Getting a tattoo of someone's name

@saizo6 (2211)
United States
August 2, 2010 1:04am CST
My friend wanted to get a tattoo of her boyfriend's name but I keep telling her that it's not really a good idea. Tattoos are permanent things (sure you can remove them but that's expensive) after all and it would be strange to have if they ever broke up or something. So my question is, would you get a tattoo of someone's name? Or do you actually have one already? For me, it comes down to the name. I know some people who has their kid's name tattooed on their arm and I'm cool with that. That kind of relationship is unchanging no matter what. But I'm iffy on the significant other one. It might be cool to have if you can make the relationship lasting. But it would be plain awkward to go around sporting your ex's name on your skin.
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12 responses
• United States
3 Aug 10
Well, the creepiest thing happened to me in the hospital. I met a man who had MY NAME tattooed on his arm, and the man has the same name as MY BOYFRIEND! I had to question him on it because it was intriguing. The name on his tattoo was his ex-wife's name and her name just happened to be the same as my name. Was this coincidence? Probably, but it was a really crazy coincidence.
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@saizo6 (2211)
• United States
3 Aug 10
Oh wow, that is really crazy. I'd be kind of spooked out if I were in your shoes. Is it probably because you guys have common names? But anyways, that is kind of mind boggling.
@kring_m (107)
• Philippines
3 Aug 10
i also have my friend's boyfriend tattooed her nickname on his triceps and luckily they're still together. but when we found out that he had it done our initial reaction was not good and even my girlfriend wasn't that flattered when she found out he had her name written across his arms, knowing that her boyfriend is a playboy. And she always confides her problem to us about that. So, i think it is not a great idea to get your partners name tattooed specially when not married with him/her.
@saizo6 (2211)
• United States
3 Aug 10
Hmmm...that is an interesting reaction your friend had. I didn't even take the other party into consideration. Something like this definitely needs to be discussed by both parties beforehand since it is a sign of a deep commitment.
• Australia
3 Aug 10
I'm not so sure, my son has his girlfriend's initials tattooed on his arm and I had the same feelings as you when he told me he was getting it done and his answer was simply that if they ever broke up that he would just tattoo over the top of it. I guess this is a simple answer if it is done in such a way that that would work. I have my kids names tattooed on my arm and few other tattoos as well so I suppose it could be done and still look good.
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@saizo6 (2211)
• United States
3 Aug 10
That's cool that you have your kids names tattooed on your arms. And the initials thing isn't too bad an idea either. It's not the full thing and if you do do it right it is possible to cover it up. I think it comes down to the size of the tattoo too. Smaller ones are easier to cover. You can do it with the big ones but that would mean getting an even bigger tattoo over it.
• United States
3 Aug 10
I have to say that it isn't a good idea at all. How would your friend be able to explain that to her next partner down the line? Something like that could be seen as creepy if you ask me.
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@saizo6 (2211)
• United States
3 Aug 10
True, true. It could cause a strain in a relationship since that tattoo would be a constant reminder. I see it as being kind of stupid but creepy works too.
@ANIME123 (2473)
• United States
3 Aug 10
Yeah I know what if they did break up that's why when your together with someone you never know what may happen. I would never get a tattoo if I had a boyfriend because it is permanent and it would hurt a lot to get it removed, ow. I don't think that I would be able to handle that much pain. Also you know the tattoo will be there and I will look at that name and that will cause me more pain because I won't be able to forget about it, so it's best if your friend doesn't get a tattoo of her boyfriends name try to convince her any way that you can because she may end up regretting it ever so much.
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@saizo6 (2211)
• United States
3 Aug 10
I know what you mean, I don't think I'd be able to handle the pain either. I just keep thinking about all the various things that can go wrong and I have firmly decided to never ever get any kind of tattoo. But as for my friend, she is seeing the light so to speak. I think she's opting for a tattoo but not of her boyfriend's name anymore.
• China
2 Aug 10
in my country,the one who get tattoos is seen as evil ones.my boyfriend will never agree me doing this,and i will never have that try.there are so many ways to show you love somebody,why you just choose it?if you love your bf or babies,you can treat them friendly.getting tattoos couldn't indicate anything of your love.
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@saizo6 (2211)
• United States
2 Aug 10
Hi colorfulseafish, wow that's a really interesting perspective. I suppose this is a case of culture clash. Tattoos are a form of art here but I do agree that there are other ways to show someone you love them besides branding yourself.
