How can you teach your heart not to love him?

Philippines
August 7, 2010 12:51am CST
To loved and be loved is the best thing that can happen to your life...but what if the one you love does not deserve to be loved? Would you still love him? If your mind keeps on telling you to stop loving but your heart still loves him? How would you teach your heart to stop loving him?
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@sender621 (14956)
• United States
7 Aug 10
The heart is something you can't control. You can't choose who you will fall in love with. You can tell your heart not to love someone. As long as the feeling and bond is there, your heart will guide you. The heart cannot truly be taught to love or don't love. it just knows what to do.
@joddie (173)
• Philippines
4 Sep 10
It is true that you can't teach your heart NOT TO LOVE or TO LOVE a person. Neither you can't force it to love again a certain person. But for me, one this is sure, you can't love two person at the same time.
@joddie (173)
• Philippines
4 Sep 10
It is true that you can't teach your heart NOT TO LOVE or TO LOVE a person. Neither you can't force it to love again a certain person. But for me, one this is sure, you can't love two person at the same time.
• Philippines
30 May 12
I know how you feel, I'm in that same situation. It's so weird that you cant control how your heart should feel. I think in its own perfect time we will know the answer.
@besthope44 (12146)
• India
10 Nov 10
Well ask yourself, is your heart wants to give up, if no..then never give up. Dont stop your heart to take up a great feeling in life.
• Philippines
9 Sep 10
Everyone is deserves to be loved! But that person whom you're inlove with cause you something rude to the point you don't even know how to value yourself--well that's being foolish! Stop whatever your feeling right now, find time to contemplate with the things your going through if it is still healthy for you or not. Prayer is the key to enlightenment! Find time to pray and ask for the Holy Spirit's guidance. You'll never fall into the wrong decissions when you are with Him.
@besthope44 (12146)
• India
29 Aug 10
Love is a great feeling which has to be expressed. If you find it true, never fail to convey, thats a tribute to the love in real.
• Philippines
9 Aug 10
hi mai! try to always remember the reason why you have to forget or stop loving him.. if you can, try to forget your happy memories with him because this would only make you miss him more.. by the way you put it, it sounds like he did something terrible that hurt you.. love alone is not enough, you also have to trust that person wholeheartedly.. and remember that what really matters in this world are the things that you do to the person that you love, words are simply not enough..
@ania66 (78)
• Philippines
9 Aug 10
Hi Mai. I am definitely in agreement when people say that you cannot teach or control your heart. Indeed I have no issue with that. Nonetheless, in such a case when you feel that the person do not deserve your affection toward him, this "feeling" should have basis though; That the basis of which connotes disrespect upon your person as a woman and as person endowed with human dignity. And if it does, well it would not be a question of teaching your heart not to love him; instead it should be an issue of loving oneself and putting importance to ones human dignity.
@tovk12 (226)
• India
7 Aug 10
I too would like to know how to stop loving and remembering a person who was dear to you. The heart just does not understand. It brings up memories that are best forgotten even though it knows that the person it wants is totally unsuitable and also not free for you. How to forget those memories?
• India
7 Aug 10
if my heart keep on loving him....i can't stop loving him. So i'll find another person or ll accept who ever wants me to come with him.