I'm not the favorite in the family...do i have to be sad?
By SimpleBB
@SimpleBB (1329)
Philippines
August 5, 2010 8:12am CST
People say it is common to a family to have a favorite child. Just like in school being a teacher's pet. People have individual differences and varies in their way of thinking as well. I know someone that happens to be a favorite child in the family, but take note that he's not either only child or first child of the family. Everybody wants to be pampered especially a child. But do all child feel happy being favorite? And how about the remaining siblings in the family? how will they feel being not the favorite one? Will it be an advantage or the opposite?
Not all of us have been parents, but siblings..yes we are. How will you feel being the favorite one or being not the favorite?
2 responses
@lilangelspreschool (1129)
• United States
5 Aug 10
I am not the favorite child in my family and it has affected me in a terrible way. I have felt discouraged, lonely, insecure and overall pretty sad. I think it does have some kind of effect on each person in a different way. My younger sister is still the favorite even as adults, her kids get treated differently than mine and everything so it definitely hurts a lot. Just my take on it though...
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
10 Aug 10
Hi lilangelspreschool.
You're certainly right that it has an effect both the favorite one and the non-favorite. But don't take it seriously. Everyone is lovable in her own way, and someone says that there is another family member who loves you, and that is true. Since you have your children, just don't let them feel the pain you're going through now. Everybody has her own character to be loved and probably that's the best thing you have to look into and inculcate to your children for them not to suffer the same pain as you have now. Thanks for sharing and commenting to htis post.
@louisefrank (356)
•
5 Aug 10
This is a difficult issue. I think most parents would do their very best to treat their children exactly the same and to love them all equally. However, human nature being what it is, they may feel closer to one child than another. Most times it's just a slight personality clash and, although it's difficult, the child shouldn't take it to heart. Just because your parent might favour one child over another, it doesn't mean they don't love the second child deeply.
@SimpleBB (1329)
• Philippines
10 Aug 10
Yes Louisefrank, you're right. Actually, I'm just hoping that for those siblings who happens not to be a favorite would not take this seriously to heart. There may be someone in the family who loves them anyway. Thanks for sharing your views in this post.
