Improper practice on special child
July 30, 2010 7:25pm CST
Hi guys! i am parenting a child with special needs. I live in a very far province here in the philippines and tell you that looking for a good school for special child is quite hard. Last month after a lot of inquiries, i enrolled her in a sped school that was recommended to me by a friend. at least an hour and a half travel time from our place. we do this everyday. last week, i just had an unforgettable experience from one of her teachers. i was waiting for almost 20 minutes from the time that she should have come out. then finally, i sighted them coming out. the teacher was guiding her and my daughter is crying. she immediately told me that my daughter doesn't want to go yet that she extended time. being uncomfortable, my daughter refused to be assisted and kept on moving her arms up and down wanting to be released. this made the teacher shout at her screaming "SAY EXCUSE ME!!!". right in front of me and all those parents and guardians waiting for their kids as well. i stay quiet and when i got home, i immediately emailed the principal about it. we were brought into a meeting but i finally decided to move her into another school. i just thought that if she can do that in front of me, what more can she do when its only the two of them inside the classroom. my daughter has a speech problem that's why you will never really know what exactly she is telling you but watching over her since birth, from the way she cried that time, i know for a fact that she is being maltreated. What's your opinion about this guys? What actions should be done on the teacher? Every opinion will be highly appreciated. Thanks
• Boise, Idaho
1 Aug 10
I would have done exactly what you did. I would find another school for your child. I would also keep up communication with the principal of this other school and would push to have something done about this teacher that treated your child this way. It was not right and I think you were right in your thinking.
2 Aug 10
actually, i was so surprised when the principal told me that this teacher is a newly grad. i just answered the principal... i won't accept that as an excuse... they were trained for this and they should know how to handle such situations more than i do.
• United States
19 Aug 10
Well, that and you know your child better than anyone else in the world. My daughter nor my son are special children. However, even when they aren't able to properly express themselves, I am able to see when they are mistreated in some way. I think that you did the right thing by removing your daughter from the situation. I've been in a similar situation with my daughter and also ultimately removed her from the situation. I don't know how the governing bodies of schools/child care providers in your area work, but you might see if there is a place that you could report her treatment.
19 Aug 10
in as much as i want that teacher to be punished, i choose to do it in a diplomatic meeting between the teacher, the principal and myself. i told eeeevery single frustrations, dismay and everything bad that i felt during the shouting and grabbing incident. i was told later that the teacher is a newly grad and was only taking her training and is now under observation by the special education department. damage is done though. as i always tell to everyone, if she can do it right in front of me, what more when they're only the two of them inside the room. i just can't wait for another "impulse" reason that she's gonna tell me the next time it happen again.
• United States
1 Aug 10
This is definitely an example of improper actions on the part of the teacher. Like you said if she acts like that with you watching what happens when you are not. I think that I would talk directly to the teacher about my concerns though. Even though you removed your daughter from the school there is a small chance that you'll spare someone else in the future, you know? She might actually correct her mistakes and others would benefit...we can hope!
2 Aug 10
we were actually brought into a meeting with the principal. both of them apologized for what had happened. the principal even told me that she's just a newly grad teacher. huh! i told her everything that i think she deserves to hear. although the principal offered me to transfer my daughter to a better teacher. i refused.
31 Jul 10
dear drake, i live in the philippines and i have been to sped for some business and have also seen how the teachers here are treating the special children. it is very good that they have very long patience. they know when they need to be firm as that is what they are there.. teaching the children and we know that most children with special needs are more difficult to handle when they are stressed or upset. parents knows when their children are not treated well. i guess it was good that you complained about what you saw to the in charge. have a nice day. ann
31 Jul 10
i just thought that it's the best thing to do coz that teacher might have been treating her students that way and knowing my child very well it wont help in any ways. i've been reading a lot of good articles on the net and somehow it has given me profound ideas on how to handle different tantrums and how to even avoid it. i really don't want to sound like an expert but considering the fact that they mastered that field, they should somehow have all the brilliant ideas and even talents on how to handle such tantrums. actually the principal informed me that the teacher(a newly grad) is under observation by the sped department. it didn't stopped me in looking for a better school though.
• Garden Grove, California
31 Jul 10
hi drakesuyat that was inexcuseable of that teacher. she must not know how to teach a special needs child at all. What a terrible way to treat your little girl.She no right to scream anything at your little girl. I had a little girl with brain damage and she was so sweet and so gentle but she w as ill and we took her to the er. mygod they wanted to do a blood test and instead of just sticking her once they made a mishmash of it and had her almost in hysterics and would not let me hold her., she did not know why they were sticking her. she cried o ut to me. they stick me and stick me, they hurt lisa so much mommie.then the doctor came in and in one easy movement she had taken the blood test and she did not hurt her in doing it. she had pneumonia and the doctor who was a woman made them let her do any bloodwork as lisa trusted her.That nurse that mistreated my little girl was move out of peds as she was not good around small special needs chilren. adults cou lt take it but not little kids.
31 Jul 10
oh my goodness. how can this people handle such a delicate case when they for sure know for themselves that they're not an expert on it. it happened to my special girl as well. she was confined for a wound infection. they need some blood testing but considering her case, she has a very small veins that the doctors are really having a hard time looking for a good spot to take a shot. would you believe that one doctor there tried injecting that needle 12 consecutive times on different parts on her arms!!! but never found a a good vein where they can have some blood samples. when the other doctor came to help, she did it on one shot alone and everything is done in less than 5minutes! these incidents are really frustrating.