Is this harassment? how can I get them to stop calling?

United States
August 6, 2010 8:18am CST
I don't know what the real deal is here. But some company keeps calling looking for my Sister-In-Law. We are assuming it's a skip trace... at first they were automated calls asking of she was there? press 1 not there press 2 to let the person get to the phone 3 this is not "Jane Doe". Now were getting a live person who wants to talk to her. Well guess what SIL doesn't live here! She lives on the other side of the country, I don't know her # off hand. I've called MIL and told her this is annoying me to be called everyday, sometimes several times a day. I told the rep I didn't know her #, but MIL is in contact w/ her and I would pass the info on. How do I get them to stop calling me? I'm sure she put us down as a reference or nearest relative for a loan on something hence the skip trace. Do I give the rep her cell # & mailing address? I wasn't going to do it but man I texted her a few days ago to say they gave me a # for her to call to straighten things out. Well I just got another call this morning. I'm just getting annoyed about all this! & BTW.... a day or two before Christmas we had gotten calls as I guess she was behind in her car payment. MIL had gotten them too and called her upset over this. But I'm guessing because I'm the lucky devil who gets the newest calls MIL won't talk to her fav child over this. WWYD??
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@tweetbird (161)
• United States
6 Aug 10
The best way to solve annoying and interruptive phone calls is to disconnect the phone number and get a new one with no forwarding. Some people have their phone line connected with Comcast for example. In that case, a simple modem change also gets a new phone number. Give that number to friends and relatives and the rest can go suck an egg. Problem solved.
@megabiz (185)
• United States
6 Aug 10
That's telling it like it is. I have had problems with phone harassment myself in the past few months and did just as you said, had my number changed and let the harassers suck there eggs. You gave an awesome point there. Like your way of thinking. Take care. :)
@shira0524 (483)
• United States
6 Aug 10
You should demand to speak to the manager at said company, and if they won't forward you, take down the name and a contact phone number and then I believe there are places you can call (if you are in the US at least) to report them. You should be able to call the Better Business Bureau as well, to report them. If you get a number at least, you can call and speak to a supervisor and explain that your SIL does not live there. Also, you might be able to call your phone company and get that number blocked from your service. I would think your phone company might know how to get this company to stop calling you as well. How terribly annoying! I hope you get it worked out.
1 person likes this
• United States
6 Aug 10
Thanks for the ideas. Though hubby thinks it's funny to yank the callers "chain" but really... what good does that do?
@SomeCowgirl (32271)
• United States
6 Aug 10
Well when annoying people would call asking for people that either lived there, or didn't, my grandfather would pick up the phone and say something in French, he'd say "hello" normally but if it was a sales person or collections agency or what have you he would start speaking french. I think they eventually got the hint.
• United States
6 Aug 10
Unfortunatly, I don't speak much French. I speak bits & pieces I remember from 7th grade, along with sm amts of Spanish & German. Hm... I could speak all sorts of random words *LOL*
@p3ks626 (6550)
• Philippines
6 Aug 10
If its bothering you a lot then I think you need to take more action. Have you ever tired talking to the caller and tell him/her not to call anymore cause its bothersome?
• United States
6 Aug 10
If it's a debt collector that's their job to annoy you... annoy you into paying that is. However, it's not my debt to be annoyed with it's someone elses.
• United States
22 Sep 13
I know that bill collector calls for a friend or family member can be annoying but I would never give out that friend or family members contact information. One reason is that if you do and then the person continues to ignore the issue, then the bill collector is just going to call you back anyway stating that they couldn't reach the person. So other than ratting a person out, you will have solved nothing. If they keep calling you, start blowing a brass whistle in their ear each time they call. The calls will soon stop.
@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
18 Aug 10
I'd ask for a supervisor or manager, and make it clear that they need to stop calling you.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
9 Aug 10
I really think that the only thing that you are able to do about this is to give them her current phone number and address. Otherwise, I don't think that there is any way that the calls will stop. You see, there are protections under the law for the individuals that have accrued debt, but there is no protection for the innocent people that are listed on mortgages, loans, credit cards, etc. I can't be positive that giving them information on your SIL is going to make any difference, but it certainly is worth a try.
• United States
8 Aug 10
it is harrassment.i would stay on the line and demand a supervisor- explain this is not your bill,and if they call again,you're going to the attorney general of your area. if you signed no legal papers stating you would cover her debts,they have no right to call you.
