Do you have trouble controlling your anger???

@ANIME123 (2473)
United States
August 8, 2010 8:58pm CST
I actually do like today I really couldn't control it because first my neighbor starts yelling at my little brother accusing him of almost shooting her with a bb gun when my brother isn't the only one that has a bb gun and no one has the right to accuse somebody like that it's just not right. Then she calls my brother a bad word and then she comes to the door yelling and that triggered me because she was telling me to respect her how can I do that when shes yelling at me cussing my brother out and accusing my family of throwing trash over to her lawn and throwing water over to her lawn. Yes imagine that she got mad because water and we just stayed calmed except me, but then I just stayed calmed too because she would not stop and then she was threating us with the police. Man that just has to trigger somebody you know and now she has called the cops.
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17 responses
• United States
9 Aug 10
Some people just have to live life miserable and they make sure misery surrounds all around others. Ugh sorry you live near such a dreadful person. But I am glad you kept calm as things could have excalated higher and remember no one is moving so then you would still have to deal with this neighbor for a very long time.
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@ANIME123 (2473)
• United States
9 Aug 10
Yes I know I'm just going to stay calm and she can scream if she wishes, but I will keep cool. Yeah no one is moving I think that the people that lived in my house moved out because of them. Anyway thanks for responding and sharing your thoughts.
• United States
9 Aug 10
You are very welcome and Good job in remaining calm as apparently your neighbor isn't going anywhere and maybe that is the strategy to get you all to move. So try really hared to disregard this awful neighbor.
@ANIME123 (2473)
• United States
9 Aug 10
I have a feeling that it is a stradegy to try and make us move, but that isn't going to make us move because me and my family don't let anything bother us and she won't get to us. My mom is just worried that if we throw a party that she will start complaining about that. Last time we even had some relatives over and my two cousins were playing and their just little girls and they didn't know any better, but they were throwing rocks over. Still I explained to her that their just little girls and they didn't know any better in that situation I kept my cool.
@reploid (1331)
• France
9 Aug 10
Yes, but I am more relaxed now that I know this. In your situation considering what happened I would have got angry too.
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@ANIME123 (2473)
• United States
9 Aug 10
It's good that you have learned to be more relaxed. Yes I know in my situation it was really hard not for me to get angry because of this now I think that I have more control over my anger.
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
18 Aug 10
rarely, very rarely...
@ANIME123 (2473)
• United States
19 Aug 10
That's good Dawn you have great control of your anger. I would never imagine that you would not be able to control your anger because your a very nice person and everyone likes you.
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@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
19 Aug 10
maybe not everyone
• India
12 Aug 10
I am able to control my anger. I usually don't get angry so fast. But when i am angry, i feel like staying myself alone for while. It don't even take five minutes for me to come out of anger. I am bit jolly person, so i don't have such problems much.
@ANIME123 (2473)
• United States
19 Aug 10
Very good a jolly person is always well a happy person, but remember it's never good to keep your feelings bottled in because when you do get angry it will be to much to be bottled in and all your anger will come out so please be careful with that. I am a nice person, but when I keep my anger for a very long time it will all come out at once and I just can't seem to control it from there. Thank you for responding have a nice day and happy mylotting, ANIME123.
• Philippines
10 Aug 10
hi anime123! i know what you mean because like you, i also have a problem controlling my anger that sometimes lead me to throwing things, punching someone on the face or saying things that are hurtful.. lately, ive discovered that listening to music whenever i feel angry cools me down.. instead of yelling or answering back, i just put on my ipod and while listening, i try to reflect on my acts and think of the possible consequences if i lose my cool.. let the other person rant, he's just stressing himself out.. or maybe he's just trying to get you react so that he can justify his actions.. remember, we make a great speech that we'll soon regret whenever we're mad..
@intenads (15)
• Costa Rica
9 Aug 10
in my case I thing anger has a trouble controlling me.
@ANIME123 (2473)
• United States
10 Aug 10
Really anger has trouble controling you so it's like the opposite instead of you losing your temper.
@AlixJ18 (27)
• United States
9 Aug 10
Yes i have trouble controlling my anger, idk if you're male or female but i'm a girl and personally i probably would have punched her in the face.
@ANIME123 (2473)
• United States
10 Aug 10
I'm a female I had to hold back, but to me it looked like she wanted to throw a punch at my face still her husband was holding her back and my parents were also protecting me because they were getting a bit mad, I could see it in my parents eyes and they knew that this grown women wanted to punch me. That's why my parents were guarding me because they were not going to take that. Also my mom did not like it how she was screaming in her house.
@2004cqui (2823)
• United States
9 Aug 10
No I don't. It took time but I noticed something about loosing my temper that corresponds with something I need more, logic. The more angry I am the less logic I have. Logic usually wins! Not my temper.
@ANIME123 (2473)
• United States
10 Aug 10
Yes logic does always have more power over temper. Still we are all human and have trouble in controling our anger at times because it just slips by us and we can't do anything about it. For me I think I have split personalities the good me and then theirs the bad me that sometimes comes out and gets really angry.
