Only children, no siblings

United States
August 1, 2010 4:49pm CST
Do you think it is selfish to only have one kid? Do only children miss out on not having a sibling relationship? Or do you think they thrive without having a sibling to fight with and take the parents attention away.
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6 responses
@Luvers (170)
• United States
1 Aug 10
well it's hard to say all kids are different it's a chance you have to take if you have a old kid and a baby theyed get along i would think but it's more about the parents and spending equal time with both kids to make it even.
1 person likes this
• United States
2 Aug 10
I always wanted my child to have a sibling, but it just did not work out that way for us. I can't help but wondering if he is going to miss out on things because of this.
@Luvers (170)
• United States
3 Aug 10
well it's never to late to change somthing it deppends if you have the time and money to suport a nother child/sibling it changes things becuse you have more time to spend with each one and you can find somthing to do with both kids and bonding and talking is the best thing if you child is having any problems just ask it helps but have a sibling is nice if your child wants a sibling then that would be great all you gota do is ask but it itent up to you child is up to you most of all
@jerikjames (1045)
• Philippines
1 Aug 10
I think Luvers is right. Children have different natures and preferences and it's pretty hard to tell if they would like to have siblings or not. But from my experience, the only children I know want to have siblings. They get all they want but they want someone to share it with and to bond and share kinship with. And those who have siblings, say that the don't want their brother or sister, but if you get to know them better, you'll find out that they have a deep love and affection for their siblings. Blood is still blood, no matter what a child's preference is, he wouldn't shake the sense of blood relationship should he have a sibling. S I think, yeah maybe we have different preferences, but deep down, we still crave for that blood kinship we share with our siblings. And no, I don't think it's selfish to have one kid, because it's your choice.
• United States
2 Aug 10
I always wanted my son to have a sibling, because I loved having a brother and feel lonely all the time now that I don't have him anymore, he passed away. So with my son, he doesn't know any different but was still wondering if he will miss out on having that sibling relationship later on or I just feel lonely because I had a sibling and now I don't.
@petersum (4525)
• United States
1 Aug 10
I remember from my schooldays, a long, long time ago, that most of the head boys and prefects were only-childs. All the brainy, nerdy types were! But they were lacking in so many other ways. Now, I have one daughter, by luck, God's will, or whatever you want to call it. I wanted more but it didn't happen. Is she missing anything? Yes, I really think she is!
• United States
2 Aug 10
I have one child also, wanted more but did not work out. He seems fine now but I see some people who are only children and I wonder if they get very lonely as they grow up.
@laniekins (4585)
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
I came from a very big family, got 8 siblings and it has a lot of disadvantages more than advantages. I sometimes thought to my self that I wish I am the only child to have the things I need, specially materials cause I am really lacking on it. I think only child missing the joy of having siblings and they most of the time, a spoiled brat.
@katsmeow1213 (29044)
• United States
2 Aug 10
I've always said that a parent with only 1 child should not truly be classified as a parent, lol. I mean they really have no idea what it's like. When they see crayon on the wall they already know who did it, when something is broken or missing, they already know. There's none of this trying to sort out which child did it, listening to each of them blame each other. They also don't deal with all the "he's touching me, she's looking at me" type stuff. As far as the kid is concerned.. I think there are pros and cons. The family has more money so the kid can do more than he or she could if there were siblings, like they could enter more sports and programs that the parents would otherwise not be able to afford. But I think it's nice for kids to have siblings to play with, and of course when they're older having more family to be with on the holidays, and cousins for their own children... I'm glad I have a large family, it's going to be great once they're all grown and have kids of their own... of course I'll need a huge house to hold them all at Christmas and other holidays, lol.
@angguloy (85)
2 Aug 10
I have friends that don't have any siblings--- and all of them came to the point that they wish to have even one.. The more the merrier! :D Happy Day!