what is your ideal partner?

Philippines
August 1, 2010 8:59am CST
hey gals and guys...do you have a standard for an ideal man have you found yours? did he or she meet up with your criteria or did he or she didn't...but you still fell inlove?] when i was still single and available.., i made a list of criteria of what my ideal man would be like... Not a really long list but i made sure all the important ones are in there... My ideal man is not necessarily handsome but has a great personality with a good sense of humor...He should be a Christian and a God-fearing individual... He should be loyal and very much inlove with me...and lastly...he shouldn't have any vices..I don't like guys who drink any alcoholic beverages...and i hate smokers too...it's an absolute turnoff..and thanks God i found someone who doesn't have this habits...I am no a happy woman...=)
16 responses
@Angelgirl16 (2171)
• United States
1 Aug 10
Hi deve_annrn, Yes, I did find my ideal partner, who is no longer here. I decided to let God find him for me, and he did. I remember writing a letter to God and asking him for my mister right. I told him everything that I want this man to be, kind, considerate,generous, fun,smart, Christian, not a cheater, and some more good qualities. I guess God had to look really hard to find him, because he didn't come into my life right away, it was a few years later after I wrote the letter, but I knew that God had indeed answered my prayer when I got to know him better. I had never been in a relationship like this one. This man was attentive,kind, generous, and fun. We had the best time of our lives. Anything he bought me was top of the line. We traveled, he took me to Paris for two week for Christmas. When we got there we changed hotels three times because he didn't feel they were quality enough for me to stay in. This is the kind of man God sent to love and care for me for 12 years. I miss him but he is with God now. There are still good guys out there and sometime we need divine intervention to find them. They are worth the wait.
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
Hi angelgirl..i'm happy to hear that you found your mr. right..the guy that God has made especially for you...and yes.., God do answer our prayer..in his own time...as you have mentioned your mr. right arrived a few years later after you wrote God a letter... some people might become impatient when God does not answer their prayers right away.., but God never disregards our prayers..there are some things that God does not grant because He has something better in His great mind....=) You were lucky that God had granted your letter..every bit of it came into life when you met your man..and made you a very happy woman...but it's sad to know though that He went to heaven earlier...i'm sorry to hear that... it made me feel sad...have a great day...
• United States
2 Aug 10
Hi deve_annrn, I had a great time with him and that is because he was God sent. I refuse to date any man who will not respect me and hold me in hige esteem, because I know that that is the way relationships can be. There is not need to settle for less. I too, am sorry he left, but I must go on and live a good life.
• Philippines
3 Aug 10
yes..you are correct..we shouldn't settle for less than what has sent for us exclusively... It is good to let go and move on with your life and live it the best way you could...If he's watching you.., He would want to see you happy even if he's no longer around...=) You can do it...=)
• China
2 Aug 10
My ideal partner should be inlove with me.That is the most important aspect.Because that the matrimony is established on the true love.GOOD LUCK!
@pogi253 (1586)
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
Spending the rest of your life is the most difficult decision to make. One mistake, and your life will be miserable.
• China
3 Aug 10
hi there,why do u think so.If my partner don't love me,she must be trust me,rely upon me.So i also take care of her.
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
11 Aug 10
Ideal partner is someone i cannot live without my life..
@akopoaysi (739)
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
hi deve_annrn!! i maybe one of the blessed ones. i found my ideal man.. and he is the right one for me. my husband is God fearing and very faithful, he is handsome, tall, pointed nose, fair skin, very intelligent (actually he is smarter than me), very sweet and caring, he loves me, he loves my family especially my kuya "older brother" he is a special child, very hardworking but makes time for me, no vices in any kind (maybe just eating), he even drives me anywhere i go (i am a lazy driver), he shops with me (most of the guys i know doesnt have the patience when a girl wants to shop really shop)... i love my man.. (did i tell you that we are almost 3 yrs married, and he still amazes me.. :D) but there is always a downside... many girls and women.. always asking him if he is still available... happy day to me.. happy day to all!!
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
hi akopoaysi!!! you should really be happy every day!!! because you are very lucky to marry someone as good as your husband...that's pretty much rare nowadays to find your lifetime partner who is an "almost perfect" creation of God...and as you have mentioned many women are interested because he is indeed a great catch... i am happy for you... stay inlove with your husband...take care!!=)
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
My ideal partner is a good looking, smart, and jolly girl. I want her to be good looking for me to always imagine her and like her so much. I want her to be be smart for us to enjoy many interesting conversations together. and I want her to be jolly for me to be happy always when I'm with her.(=
@unseenzy (171)
• Philippines
1 Aug 10
I think most of us do this. We all have a list of standards for our ideal man/woman (at least in our mind). I would say that if someone found his/her ideal partner, then he/she must have been really blessed, just like you. You are really lucky that you found someone according to your standards. I thought I was on the same boat as you. All the qualities/talents and everything that I have wished for my ideal man to be was presented right in front of me. No vices, talented, presentable, family man, good background. How would I say no to that. He got everything that I want. But unfortunately, I learned that no matter how perfect your partner is in your eyes, there will come a time that his imperfection will show up as no one is perfect. Then you'll realize that even though he has everything that you've always wanted, there will still be something that will stand out and will somehow contradict about his being "your ideal partner". Well that's when love shows up as well. If you really love the person then you have to accept the negative stuff about him/her as well.