@dlcbeth (12)
• Philippines
9 Aug 10
My husband advise me to take up anger management lesson because most of the time I'm angry especially when my son is around me because he keeps on ignoring people--even me. I feel that he is not respecting me. As a mother I want my son to become a good person, respected by people around him. I was thinking that how can someone be respected if he don't know how to respect his mother.
@ANIME123 (2473)
• United States
10 Aug 10
I see why you got mad because parents never do like it when they get ignored by there son or daughter because they feel like they must raise them to be the best and to respect them. Don't worry I'm sure that your son with due time will come around maybe there is something that is bothering him. Still I am sure that you are a great mom and you are doing your very best.
• India
9 Aug 10
i have lot of trouble controlling my anger.my mother always tells me to controll my anger.anger has been one of my weekness.
@ANIME123 (2473)
• United States
10 Aug 10
Your mother tells you to calm down well yes my mother told me to calm down and I did. Also when the cop came because I'm not going to get angry at him hes just there because she called him.
• Philippines
9 Aug 10
No I don't have.. I just think of happy thoughts when I am really angry for me to be relieve.. And when someone Lied to me or steel something. I am angry but I won't express it, I just let God do the rest. Because they can't get blessings if they're doing bad thing to other people
@ANIME123 (2473)
• United States
10 Aug 10
So you think of happy thoughts when you are about to get angry hey that's actually not a bad though. I will keep that in mind so that I wont get angry next time.
@babz02 (250)
• Philippines
9 Aug 10
Suppressing anger is hard, especially if the things done to you were on purpose. An outlet is preferred to divert your anger and eventually learn to control them. But sometimes it is also necessary to let that anger go, there are some negative effects of holding anger in.
@ANIME123 (2473)
• United States
10 Aug 10
Yes that is true it never is good to hold in the anger because it does have some bad effects to it. I just never knew that I had such anger in me just waiting to come out because each day I'm mello like calm always and my friends know this too so when I told them what happened they were surprised because I never get angry, but yeah I feel like a lot of hate has gotten out of me I just hope that I can control my anger a little better from now on.
@kreasa03 (54)
• Philippines
9 Aug 10
I can control myself for few times but after so many chances I loose it. When I loose it I boil and blurt out all the things I buried inside myself
@ANIME123 (2473)
• United States
10 Aug 10
I think that when we have anger built up inside of it we just have to let it all out. I lost it when she picked on my bro not cool she should not do that. Still from now on I am just going to ignore her. Even though she peeks over into my yard that is an invasion of privacy and I don't like it because I don't feel comfortable in my back yard knowing that she does that, but it's a good thing that I have a puppy and she barks to alarm me when ever she is crossing territory.
• Vietnam
9 Aug 10
I used to have trouble in controlling my anger but now, I can keep calm almost every situation. If you can't stand this neighbor, the best way is: "Move your house!" :)
@ANIME123 (2473)
• United States
10 Aug 10
Very good you learned to control your anger I stay calm in situations too it's just that it doesn't get me mad if they talk bad about me, but if they talk bad about my brother or somebody that I know then that's when I get mad. Because the adult women was picking a fight with a little kid now that's pretty immature. My neighbor has difficulty in controlling her anger because she complains about every little thing and if she keeps calling the cops. The cops are going to be like ok this women is just complaining about every single little thing and the cops are going to get tired of that and just ignore.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
9 Aug 10
When i was younger, my anger would sometimes have a mind of its own. As an adult, i can usually control my anger easily. I try to pick my battles before they pick me.
@ANIME123 (2473)
• United States
10 Aug 10
When you were younger really a mind of it's own. Still I don't like how some people try to push our buttons just to make us angry I just don't like it at all. Some adults can control their anger, but not all like my neighbor she was an adult and she could not control her anger because it just doesn't look right when an adult is fighting with kids it shows that they are immature because their picking fights that are unequal you know.
@jamed28 (1909)
• Philippines
9 Aug 10
Basically when you are angry, it means trouble. Well unless of course you let it out of your system. But if you can control you anger then it is not anger it self. It is controlled anger. Yes sometimes I do have trouble controlling my anger. This is when I am pretty much fist off of something due to others irresponsible act, and it end up that I'll be the one to blame for others mistakes. If you do that to me, better hide hard. Because if I see you, you might borrow a dog's face.
@ANIME123 (2473)
• United States
10 Aug 10
Yes for me I can control it a little bit better because I let it out of my system and I'm not going to let her get to me again. I won't sink down to her level. Oh then I hope that nobody does make you angry because they will be sorry.
@Tresaqwe (376)
• United States
25 Aug 10
I have had a problem with controlling my temper lately, or maybe I've always been this way, I don't know. I have found myself snapping at my family members a lot lately, but I think it's just because I may be rushed and stressed because of school. :] Why would you have to respect your neighbor when she had absolutely no proof at all that your brother was the one who did it, and she came over freaking out about it? It just doesn't seem like a mature way to do things.