How often do you obey your parents?
August 3, 2010 5:09am CST
Since i am the youngest and only girl among siblings, I usually obey my parents and bros. That is why sometimes i feel bad when even for some small things they don't let me do. I've been doing great in everything they asked me to do, yet in a very small thing I want I can't do. Sometimes I feel I'm fed up, but still ended with obeying them. How about you?
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23 Aug 10
as for me, i'm the oldest of 4 siblings and am really used to obeying orders. i can understand your feelings though when you say that there are some things you want to do but can't. it's the same for me as well. but i guess it's the way i've been brought up partly that i'm the way i am now although personality also plays a part i think. i think they did the same with my siblings as well, but they turned out really differently, especially the youngest two. both of them are stubborn with their own mindsets. sigh for me, not only am i so obedient, i also always ask for permission whenever i go out or if i'm late in coming home. it's been ingrained in me since young i guess. and i also know that if i don't let them know my whereabouts from time to time, they will worry and thus, always let them know where i am or what i'm doing, and i never never hide secrets. even now, when i'm married with kids, i still feel the same way and in a way, i guess i kind of expect my children to keep tabs with me i guess though, who knows what will happen as they grow older.
3 Aug 10
Yeah I also do the same...I don't have any siblings so I think my responsibilities are even more... They always think I'm the only child so their every dreams are of me...They want to fulfill their own desire by me...and most of the time I love to do..but sometimes I also feel like fed up but again can't express it because I want to show my obedience. It's not always easy because as a girl we always be obedient to our parents, siblings and relatives, then after marriage our husband and when we are old we have to listen to our child...so when I'll get my freedom to say my own and do whatever i want to do without considering what others thinking about it...but the reality is ...it's not possible at all...at least if you are not exceptional..
26 Aug 10
I don't believe that a person should obey during his/her lifetime. Everybody has the right to decide whether to do something or not. It is our right which we are born with. If somebody doesn't accept that, then it means that he/she doesn't respect you enough to believe that you are a capable human being, with full rights and virtues. Of course, if you are at job, they can say you what to do, but you have the right not to fulfill the request and accept the consequences. But the most important thing is that you to be satisfied with yourself, not everybody else, and you not to be. I try to live my life guiding myself with this. I don't need to be loved, I need to be respected and acknowledged as a capable human being.
28 Oct 10
Now? well I don't need to but I generally listen and respect my parents. As a child at times I tried to bend the rules, I was a little naughty then but in my teens I wasn't much of a problem of course I would be lying if I always did as I was told but I knew when to listen and the most important thing was the fact I learned too. Most people would of experienced being unruly at times, I'm no different and I know far worse people who gave their parents nothing but grieve.
8 Aug 10
I grew up with my grandparents, and they had stricter rules in the house. Like respecting them by obeying because their elderly etc. But my grandparents are also reasonable. They wouldn't make me do something that I wouldn't really need to do. I do chores around the house, even if they have to remind me sometimes. And I get the occasional scoldings once in a while. But I took it in good faith. Because I know that what they ask me to do is for my own good.
5 Aug 10
I am a good girl in my family and there is no question about obeying or not obeying my parents at home. I am free to make any choices about myself. Such as the school I wanted to go, the major I wanted to study in the college, the workplace I wanted to go, the job I wanted to do,etc. I enjoy free right about doing a lot of things in my family. My parents seldom force me to do any thing. I know that many of my classmates are tired of their parents asking them to do something. So I feel I am a very lucky girl that born into such a family that I can enjoy free choice of doing many things on my own.
4 Aug 10
hello,hushi22 i think when we are a young boy or girl, we often obey the parents.because we are so young and know few things.as we gwow up,we can take about the things with our parents what we want to do.and they will like to see that because they know we are old enough to deside what we should do and what we should not to do. best wishes.
4 Aug 10
yes that's tough. what about trying to do something independently to show them that you have grown up and are capable to take care of your affairs? we do need to respect our parents and obey their orders because one day we will leave them and lead ourselves life and they are not going to see us around always. but it doesn't mean that we should obey anything.
4 Aug 10
I wouldn't say that I obey my parents, but I would rather say that I help out my parents quite a lot. But if their requests are unreasonable than I wouldn't help them too much, especially if the results would only turn out to disappoint them.
4 Aug 10
It has been a very long time since I was in a situation where I had to obey my parents! I am a parent myself now so I am trying to instil respect for us from our daughter. I am probably not a very good example because I had a rather tumultuous childhood due to abusive parents but having said that at the time I still obeyed them and always imagined them to be right; in my case they weren’t of course…In general good parents should be respected and obeyed for sure.
4 Aug 10
sometimes i am a hard headed..this were become i will disagree with my parents, to think that i know what i am doing..but there is a saying that"children obey your parents for this is right"..and i know they are right coz parents do not want their children to be in danger and i know what we now is they will experience it already..that is why they are the one who knows everything which is good for us..
4 Aug 10
Hi young friends, I have taken a great interest in this discussion. It is like listening to my own daughter (sort of). She is 16 years of age. She is a very good kid. She is not out getting high or getting into trouble, but she just won't listen to me when it comes to certain things. Like cleaning her room. She even tells me that when I ask her to do it, she can't, but she will eventually do it on her own. (I'm still waiting for that time to come). Maybe you have some suggestions of what I could do to make her pull her weight. I have tried all the usual measures like taking away phone privaleges, taking away computer time. She is just sooooooo stubborn. She seems to respect me very much except when it comes to things like this. We have a very good relationship. I am a friend to her, but more I am her mother. I thought that was the cool thing to do? I don't know anymore. Help!!! lol Cheryl
4 Aug 10
at all times... i was an obedient child..i obey my parents against my will.. to the extent of hurting myself.. i love my parents and i don't want to disappoint and hurt them... so when there are things that i know the will not approve me doing.. i wouldn't bother telling them about it...hahaha... what they don't know won't hurt them...=)
4 Aug 10
I was the only child of my friend. But my parents do not indulge me, my parents always strict with me. They want what is best for me. Sometimes, they do not let me do some work and I feel frustrated. They do not prevent me somethings are true but somethings are wrong. Anyway, they are my parents.