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
yes..that is definitely true...regardless of how ideal my partner is...he does have his certain flaws that i cannot help but notice especially as our relationship deepens and time takes its toll on us... but i love him and i accepted him with all my heart.. his weaknesses doesn't make him half the maN i love and does not lessen my feelings for him...there is no perfect man indeed and i am happy that he isn't perfect because i am as imperfect as he is...and i'm thankful that he has accepted me and love me as i do for him...and i have my fingers crossed for changes...i hope he will never change..=)
@ebuscat (5935)
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
For me spiritual minded person responsible stick to one,calm don't know how to angry not so strict and caring.
@akopoaysi (739)
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
hi deve_annrn!! i maybe one of the blessed ones. i found my ideal man.. and he is the right one for me. my husband is God fearing and very faithful, he is handsome, tall, pointed nose, fair skin, very intelligent (actually he is smarter than me), very sweet and caring, he loves me, he loves my family especially my kuya "older brother" he is a special child, very hardworking but makes time for me, no vices in any kind (maybe just eating), he even drives me anywhere i go (i am a lazy driver), he shops with me (most of the guys i know doesnt have the patience when a girl wants to shop really shop)... i love my man.. (did i tell you that we are almost 3 yrs married, and he still amazes me.. :D) but there is always a downside... many girls and women.. always asking him if he is still available... happy day to me.. happy day to all!!
2 Aug 10
there is no such things as ideal for me loving the imperfect person makes perfect because love is still love no matter what and ideal partner depends on you or lets just say it will work for both person to work it out.
• Australia
1 Aug 10
My ideal man would be someone who trusts me, believes me and respects me. He doesn't have to have Brad Pitt looks but he does have to accept me as I am and not try to change me to how he thinks I should behave and he definitely should not change his personality just because they are feeling secure in a relationship. He should always be true to himself.
• Malaysia
2 Aug 10
It's hard to tell about the criteria for the girl which I am looking for. Anyway, generally, I am kind of hard to fall in love towards someone. I am kind of picky and very careful nowadays. The criteria for the girl which I want to get fall in love with may be listed as these: #1. Know how to cook (specialty in food which I like and cook them the best I ever tasted is the one). #2. Have basic knowledge in taking care of kids. #3. Have excellent knowledge in taking care of the house works. #4. Pleasant looking (as long as she's beautiful enough in my point of view). #5. Honest and kind. Night Clubbers, having habits such as smoking, shopping excessively, high maintenance kind of girls and those who are low experience in cooking and taking care of the house works are prohibited. I just need a low key girl, and that made me fall for them.
@stevo141 (45)
1 Aug 10
Well my ideal guy would be someone who had a good job and good with kids . A man who could show me a good time and respect me . I also like a guy who treats me .
2 Aug 10
the ideal partner..well, he don't have to be handsome but he must be decent. he doesn't need to be rich, but he should be enterprising and have the desire to be better. we'd better fight together for our better life. we have the similar philosophy of life and social. and he loves me enough...
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
Well, I haven't found my ideal man, but I think that whether or not he's ideal won't matter if I really start to fall for him. Well, I think I'd be with a Christian too. I don't have anything against atheists and all, but I think it's best if the guy and I have at least our Religious views in common. Not necessarily handsome, but has good hygiene and good personality. Since I'm a handful, I need a guy who could understand my mood swings and can take care of me. I want someone who doesn't make all those quiet moments seem awkward, someone who knows how to value simple things. Someone who loves the whole of me. I don't mint occasional drinking, but not too often and too drunk. I also don't like smokers, but if the guy's smoking, I'd just keep his lips busy until he stops thinking of smoking altogether.
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
1 Aug 10
I have a dream guy before that I want mine that is rich and genius to the extent that he is a hot guy, handsome who can do the extreme sports. Then it change into simple that are really important to me such as can do the house hold chores, responsible, knows how to go to market, iron clothes, diligent, knows how to respect and love woman, the one I could trust, finally it was accomplished. I don't care if he is not rich but the fact that he is sensible, smart, knows how to fight and defend you, and the bonus part there is he has a good title as Civil Engineer then I considered that as my big blessing.
• United Arab Emirates
1 Aug 10
ideal partner....Life is not always looking for a a perfect person...Its learning to live with an imperfect one. No one is perfect. I have found an ideal person in my spouse. I know she is not perfect and i dont try to make her one...i learn to live with her imperfections. Neither am i perfect, i to have some drawbacks which she is trying to change and she has succeeded to some extent.