what to do when you don't like something but can't find a good reason why

@jb78000 (15178)
August 9, 2010 3:34pm CST
there are lots of options when you are very much against something but know that the real reason you feel this way is not particularly valid - perhaps you don't want to think about why, perhaps something makes you feel uncomfortable, or perhaps it is simply what your leaders think and you go along with it. the example i am thinking of is obvious but i am going to use a made up example to show the brilliant options you have. say the proposal is 'animal sancturies should have to neuter animals before rehoming them' which is reasonably sensible and most do it anyway. now if you don't like this idea, because it makes you squirm, try one of these: the slippery slope argument. claim it will lead to something awful - compulsory vasectomies for men or something. the Good Book. no arguing with this one, god doesn't like it. find another reason to dislike it, perhaps it will be too expensive for the shelters. 'tax payers money' is a great phrase to slip in wherever possible. use emotional language. forget about 'neutering' tomcats. insist on calling it 'castration' try one, two or more of these and you will have a fabulous case for arguing against ANYTHING. any opinions?
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• Canada
9 Aug 10
Why must I need a reason to NOT like something? When I dont like something and Im asked why, I say CUZ and its the only answer one will get from me. Then I move on to the next thing I can hate......or not hate depending on my mood. BUT, if you insist and twist my arm to find a reason why.....well heres something for you..........HORMONES!!
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@owlwings (37894)
• Cambridge, England
9 Aug 10
Well, it don't matter much whether it's 'hoar moans' (the complaints of old age) or the groans of 'ladies of the night' (and that would be dire, depending on whether they were deep sighs of satisfaction or the oppisite), it's a reason that nobody can dispute!
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@jb78000 (15178)
9 Aug 10
i can.
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@spalladino (17927)
• United States
10 Aug 10
MagicalBubbles, I think you NAILED it! No one can argue with hormones...or hoar moans either for that matter. Except possibly a two legged blue bunny.
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@owlwings (37894)
• Cambridge, England
9 Aug 10
I think that Blue Bunnies should be banned: 1) God did not create Blue Bunnies (there is no mention of them in Genesis), therefore they cannot exist. 2) Darwin makes no reference to Blue Bunnies, therefore, even if you accept the Theory of Evolution, Blue Bunnies cannot be part of it and therefore do not exist. 3) Blue Bunnies are a drain on the public purse: nobody knows how to tax them, therefore they are not taxed and therefore everyone else has to pay for their existence (even if it can be proved that they exist). 5) Four is an unlucky number and Blue Bunnies have four limbs, so they are unlucky. 7) Seven, three and nine are lucky numbers. J (=10) + B (=2) + 7 + 8 + 0 + 0 = 27 which is 3 x 9 and also contains a 7 ... see point (2) for the remaining digit. 13) I once dreamed I had a blue velveteen toy rabbit as a child (well, I THINK it was originally blue), therefore I ADORE Blue Bunnies and, as the Skin Horse said: [i]"What is REAL?" asked the Rabbit one day, when they were lying side by side near the nursery fender, before Nana came to tidy the room. "Does it mean having things that buzz inside you and a stick-out handle?" "Real isn't how you are made," said the Skin Horse. "It's a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real." "Does it hurt?" asked the Rabbit. "Sometimes," said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. "When you are Real you don't mind being hurt." "Does it happen all at once, like being wound up," he asked, "or bit by bit?" "It doesn't happen all at once," said the Skin Horse. "You become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand."[/i] So, you see, nothing is really real unless it is LOVED and it is difficult for people who have sharp edges or break easily to ever become really REAL. (Quotation courtesy of: http://digital.library.upenn.edu/women/williams/rabbit/rabbit.html )
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@owlwings (37894)
• Cambridge, England
9 Aug 10
(and of COURSE I don't really think that Blue Bunnies should be banned ... I was just illustrating a point. They are as real as real, really ... even if they may belong to a childhood world!)
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@owlwings (37894)
• Cambridge, England
9 Aug 10
And, of course, when you are really against something, that is your inner person (who you learned to trust when you were five but who sometimes becomes uncomfortable and irreconcilable when you are fifty) telling you that something is not right.
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@jb78000 (15178)
9 Aug 10
excellent response. except of course if you look at me you'll see that i have 2 legs, not four. this might be true of all blue bunnies
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@dawnald (84129)
• Shingle Springs, California
10 Aug 10
gay marriage - they just want to destroy the church and marriage.... How many gay people have you seen over at the local church with sledgehammers lately? Or in their hetero friends' faces, trying to break up their marriages?
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@jb78000 (15178)
10 Aug 10
you've forgotten this popular phrase - 'ramming their lifestyle down our throats' - which presumably means 'not hiding it from me which they bloody well should because it makes me feel uncomfortable although i don't know why'.
