it is said that we should frgive seventy seven times, soon it will run out of reasons to continuously do so. someone has to learn from this story. it can b either the wife or husband or the other girl. otherwise,one keeps hurting the other. i pity the side of the wife. she was used to perpetuate the relationship that is never going to end. but the guy must choose. and he choose to have both. what a pathetic choice!
• United States
31 Jul 10
Hi memsab, This guy has no morales, he has gotten away with this carrying on for a few years, between the women. The wife put her faith in her husband, which was right, but he abused her trust over and over again. The other women has nothing to lose. She has already lost her self respect. The wife is holding the answer to this farce of a marriage. She is either going to stay with this loser and continue to be abuse or she is going to free herself so that she can move on with her life. I hope she chooses the latter.