@dragon54u (31604)
• United States
7 Aug 10
It is the law that if you tell someone like that (skip trace or collections) to stop calling you because they have a wrong number, they have to or they are breaking the law. Same as getting calls at work from collections. Call your phone provider and ask about it. You may even have a feature that will make you able to reject calls from that number. If all else fails, call the Better Business Bureau about the company and register a complaint or do it online. They will notify the company immediately and believe me, you will get some action! The BBB is the fastest way to resolve a complaint or get attention drawn to it. If all else fails, call the non-emergency number of the cops and see what they have to say about harassment. Cos that's what it is!
@dmrobi (15)
• United States
7 Aug 10
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@dmrobi (15)
• United States
7 Aug 10
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@Hatley (164736)
• Garden Grove, California
7 Aug 10
hi 3Snugglebunnies Yes I would call it harassment. My son says if you keep on the line sooner or later you will get a live person you can tell that this person is not here so take my number off their list.I have been so tormented by a finance company calling here and asking for ten different names and twice I have told them this is a private room in Gold Crest retirement c enter and none of those names have ever lived in my room, so take my number off your call sheet. seems that a board and care place had all these people and my phone number before I had it, so now I got it up to my neck. I even called the phone company and theres nothing they can do but suggest that I get the j erks from the finance co. to completely remover my number from all their files. I would seriously talk to Sister in Law and ask your husband also to inform his sister to contact the company and give them her own phone number. Its not fair you should have to answer this stuff when its nothing related to you at all.
@megabiz (185)
• United States
6 Aug 10
I understand what you are going through. I have this same number that is an 866 number that keeps calling me. I'll say hello to them and they say nothing. Yet I can hear them breathing. They would call unavailable with a number showing. I've gotten so tired of them calling me six times a day. I fibbed to them telling them I have a friend that works for the FBI and if you call me one more time I will tell my FBI friend you are harassing me as I have you number. That was the first time I heard a voice on the other end say, "Sorry mam. Won't bother you again." Never heard from them again. Yet I had one two months ago that called and came up as NJ. This one was so annoying. I said the same thing to them and they started calling me the next day. But not only was it there usual five times a day. It was, every five minutes. I said my FBI line again and it didn't work. So, I called my local police, they recorded my phone for the next two days wanting me to pick up after the third ring and just say, hi. If no answer, say hi and then hang up. The noticed the same number calling me every five minutes starting at 6am and going till midnight. The number was traced to a residency in New Jersey. I didn't even know the person. The person was charged for harassment and my number was not the only number being called like this. So, you can take it to you local authorities and let them handle it if after talking to the manager of the company doesn't stop the calls. Good Luck.
@savypat (20247)
• United States
6 Aug 10
Find out what company is calling you, log the calls, get the name of the callers, Then go to work write a letter of complaint to the head office of the co. send it return receipt and keep a copy, contact the better business people in your are. Call your DA and see if they have any ideas what you can do to get it stopped. Make sure you give no information out, just take information in. you may even get information from your police department, see if they have community outreach. Get your local news people involved. Get loud and remain polite but insistant about your problem, Make sure you and your family are seen as victums.
@jesssp (2742)
• Canada
6 Aug 10
Six words - 'She doesn't live here, stop calling'. You could also tell them to take your number off their list immediately. I don't think I would tell them that I was related to her or give them her contact info, that just gives them reason to keep calling if they can't get a hold of her. We've had to deal with calls for the person who had our phone number before us and it is super annoying, especially considering we've had the number for well over 5 years. It's always collection agencies and stuff like that too. I just started calling the numbers back and telling them that soandso doesn't live here, I don't appreciate all these phone calls, and to take our number off their file. The calls eventually stopped.
@GardenGerty (96787)
• Marion, Kansas
6 Aug 10
I have an answering machine. If someone calls I am not interested in talking to, I do not talk to them. If it is important, they will leave a message. What they are doing amounts to harassment. Depending on how you get along with SIL you could give them the info you have, OR you can tell them that it is harassment and you are going to look into reporting them. I do not know of the top of my head where to report them, but I am sure we can find out. I would not be surprised if someone on here knows. At times, the threat of reporting them is all it takes to get them to stop.