It's confession time

@Loverbear (4928)
United States
August 9, 2010 2:44am CST
I am sitting here about to turn off the light and get some sleep when I heard a crash in my newly cleaned lower car port. I spent today cleaning and cleaning and cleaning the darned thing so that we can cut the scrap wood that was given to me to help heat the house this winter...and it will be stacked in the cleaned area. Seems to be a no brainer, no being irratated kind of thing, right? Not so. I plan each days activities on my dry erase board. I have lists of things to do around this place that don't quit. Everything from cleaning the leaves from the neighbor's oak tree out of my yard (I ABSOLUTELY HATE, LOATHE, DETEST, OAK LEAVES WITH THOSE LITTLE PRICKLEY THINGS ON THEM!! ) to special cleaning jobs I want to get done in the house. I feel so much better when I can wipe a chore off the board. Anyhow two days in a row my boy friend has come in with something to do other than what I have scheduled to do. Friday afternoon in the 100 degree heat it was getting a load of the wood and bringing it to my house and unloading it. (That really helped my aches pains and feeling sick) Saturday it was going to another neighbor's house and getting another load of wood, in the heat, and unloading it at the house. (That shot the crap out of that list) The he said after we finished unloading the wood that Sunday "WE" needed to clean out the lower carport so "WE" can start cutting the wood and stacking it. So, I cleaned the carport today and shot the list all to you know where, AGAIN! My question for all of you is: Do you make plans to do one thing, and the person you love or are involved with changes them for you? Does it aggravate you as much as it does me?
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11 responses
@carmelanirel (20979)
• United States
9 Aug 10
Yes, but in my case it isn't doing anything important, it is more like, "Lets go to a movie" type thing..And sometimes I am not as kind as you are and I refuse to do anything different than what I have planned.. But I am curious, I don't know if I missed it or what, but the crash??? Is that your confession or did you literally hear a crash in your carport?
@med889 (5958)
9 Aug 10
Usually I am someone who likes to plan everything and I hate when someone crops up and try to change the plan for me, once and twice it happen with my boyfriend who never plans things and hate when I do it so he intentionally tried to change my plans but he regretted also.
@ANTIQUELADY (36488)
• United States
9 Aug 10
i'M LIKE U IF I HAVE PLANS TO DO SOMETHING I LIKE TO GET THEM DONE.I don't usually have anyone to change that since i have noone around. I would welcome myfavorite grandson changing my plans anytime, lol.
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@aquariand (466)
9 Aug 10
my husband is a classic at making one choice and diversing on another, he'll sit at night discussing what we are going to do the next day, then we get up and he'll say, oh lets not bother and we do something else over the years i have got used to him changing his mind.
@Loverbear (4928)
• United States
9 Aug 10
I don't think I would have been so irratated except for the fact that I have a little over a week left on my vacation from college and I had tons of things planned to get done. I haven't touched half of them. The other point is that when we do work together one of us ends up banged up. Usually it's me. This time a board that I had tossed towards the base of the hill bounced and clipped my boyfriend in the shin. It gouged him pretty badly and I had to bandage him. I felt really awful that it happened because it was a pretty mean cut. I think the other thing is that I don't work well in 100 degree heat. Neither of us should be out working when it's that hot because of the medication we're on. But it never seems to fail, it gets hot and he wants to work. Although he did admit that we aren't going to work when it's so darned hot.
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• Portugal
12 Aug 10
ohh sorry for it :( you must talk with him and tell him that it bothers you that you also want to do some things with him and you can take care of the house later. you cant be just always cleaning things. you need time to be with him and grow your love. anyway talk with him for sure he will understand ^^ bcs if he loves you he wants you be happy^^
@Hatley (164640)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Aug 10
hi loverbear oh I remember how my husband used to balk at weeding and tilling the garden , he would promise to do it on a certain day well instead he got all wrapped up in a stupid television program instead so I ended up doing the gardening work. lol. then He started his own business mowing and landscaping .so when I was trying to do a project in the house all suddenly he needed my help on his job. lol. well he really did finally build up a good trade. then he hired some male helpers which was just great with me. I used to hate it when he would say We like that as I would end up doing most of the project as he had to go to work. well those were the days.we grew old together well til his heart attack. I am now a widow.
@chickabee (119)
• United States
10 Aug 10
I have been married 32 years and learned a long time ago not to make work plans that have to include my husband. It is not worth the aggravation. If he decides to do something and needs me to help, I will. If I am doing something and need his help for a few minutes he will help me. You can't make plans for most mem, it just doesn't work that way most of the time. Never has and never will. It's the nature of the beast. lol
@ElicBxn (60884)
• United States
9 Aug 10
but you never told us what the crash was....
@kingparker (9698)
• United States
9 Aug 10
Oh yeah, it really irritate me for that. I would like to stick with my plan most of the time, if there is necessary change, I would do the change. But someone all of sudden, taking change on everything. that is a big "no".
@GardenGerty (100387)
• United States
9 Aug 10
You betcha, honey!!!! I am no where as organized as you are, but if I have something planned, it is a plan and it needs to be done. I have a hard time getting my significant other to do anything I want HIM to do, but he can blow the whole thing of what I want to do anytime, any day.
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
9 Aug 10
Hey Loverbear~ I know exactly what you mean! Only it is either me or the boyfriend who manages to put off whatever it was that was planned to been on his days off. I have been trying to get my apartment back in order now for 3 Summers since I had the apartment painted! I never put the pictures back on the walls, bought a set of 4 cat oil paintings that still have never been hung and the list goes on! I have to get new carpet so no matter what I do to the apartment it won't look "right" until I get this raggy old carpet out of here and I can't afford to do anything with it so I just get aggravated and end up doing nothing!