how do you chose?

United States
August 9, 2010 10:11pm CST
i have a lot of friends and then a only have a few that i am very close to that i can tell them anything. my question is how do you chose for one of them to be your best friend? i mean your best friend is someone who is the best at everything lisoning keeping secrets always being there for you no matter what and has gone though a lot with you tough thick and thin. i am lucky enough to have a handful of friends who i can say i have been though all of that with so how do you pick just one to be your best friend?
15 responses
@bumami (15)
• Czech Republic
11 Aug 10
i really don't think i need best friend, i need true friend even though he or she is not the best,a true friend who will love me,accept me for what i am and not tolerate me in all my mistakes, but instead guide me to make the wrong things right.
• United States
11 Aug 10
hello bumami i feel the same way you do. i can't pick one person to be my best friend. i feel like there are a lot of things in a person that you need / wont out of someone.
• United States
10 Aug 10
You don't have to have one single best friend. You don't always have to rank them. For instance you may have one friend that is the most fun to spend time with but you may have another that isn't quite as fun all the time but if something went down you would have their back above all else.
• United States
11 Aug 10
hello groverscorner i understand that i am that tipe of person no matter what i will stand by you even if you are wrong and i will tell you you are wrong but i would never walk away from you unless i had to
@malpoa (1218)
• India
10 Aug 10
I too have friends but very few come into the nearest circle. I am extremely choosy and when it comes to sharing and revealing or pouring my heart out, I choose to have not more than two best friends. They will understand my state of mind without explaining too much... mostly we will have similar ways of thinking, likes and dislikes..but that doesn't mean I can make a best friend who is completely ambivalent with me. My husband and me are very much an ambivalent couple, we get along very well and currently he is my one best friend.. I do not think I will make any best friend in life as long as he is there. He thoroughly understands me, can sense any mood swings just by a look...t
• United States
10 Aug 10
hello malpoa i feel like your husband should be your best friend the two of you took vows to spend the rest of your life's together.
@didi13 (2927)
• Romania
18 Feb 11
You choose depending on the duration of friendship, as the intensity of contacts (on a daily basis, etc..),after the discussion between you and the confidences made. Depends on the person you are. If you're the type that you are enough, then a good friend is one who jumps on you when needed. If you're like "outgoing ", the friend is the one with the go constantly (on a daily basis) to play. If you like philosophical, sentimental, then the best friend is one with which you can discuss anything, no matter how awkward you would do on that subject, and to reach some conclusions redemptive. How come: tell me how you like to tell you what kind of best friend to your search!
• Bangladesh
15 Aug 10
Best friend is treasure of life. As I am an extrovert man, I am able to make many friend in my life. However, in the ocean of friend I have chosen very few friends whom I now can call my best friend. While choosing my best friend I give good emphasize on time and patience. As according to my logic only time can prove who is my best friend and I also focus on me that I should be honest and truthful with my best friend, who are very supportive in my life. I love my life and my best friends and wish "@kristinad" you be happy also with your best friend.
• India
11 Aug 10
chose someone who trust you..and then it goes find..never chose someone who betrayed you and cant keep your secrets .
@lolo58 (54)
• United States
10 Aug 10
Relationships are natural. You either get along or you don't. Best friends just nturally happen, they stand the test of time, are very patient, they laugh, they cry, they get angry, they forgive, and they will always be straight forward. There's a proverb which states: Wounds from a friend are sweeter than kisses from an enemy. That's a best friend.
@syankee525 (6294)
• United States
10 Aug 10
i am bless when it comes to this, i have many friends but a few are close to me. the ones who are closest are my best friends. i have two best friends who are females, lucky both get along with my wife. then i have a few guys friends who are close to me. but one of my guy friend is my best friend of all time. been there for me and my family through so much. then i have one who is like a second to me, i call him my pappy
@tomitomi (5441)
• Singapore
10 Aug 10
Hi kristinad! When it comes to choosing my friends or my best friend I would leave them to my heart to decide. For things like these I'm sure the heart knows better.
@sinaj292 (602)
• India
10 Aug 10
i don't think that there is some features to chose one real friend.... but one thing is sure we have to be careful in choosing such a friend.. I don't think that it is a thing to choose ...... it the thing to be happen......
@anncherry (406)
• Philippines
10 Aug 10
Well, I think friends come naturally, but the choosing part should be about who you want to get really close to. Because there are friends whom you can share jokes with, and friends whom you can share jokes as well as tell secrets to. :) And obviously, you choose friends who can be of good influence to you, who brings out the best in you.
@Absinto (2398)
• Portugal
10 Aug 10
Well i have plenty of friends but only 2 best friends. One of them is my boyfriend and another is a neighbor. Ill give you the reasons for each to be considered best friend. Neighbor- I have known her since I've moved here to the Azores and she was the only one who spoke english, also she taught me portuguese. She knows everything about me, i trust her enough to tell her those things. She is always there, good moments and bad. All this is not only for me but also for her. There are more reasons but can remember right now. Boyfriend- before we even started dating he saved me from a very complicated situation and we werent really friends at that time, then we became friends and i felt i could trust him. These are the 2 people that know every little secret about my life and i trust them enough to keep those secrets, also because they tell me secrets and i keep them as well.
@ada8may21 (2419)
• Philippines
10 Aug 10
In choosing among your friend. I would be very careful sometimes I dont open up with them. But I have one friend that I really considered as my friend forever. We've been friends for long its over a decade I guess. Then we share a lot of things. We share a lot and the same sentiments in life and problem. Since we shared a lot of things. I am confident that I can fully trust her with all my dark secret and bad doings. Also my worst experience. So that's how I choose. It takes time for me choose but I know its worthy.
• India
10 Aug 10
I usually do not chose my friends. I am such a person that i never share my secrets to any one. 'Cause it is very hard to let all your secrets to any one. It is okay when your in a perfect relation with your best friends. But there is always a chance of misunderstandings. That time lots of difficulties are going to occur if that person know all about you. So i keep frank with all my friends, but till now i do not have any best friends. All friends are equal to me.
• United States
10 Aug 10
I personally do not feel we pick our best friends, I think best friends earn their badge, but the ways you mentioned. Keeping our secrets, comforting our up and downs, but most of all caring and loving us unconditionally. I think it is just an unspoken rule where we feel in our hearts that, that is who we choose.