For you .. is it Love is a matter of decision or emotion?

United States
August 9, 2010 11:47pm CST
When somebody asked me about this question.. I stop for a while and think deeply about this matter. Before I answer this question one of my friends answered this and she told us that "NO LOVE IS A MATTER OF EMOTION ALWAYS NOT A DECISION" then I asked her.. why? She told me that when you see the man or the woman that is destined for you.. you will feel it deeply in your heart that He or She is the one for me! Then my boss answer ok if it is your opinion about that question. Then my boss look at me and asked me again about that.. I answer him " FOR ME LOVE IS A MATTER OF DECISION" then my friend asked my WHY? I told them that the heart is the most deceitful above all, the emotion can be easily replaced by the other person, because if you get mad to the person who supposed to be you feel that you love, we can easily choose again because of that negative thing but If we decided to Love a person no matter what kind of a person he or she is we made a decision that we can love that person no one can break that decision.... For you is love a matter of decision or emotion?
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13 responses
@thesids (22357)
• Bhubaneswar, India
10 Aug 10
To me, love is a feeling and as such it should be guided by emotion. But when I think deeper, today's love is more about decisions. Here is why I say this - 1. People are aware that their profession may have certain demands for instance - no timings, more traveling and things like that. So they would prefer to find a love from their own group - Reasoning: One in the same profession would understand the demands of my profession. 2. People are more money minded and are aware that both partners have to work and earn to lead a so-called happy life. So they would look out for partner who is earning. Reasoning: We would be able to provide better environment to our kids and family. Many more reasons like these. But these love stories mostly end up in disasters. Simply because Love is an emotion and purely a matter of heart. If you use brains and calculations, they are going to make life miserable for you.
• United States
11 Aug 10
I think your opinion is also true now adays many woman or man, even if they do not love a person they will decide that they will marry that person not because they love them so much but because of the financial stability of that person. There is a woman I know and she told me "I decided to marry that man not because I love him right now but because of his financial stability, I know there will come a time that I will love him also" for her loving a person is learning and gaining. Well that's her basis in her lovelife.
@thesids (22357)
• Bhubaneswar, India
11 Aug 10
All i can say is I will pray that your friend has a good life. Lord Bless
@gquimpo (47)
• Philippines
10 Aug 10
I'd say, it is BOTH.When the two of you is still in that stage when you two feel so amorous with each other, EMOTIONS, in the case, love, is all that matters. It seems that you can not live without each other. But, when things got topsy turvy, trust was broken, even your dreams faded, the love was tainted,the excitement you used to share was gone, it is no longer love that keeps you two stays together but the DECISION to keep on even if there's no love at all... One great reason is because you don't want to raise your kids in a broken family even if you think you can give them all the comforts (financial and material)of life.
• Philippines
10 Aug 10
Opps. Grammar errors not intended. Sorry...:(
@bokal2703 (802)
• Philippines
10 Aug 10
I don't want to sound too fickle-minded about it, but I think Love is a combination of emotion and decision. First of all, before you can decide to love someone, you must at least feel of degree of likeness towards that person, and with that it involves your emotion. Once you are in a relationship, you develop that feeling for that person, whether you nurture it or not go through it, it is decision. But I think you can never decide to love a person whom you really don't have any emotion to begin with. The love you feel for someone is an emotion that is present there, but the staying into that love will depend on your decision. However it can't be called Love if its purely just decision because of something else. So it must be a collaboration between the two...
• Singapore
11 Aug 10
Very well said bokal2703. You said everything that I wanted to say. For me love is a combination of emotion and decision.
• Philippines
11 Aug 10
For me Love is not an emotion or even a decision. It is 'ourself'. Ourself because genuine love is the process of dieing for some that we love. We are not after for our self. If you love someone truly, you are willing to accept him - not just the good side but also the bad side.
@gaiza12 (4889)
• Philippines
11 Aug 10
Welcome to mylot! You may have a point there, but for me it's a matter of both decision and emotion. Your mind decides on things when it comes to love and your emotions then get in the way of your decisions whether the mind is right or wrong emotionally. Your emotions may get hurt because of love but you know deep inside that no matter how much the pain it costs you love still gets in the way. You then decide to keep the love.
10 Aug 10
for me love is a matter of both decision and emotion.we used our emotions to feel the love we have for that particular person and uses the decision to decide what you want and where do take emotion you had for that special someone of yours...
@thesids (22357)
• Bhubaneswar, India
10 Aug 10
To me, love is a feeling and as such it should be guided by emotion. But when I think deeper, today's love is more about decisions. Here is why I say this - 1. People are aware that their profession may have certain demands for instance - no timings, more travelling and things like that. So they would prefer to find a love from their own group - Reasoning: One in the same profession would understand the demands of my profession. 2. People are more money minded and are aware that both partners have to work and earn to lead a so-called happy life. So they would look out for partner who is earning. Reasoning: We would be able to provide better environment to our kids and family. Many more reasons like these. But these love stories mostly end up in disasters. Simply because Love is an emotion and purely a matter of heart. If you use brains and calculations, they are going to make life miserable for you.
• China
10 Aug 10
I'd rather believe that love is a matter of decision more than emotion.On the basis of decision ,emotion can be developed.Because if both want to make the relationship stable,love is not only a matter of two people,but two families. Maybe my thought was influenced by people around me. Most of my friends are deeply in love,but finally not go together for so many reasons. Some of them are againsted by their parents, some are caused by the diferent places. We cannot deny they once fall in love with each other.But in the end they are aparted. In contrast, some couple once were introduced by their relative, after the growing of the emotion .they are finally married and lived happily. I'm not opposed to others.It's just the opinion of mine.
10 Aug 10
it is always a matter of decision and choice for love does not consist or base on emotions it is a matter of choice and decision for a person on what kind of love they wanted.
• India
10 Aug 10
For love is not a matter of decision, but it is a matter of emotion. When you fall in love with someone, you do not contemplate and then decide that you must love so and so person. It happens spontaneously. In falling in love you think with your heart and not with the mind.
@aamir007 (130)
• India
10 Aug 10
LOVE is both at a time decision and emotion because we cant live without our love by emotionally so far love is also our decioion also.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
10 Aug 10
For me, love is emotion. It is not something i have to think about happening. Love will happen to us, or it won't . We can't choose who we will fall in love with. our hearts make those decisions for us.
• Philippines
10 Aug 10
love is an emotion that freely grows inside our hearts,sometimes we look for it,we cry for it,an emotion that is so hard to control.people say that love is always right,but i don't agree,sometimes we fall in love with the wrong person,and that is the time to decide to do the right thing, even if it will hurt us.