Choosing the best partner in life.

@chefjo (13)
Philippines
August 4, 2010 10:29am CST
There are people who would say that it is good to have a husband or wife who shares your personality, your preferences or likes and dislikes. While others would argue that those who have opposite characteristics are better pairs. In the first options they would say that arguments are eliminated because they can agree on most things, they are on the same level so to speak. But is it not boring? Sometimes we like to be challenged. On the other hand those who are opposite in character are like counter balance to each other. One would tame the other. But would this not spark constant debate? What would you say?
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@ptower76 (1619)
• United States
4 Aug 10
It is true that opposites attract. It is only natural that we are drawn at times to people that are different from us. It tends to lead to excitement and as you say challenge. But when searching for a life partner, I believe being opposite will only lead to eventual failure. After all, how long can we tolerate the differences of others in almost every facet of our lives? Eventually, those same opposite features that attracted us will be the same featues that will repulse us. While it may seem that life will be boring if both are compatible, compatibility is a good foundation for longevity in a relationship. Partners that are compatible will find ways that both enjoy to deal with the challenges of boredom in their lives and will perhaps never be bored with each other.
@chefjo (13)
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
I must admit that it is more difficult for partners to be opposite rather than to be on the same line of thinking. It is here that the love for each other plays a great rule. Love leads us to compromise for after all relationships should be a mutual give and take.
• Portugal
5 Aug 10
the truth is we cant choose who we can love. it just happens but sure the best partner would be the one that has some things like us but other things different^^ so we can argue sometimes too. you are right is boring if couples always agree in all and are always happy. arguements are also good to make a relationship better^^ about me i like to provoque arguements sometimes bcs we can see if the person really loves us with what person says^^
• United States
5 Aug 10
In the ways that matter, my husband and I similar. I would rathe rhave somoneone share my values than my interests. Most important to us, we don't like to argue. My hubby said it best years ago "The fact that we hate conflict will probably keep us stuck together like glue forever". My 20 anniversary is approaching so I guess it is true
@cris88 (2)
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
I agree that pairs with opposite characters are better. This is because having the same character will be boring through the years. It would spice up more if there is a counterpart. The best thing about it is that it will complete you.Your partner, having an opposite character will fill in the missing sides of your life. Having an argument with your partner? I think it would not lead to that point because before going into a relationship, both of you agreed and knew your differences.
@jpso138 (7844)
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
Me and my wife have does not have much in common in so far as hobbies, favorite food are concerned. We do like the same kind of movies and like to go on nature places. But this does not mean that we argue all the time on who will be followed and which should be given priority. The thing is we appreciate each other likes and share each others passion as well as support each other. We treat each other with respect. So I think it does not matter whether you have a lot in common or you do not have much in common. In my opinion, love and respect to each other is the most important of all to keep the relationship strong and great.
@babz02 (250)
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
I always believe that there is that someone that perfectly fits with us. I know that when she comes, she will stay, and that love will find a way. That's why we go on relationships, to find the right one, and I know, we'll know it when the right one comes along.
@aldawn22 (224)
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
In science the law states that "opposite attracts but positive repel". In my case me and my boyfriend both have the same and different character. Even though that there are things that we are opposite in some ways but we don't take it a big deal. We learned how to adjust and accept the differences that we have. Whereas in the things that both of us love doing, of course that's more enjoyable. But there are also things that I don't like doing first but because of him I learned to like it as well. Relationships are really like that, people are unique, we just have to learn to adopt to different people specially to our partner in life.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
5 Aug 10
I believe it is important to choose a partner who shares your dreams. Someone who has the sames tastes and likes and dislikes is the best choice in partner we can make. We also want to try to find that special someone who has some different quality than us. Having different qualities may be what attracts you to them most. You want to have as much in common as possible with your partner. Yet your differences will make the journey exciting.
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
i believed that, in choosing a partner in life, or love of your life, don't matter on what kind of person he or she will be, because the foundation is LOVE, and to love is to accept that person and be with that person and make happy with that person. if both of you really fall in love with each other. then everything fall into places. i guess.because if you are in love, you will accept and accept, both of you.