Friends Vs. Girlfriend/Boyfriend

@jamuls (530)
Philippines
August 1, 2010 2:22pm CST
have you ever found yourself in a situation where you have to choose between the 2? scenario: the guys wants to go out and have fun, a harmless, non-fooling around kind of fun but the gf won't allow it. or this friend of yours is what she says, a "bad influence" for you. what do you do? this happens a lot to guys and yeah... girls too. why? is this some kind of lack of trust ish or just some insecurities? i sometimes ask myself if i do this to her too but i don't. tsk! tsk! tsk!
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10 responses
@julyteen (13265)
• Davao, Philippines
1 Aug 10
You must know how to manage your time. There's a time for you friends and there's a time also for your girlfriend or boyfriend. If happened that both need your time you must talk to everyone who is your priority. Friends will understand anytime if they are your true friend. Both of them get jealous if you will not explain the real situation. Don't let happened that you will place in a hard situation that you need to choose and someone get hurt because you did not choose him/her or them. Explain your side and I know they or she/he understand if you explain thorough why it is you need to choose that party/parties.
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@jamuls (530)
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
my situation is a bit more difficult where i have to deal with a very stubborn lady that i love so much. :) my friends are a bit demanding too. i can always take hr with me whenever we have this night outs but she'd just go bored so i've stopped doing that. thanks for the advise though.
@hushi22 (4941)
1 Aug 10
I have been on this situation for quite many times and i chose to be with my bf than friends. my friends would understand my decision and i never had problem with it.
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@jamuls (530)
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
but the thing is, what if he/she can't be with you on that particular day and she/he expects you to just stay at home. what would you do then?
@weisz_84 (26)
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
That depends on if the guy had been caught doing folish things.Practically the girl would think folish too to the guy.
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@jamuls (530)
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
i've been caught once and that was it. graduated with honors and proceeded to get a masters degree of FIDELITY after that incident. we're on our 6th year, i was caught back when we were just dating. :)
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
always been a problem to me even now although i am allowed by my girlfriend to go out with my bandmates i sometimes have to "sneak out" just to meet up with this guy in vito cruz called "jamuls" hehehe instinctively we have to hide stuff just so we can enjoy stuff and not be accused of not giving enough time to our better halves sigh
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@jamuls (530)
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
some things never change. arrrrgh! women! sorry, ladies. :)
@sjlskl (3385)
• Singapore
1 Aug 10
Always the case and happen far too often. Most of the time, I have to give up joining up the guys, so much so that they have decided to leave me out for the future outings.
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@jamuls (530)
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
yeah that happens to me all the time. i have to text or call the guys to ask if there's some plan that they "forgot" to mention to me.
@rhodzptc (1319)
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
That is absolutely true that it happens most of the time, in my case it is ok if she/he disagrees for coming or going out with but the thing I won't accept if that they would say I'm a bad influence.
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• Philippines
2 Aug 10
It depends on the situation, really. You can't be with your girlfriend/boyfriend all the time but you also don't get to spend as much time with friends. Since you're in a relationship, your friends should understand that your partner is now one of your priorities and friends sometimes need to take the backseat. At the same time, your partner should also be aware that you also need to hangout with your friends just for purely harmless fun. It's not as if you're each others shadows right? Just try to be honest and open with each other. Inform her whenever you're out with your friends. This would alleviate her concern whether you're cheating on her or not.
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• India
2 Aug 10
ya ofsourse everyone sticks to d same situation
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@grayxenon (1307)
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
normally happens in teenage to late teens relationship usually high school era..but to grown ups? rarely..Because when start to mature you change your focus, from fooling around to having fun together with friends you change it to building your own family and giving you effort to build it right.
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@Harold_ks (1674)
2 Aug 10
For me, my girlfriend is always my priority, and it's not hard for me to decide where I want to be with. If I would have to choose between friends and my girlfriend on whom I am going to be with, it would always be to my girlfriend, as I am very loyal and faithful to her. That's why I would also like to be prioritized always. Have a nice day. Happy myLotting!
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