he was not my ideal man, but he is someone i cannot resist falling for!

Philippines
August 4, 2010 11:39pm CST
i met my husband, 5 years before we get married. he is not the man i am dreaming of to be my boyfriend, so for that 5 years of him courting me, we never became lovers. what we had is a very special friendship that goes beyond a love affair. he is so sweet and thoughtful, never forgets to give me flowers on special days, although he works as a seaman. he never fail to make me happy, then i realize that i an falling for him everyday, i miss his sweetness and thoughtfulness when he is away. then i decided to marry him, as he always said, he wishes me to be his wife. and we never go through a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, we get married and i never have any regrets, because now, he just started to court me again and treats me as his girlfriend. i love him so much, and he loves me more...
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17 responses
• Indonesia
5 Aug 10
it sound that he'is very special man you have to be greatful you can live with him sometimes we must accept our destiny and enjoy this life more wise
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• Philippines
6 Aug 10
thank you for your response. i am really glad that i stop pursuing for an ideal person, because with my decision of marrying my not ideal one, i became happier each day.
@dian21 (606)
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
that is really sweet story. Even if you did not have a formal boyfriend girlfriend relationship, still you experienced the same feeling as to those bf gf relationships. That is really inspiring to everyone especially those who are planning to get married. It is very important that you love more each other each day even if he is away as a seaman, his physical absence makes your love grows fonder. Hope that it will continue forever.
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• Philippines
5 Aug 10
thank you for your response. i am really glad that we did not pass through that stage, because that's what we are enjoying right now. seldom are enjoying this kind of romance at this stage when they are already married. i am glad that my boyfriend and husband are just one person.
• Australia
5 Aug 10
He sounds like a really sweet person, make sure you hang onto him, he sounds like he is rare and special.
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• Philippines
5 Aug 10
he really is. seldom you could find a man who will wait for such a long time, without him getting tired to do things that would make someone happy. i just found the best.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
oh, wow. this is such a sweet story. i have almost the same love story. i guess it is how love was shown. sometimes what we perceive as ideal is not true. we get carried away by influences, norms, suggestions, etc, of what an ideal man is. and we always never expect that love is a many splendored things with someone who is at times not exactly the ideal or maybe the opposite.
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@SimpleBB (1332)
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
Probably yours is love made in heaven. It is very seldom that it happens, started as friends, long distance relationship and suddenly without formal courting, got married. Your story is rare. Just learn how to nurture your relationship and it will be your happiness forever. Good luck and congratulations.
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• Philippines
5 Aug 10
wow! nice love story. a never ending one but will live happily ever after! i love this kind of romance, the unending courtship. marriage will really work for this and gets more stronger day by day! i think we have something in common for the love and life we experience... may GOD bless us more with faith, hope and love!
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@nancy0618 (477)
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
you are lucky to have your man, not all people got to meet an excellent better half. even if we have an ideal man it does not necessarily mean we got to meet this guy. i hope you will grow old together as couples. wish you the best
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@echomonster (2227)
• Greenwood, Mississippi
5 Aug 10
Well, I don't think real people can ever quite match our ideals. You don't need an ideal match, just someone as committed as you are...and it sounds like you have a person like that. I think you did things just right -- it's wise to take your time and not rush into things. Your husband had to be very patient over those five years, but I'm sure he's thankful every day now that he didn't give up!
@maean_19 (4662)
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
That is an amazing and inspiring love story. Compared to my love story, I thought I have found the right guy for me 9 months ago. Do not get me wrong, for 9 months now, I have a new bf after a more than 5 years relationship. I am supposed to get marry this coming October with my more than 5 years old bf, but some thing changed. He is working abroad and I was left here in Manila. I thought I was able to cope with the long distance relationship and I really did. However, one day, I met this new guy. Like you, he is not my ideal guy, but I cannot resist falling for him as early and as fast as like I can give up everything for him. Sad thing, I broke up with my fiancee and chose this new guy. 9 months has passed and still going strong. I think I wanted him to be my husband, but like other stories, there are issues that is very complicated. I will not tackle that in here.... Good thing for you that he married you and still treating you like you are in your courtship stage. That is so great. I wish I will end up like your love story. Stay in love!
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@babz02 (250)
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
That is why we have MR. Right, because we can never have Mr. Perfect. =))
• Philippines
6 Aug 10
NICE ANSWER! ^_^v i totally agree!
@babz02 (250)
• Philippines
6 Aug 10
Thank you for agreeing. I'm hoping she's my Ms. Right. =))
@Hatley (164640)
• Garden Grove, California
5 Aug 10
hi churchill but yes he did become to you finally your ideal man although he was not to start with. I am very happy for you as I remember how happy I was in my own marriage although I have been a widow since 1991 but I felt so much like you describe your own marriage. Its hard to describe how wonderful it is to love like that and be loved like that. I wish you a long and happy marriage as I had. God Bless you both.
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
thank you for the response. and yes, i am so thankful that he is more than just an ideal man to me now, because he is real and i will be spending my lifetime with him. like you, i wish we will keep this love burning as long as we live.
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• Philippines
6 Aug 10
good for you!!! ^_^v God gives us who we need, not necessarily who we want... For He knows what's best for us!!!
@akopoaysi (740)
• Philippines
6 Aug 10
that is so sweet! he maybe not the ideal man. but he is the right man for you!! have a happy day!!
• Philippines
6 Aug 10
I'm happy you've gone through marriage, most friends do not engage on deeper relationships respecting ones status though deep inside their really in love with each other. I hope things will go smooth and fruitful with your marriage. God Bless always.
@hongocha (63)
• Thailand
5 Aug 10
oh! you guys are admirable. he wasn't your dreaming man but he made you happy, keep him with you whatever it takes. good luck
@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
hello church, At least you never had any regrets for choosing him. This is one story of friendship and love. That is why they say,starts with friendship and become lovers is much better to know each other well before compromising with each other. You are so lucky to have your man (not your ideal but now an ideal man of your life) Have a good day always
• Vietnam
5 Aug 10
Woa, really a beautiful love story.I broke up my first boyfriend 2 years ago but now, even a normal relationship between friends is too hard for us. He can not accept that everything over just because differences about personality and cognitive.I 'm so glad for you , for having a great man in your life, a person can understand you fully.Hope you two happy forever.