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@dawnald (84129)
• Shingle Springs, California
10 Aug 10
My personal favorite was when the prop 8 people in California insisted that if the measure passed, it would mean that parents would have no choice but to allow their children to be taught about gay families in school. And a lot of people actually bought that. Fear mongering works...
@spalladino (17927)
• United States
10 Aug 10
I think your endless hours of research on this topic have paid off brilliantly, jb.
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@jb78000 (15178)
10 Aug 10
this was actually intended to be a serious discussion aimed at the 'ban gay marriage brigade', especially those using that popular argument 'what's next?, legalising marriage to cats?'. however i am fine with everybody taking it in a completely different way.
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@anniepa (26468)
• United States
10 Aug 10
Why SHOULDN'T I be allowed to marry my cat? He's more loyal and faithful than any man could ever be and he certainly knows how to be head of the household, heck he RUNS the place! Annie
@p3ks626 (6552)
• Philippines
10 Aug 10
I only dont like something when there's a reason for me not to like it. I think it has never occurred to me that I didnt like something just because I didnt want to like it. There's always a reason for me not to like something especially when it comes to not liking someone.
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@jb78000 (15178)
10 Aug 10
i don't know. sometimes you take an instant dislike to a person, or at least don't trust them, and don't know why. later on it becomes obvious this person was not at all nice. on the other hand some people you like much better when you get to know them a bit more.
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@Hatley (154964)
• Garden Grove, California
10 Aug 10
jb okay lets see, a pox on all who think that funny or whimsical discussions are horrible and only serious discussions should be allowed and we should make a rule that all those who make only serious discussions should have to be forced to make one really silly discussion. After all now cardiologists are saying that laughing a certain amount each day is really good for our 'heart health along with some dark chocolate and some nice hot green tea. We could deem it heart health day and all must make just one whimsical discussion that will make us all laugh. lo lol
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@jb78000 (15178)
10 Aug 10
i think that is a brilliant idea. i make about one serious discussion for every 20 silly ones and these seems to be about the right proportion.
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@peavey (15668)
• United States
9 Aug 10
Sometimes when you don't like something but don't know the reason, you really don't like it anyway. It's OK to not like things. Often, there is a reason that you haven't discovered yet and at times, those "not particularly valid" reasons really are valid. And sometimes when you use a reason that someone else doesn't like, they call it invalid. :)
@jb78000 (15178)
9 Aug 10
if you don't know the reason you don't like something then you should think about why this is the case. if you still want to hide the real reason then something is wrong. if you just don't know then why try to rationalise with other 'reasons' that don't make any sense?
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@owlwings (37894)
• Cambridge, England
9 Aug 10
"And sometimes when you use a reason that someone else doesn't like, they call it invalid." I wonder if that is why so many 'protesters' are either on Social Security or in wheel chairs (or both)?
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@peavey (15668)
• United States
9 Aug 10
What? Now you're invalidating the elderly and the disabled?? ;)
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@anniepa (26468)
• United States
10 Aug 10
Well, I'm opposed to squeaky, screechy voices and think they should be banned from speaking publicly or on the airways. It's not just me being a nitpicker, I feel this way because these voices are a health and safety hazard. I mean, there's the hearing loss which result in medical costs and disability claims which COST THE TAXPAYERS MONEY! Then there are the accidents which will be caused by people who are hard of hearing. Also there's the irritability and mental stress they cause; how many people have been physically or verbally abused because someone was taking their annoyance caused by a high-pitched squeak out on them? How many of us are suffering from the guilt caused by being mean to a loved one because we've just heard one of these squealers speak on TV? Above all, there is the danger to the owners of the screechy voices. We sure wouldn't want someone to haul off and smack one now would we? Or to throw something like eggs or rotten tomatoes? Absolutely, these people should be banned from speaking out loud in public for their own protection! Annie
@jb78000 (15178)
10 Aug 10
i think this is ridiculous. ok, on the face of it banning squeaky, screechy voices sounds reasonable*. however have you thought for one second WHERE IT WOULD LEAD ??!. ban squeaks and what happens to OUR HAMSTERS! ban screeches and WHAT ABOUT THE OWLS?
@blueboy3 (123)
• Ireland
9 Aug 10
I have often found myself in this kind of position at work. I think the key thing is to listen to that inner voice saying you do not like this. Sometimes, just naming it frees up your mind to the answer. Other times, I have simply said, this seems the wrong way - let me think about it. Works in contexts where your boss trusts you. Sometimes, it can be a case of putting up any excuse to buy time to come up with better solutions.
@jb78000 (15178)
9 Aug 10
oh yes in day to day life instincts shouldn't be ignored. i was talking about political viewpoints that people know aren't rational and find all manner of ridiculous ways to explain.
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