@weisz_84 (26)
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
Tattoos are considred as art,body art,but at your friend's case,I think she's just obsessed to his boyfriend.but i do agree with you that she shouldn't have done such,that sure will leave a mark.....
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@saizo6 (2211)
• United States
2 Aug 10
Hi weisz_84, the good thing is that she hasn't done it yet, just contemplating on it. And hopefully she won't go through with if after I present her with these comments.
• United States
2 Aug 10
Personally, I would not get a tattoo with the name of a person I am with. I have been head over heals and completely in love before. We thought about getting tattoos to represent forever the way we felt. I am glad I didn't get one because I would have a hard time explaining a name on my skin if I get serious with a new guy. I don't think it would be too hard to explain it to a new boyfriend, but I can't imagine trying to justify it to his family or friends. Plus it would be a constant reminder that I have been with someone else. He would know that I'm not the first, but nobody wants to be constantly reminded that the person they love was once in love with someone else. However, I do think that getting a tattoo to represent a commitment is a good thing. Just don't put a name in it. Use a simple saying or image that means something to you as a couple. The guy I almost got a tat for did get one for us shortly after we split up. I left him because he had some issues that couldn't be ignored any longer and he got the tat to prove his love. Instead of my name he got a saying that we held very dear on his chest...over his heart. It is written in Old English text. It reads, "Then. Now. Forever." It's corny, but it is something that we signed every letter with and said often...even while fighting. I hope your friend decides not to brand her body with a name. Instead I recommend suggesting to her that she could get a saying or image of some sort that would represent their commitment. Something easier to explain in the future...just in case.
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@saizo6 (2211)
• United States
2 Aug 10
Hi anobel1984, glad you didn't go through with the idea. Your next boyfriend might have been understanding about the whole thing but I agree that it would be awkward for friends and family to see it. And I like that idea of yours. It's definitely better then having someone's name. With the you can always come up with an alternative meaning behind it if needed. Thanks for that idea.
@arakawaii (270)
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
It's not bad to put tattoo with your boyfriend's name on it if your intention was to show him how much you love him but I have to agree with you that what if later on, you guys broke up and surely it's awkward not only for other to see that tattoo but also for yourself isn't it?. If I was to do something like that I would also think the possible thing that might happen in the future, you'll never know you guys are not meant for each other.
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@saizo6 (2211)
• United States
2 Aug 10
That's right arakawaii. I tend to think that most of the people who do get those tattoos don't really think about all the possibilities and things that can come up in the future. I wouldn't call it a spur of the moment thing either, but I suppose it's something along the line of being caught in the heat of passion or love or whatever.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
2 Aug 10
Unless you go through a lot of turmoil, a tattoo is forever. If you tattoo a name, you need to be sure of the commitment you have for that person in your life. You have to live with decision to carry their name with you everyday.
@saizo6 (2211)
• United States
2 Aug 10
Nicely said sender621. Something like this is no joke so unless it's forever then you shouldn't go through with it. It's not right to go out and get the tattoo just for the sake of having it. That's pointless and stupid.
@calai618 (1779)
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
I totallly agree with you. i know tons of people who had troubles covering their tattoos because they have broken up with the person they had the name tattood onto their bodies. The least your friend could do is wait till they get married so it will be less likely for them to end up separated. If they still do, at least she can say that it was from a man she loved and married. I also dont believe that having a persons name tattood on your body is a way of showing love especially if she was pressured to do so.
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@saizo6 (2211)
• United States
2 Aug 10
Hi calai18, thanks for responding. I agree that it's not love if the other person is pressuring you but she just thought it would be cool to have which I disagreed with. It must be tough for all those people, they are probably all regretting their decision. Or I guess they could use it as a learning experience.
@ellie333 (21020)
2 Aug 10
Hi Saizo, No I would never get a tattoo with any name unless I got one of my children's names as these days relationships do not seem to last a lifetime like they used to and I am sure if they split up the next boyfriend wouldn't be too happy having to see another guys name on her arm. You gave her good advice, whether she will listen or not though is up to her. Huggles. Ellie :D
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@saizo6 (2211)
• United States
2 Aug 10
Hi ellie333, thanks for commenting. I only hope that she was planning on getting that tattoo on her arm, didn't bother asking after all. But you are right. Relationships do come and go these days.