What was your reaction when your daughter brought her boy for first time?

@jak2010 (1550)
Papua New Guinea
August 11, 2010 2:34am CST
I was speechless and nervous when my daughter brought her boy friend for the first time to our house. I did not know what to do and say. I did not expect my daughter to do that.I shook the boy's hand and disappeared into my study and untill the boy left. My daugther was angry that I did not show any interest in her boy friend. This was my most testing time for me as a father to show responsibility and leadership. Any similar experience.
7 responses
@besthope44 (12145)
• India
16 Aug 10
Well me and my parents are so friendly and they dint mind. They checked if my gal is good and finally married us
@jak2010 (1550)
• Papua New Guinea
17 Aug 10
How cool was that? Thanks to your parents. The are responsible o=
• United States
12 Aug 10
My daughter did not know anything about having a boy friend when she came home with this boy. I like him and I loved his mother. They were going out in middle school and it was ok. I was fine with it being his mother was a hands on kind of mother. She taught him how to treat a woman and he treating my daughter right.
@jak2010 (1550)
• Papua New Guinea
14 Aug 10
That is so good, thanks for telling us those who still need to learn
@besthope44 (12145)
• India
12 Aug 10
Well age of daughter is very important. You should handle with utmost care. First check if the boy is good and good family. Then advice your kids accordingly or assure them after they finish studies.
@jak2010 (1550)
• Papua New Guinea
14 Aug 10
Yes, I was so naivie and did not prepare, I have a small daughter and this lesson taught me to be careful and fatherly next time.
@man2sting (637)
• Indonesia
11 Aug 10
Soon I'll be in your position. My lovely one is 4 n half years now. Sure, jak2010, we should be able to be fair to ourselves. Take care.
@jak2010 (1550)
• Papua New Guinea
14 Aug 10
My friend, it will come your own , but please do not do as I do.
@EdnaReyes (2628)
• Philippines
11 Aug 10
I haven't had the experience but surely one day it would come. I'm used to my daughter having friends (boys) visiting her and I always treat them nicely and with respect ,I'm not sure it would be the same with her real boyfriend but hope I will not loose my senses if ever it does come.
@jak2010 (1550)
• Papua New Guinea
14 Aug 10
You will surely will face it, but since we discuss it you will be prepared for it.
@chona0912 (104)
11 Aug 10
hi jak2010, yeah , the first experience was quite unforgettable , i don't know what to do myself, i cannot explain my reaction but i felt tense, frightful , afraid, etc. but i try to think back when i was her age and i try to bring home my boyfriend and my parents are both angry too and i used to say my when children will bring their boyfriend home i will befriend them but of course it did not happen the first time we met. I think if my children would love somebody i would not start something that they would hate me later B U T i'm gonna make sure that their boyfriend would respect my child and our family so that they would think back before hurting my child.
@jak2010 (1550)
• Papua New Guinea
14 Aug 10
I did not have that experience myself so I messed my duaghter's first date. I felt so guilty myself and regretted now that I should help my daughter in their formative days to choose a boy properly. She is 19 and is still single, but works in another towm. I just felt bad that I did not help her.
@shia88 (4582)
• Malaysia
11 Aug 10
Hi, In the first place, how old is your daughter? It is quite normal for your daughter to bring his boyfriend back home. it means she intend to introduce that guy to her family members and as her father, you should have some talk with the guy to get to know him better.AT least,know some of his background and let him have a family kinda of feeling. There is no point of why you have to hide youself into the study room. You are the master of the house and you have to welcome every guests that come to your house. Maybe you are not prepared yourself for this Uninvited guest. Try to have a nice chat with your daughter and inform her to bring her boyfriend back home again nexttime,but she has to inform you in advance,at least you will prepare yourself for this GUEST.
@jak2010 (1550)
• Papua New Guinea
14 Aug 10
You are right, I was not prepared for that. I got a shock of my life when my daugther who is 19 who brought her boy friend. 19 im my culture is very young. I fail to see that time has chanded and 19 now is time for girls to date boys and bring them home. I did not maintain my position as master of my own as you mentioned, instead I became a refugeee in my own home, what a pity.