In-love with your your best friend?

@choconut (298)
Philippines
August 11, 2010 3:25am CST
What would you do if one day you realized that you're in-love with your best friend? Are you willing to give the friendship up, so you could be together as something else? Or are you willing to let go of your love just so you could always be together as friends? I'd like to hear your opinions... For my opinion, i think it'll be easier if both of you have the same feelings towards one another, but then if you don't that'll be hard, but i guess i'd stick with friendship, because love can come again but once friendship is gone, its over. What do you think?
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18 responses
@rameshchow (5284)
• India
12 Aug 10
According to me"the parents decisions may play a main role in this issue"..........
@simonelee (2721)
• China
12 Aug 10
For me I prefer risking it than living with "what if" because you'll never know what that person feels if you don't give it a try. And if it turns out that the feeling is mutual then your lucky and if not then you'll have to deal with the consequences. It's up to you and your bestfriend if both of you still want the friendship after that confession. Being rejected is so painful and you'll need time to recover from it but if the friendship is strong and you value each other then it would be easy for you to over come with that pain and later on you'll be more close with each other as friends. Better that way than losing your most valued friend forever.
@jamed28 (1910)
• Philippines
12 Aug 10
You might have thought of it as a difficult situation but it is not. It is more difficult if you don't know the person whom you fall in love with. It is easy since you already know each other. You can reveal you feelings to your best friend in so many ways. You can do it in a funny way, in a romantic way, in a scary way. But the advantage of this is that you know each other already. And if this bestfriend thing turns love, then I believe it will last a life time.
@joyce318 (139)
• China
12 Aug 10
First of all, I should know his attitude and feeling. If he has girl friend or only regard me as his best friend, I will give up, but insist on the friendship. Because the friendship is priceless, no matter what happen, I will cherish it. Of course, if he has the same feeling with me, I will be together with him. Even though we break up at last, I never regret.
• China
12 Aug 10
I had the same situation before. Eventhough we two have seperated now, but we are stil best freinds. trust your instinct
@fannitia (2172)
• Bulgaria
11 Aug 10
I have always respected the good friendship. It's something precious that you don't want to loose. But love is wonderful too... So it's really hard to decide. I think you should listen very carefully to your feelings - they should lead you on the right way.
@mimifrap (40)
• Philippines
11 Aug 10
I was in-love with my best friend and he also had a feelings for me but we just both decided to be just friends because we don't want to take the risk of what things could possibly happen if we jump into the next level. If things won't go well being boyfriend/girlfriend it could even ruin our friendship.
• Saudi Arabia
11 Aug 10
For me I will go for love, maybe my best friend have the same feeling with me. And if she refuse my love to her I know she will understand because she is my best friend.And if she will accept me we will be happy along the way because we already know each other for a time.
@garychie (157)
• Philippines
11 Aug 10
It seems like I can relate to this discussion because I personally experience falling in love to my best friend. It was really hard esp. when my boyfriend asked me to be his bridge to the girl he wanted to court. As for me, I didn't tell him that I love him. I was afraid he will hate me after that. So i haven't told him yet that i love him until now and we are still best of friends.
@ivansama (761)
• Bulgaria
11 Aug 10
l'm still trying to figure out what to do. XD
• Philippines
11 Aug 10
This had actually happened to me . But i chose to keep the friendship , but i know the perso was aare of how i felt i just didnt want to make things awkward by making a move and telling the person or confirming what i really felt.
@reneezoso (393)
• India
11 Aug 10
well... U should check ur best friend if he has same inclinations towards you or not.. Normally, it so happens, between friends is created am image.. they cant pass above friends level and turn into some kind of relationship..you should so little bit of intrest+love towards him .. and see how he reacts.. if its on the positive side..its okie. otherwise.. u should slow down.. it will just ruin down ur friendship and u too will eventually diverge out if it continues.. ALL THE BEST
• Philippines
11 Aug 10
Ahhh. I have had a lot of this kind of things. When I was in high school, I had a best friend who fell in love with me, unfortunately I didn't feel the same so in the end our friendship suffered. So when I had another close friend, we told each other that we can't be in love with each other, which was a really bad thing, because I fell for him, real hard, and I think he also felt the same way, although, since we were both unsure, and we were both thinking about our friendship, it didn't blossom, and we were both miserable in the end. Hehehe. It's just really hard to step in the line of friendship and love, and you really need to be sure first of your feelings before you act on them.
• China
11 Aug 10
Just let it be. I think this would be the best solution. If both have the same feelings,they will get together sooner or later. Because I believe love is a kind of telepathic communication. If you carry a torch for your best friend,you can give him a hint and wait for his response. If not,you can keep this secret and go on the great friendship. What I want to say is that you cannot miss a possible destiny.
@syankee525 (6298)
• United States
11 Aug 10
to me i feel i would wether have her as a friend just in case things dont work for us. sometime its better to keep it as friends then be as a couple. like it happen now i wouldnt say anything since im married. but my best friend is a female, and i did tell her once if i wasnt married i would show her how a real man treat a woman, and that she could have a man who's not a pretty boy and still be treated like a queen
@dpk262006 (52377)
• Delhi, India
11 Aug 10
I think there is very thin line dividing two good lovers and two good friends. You can always fall for your good friend, there is nothing wrong in it, provided the other fellow also fall for you.
• India
11 Aug 10
I can partially agree with you. As you said friendship never come back once it is lost and love can come at any time at any moment. But one more thing you have to aware is that only a good friend can be your perfect partner. You have to either make friendship with the partner you have else you have to find a partner in one among your friends. According to my opinion, Tell him/her that you love him and want to be with him as a partner forever rather than a friend. If he/she is your best friend then he will understand your feelings. Don't make worries. Good Luck.
• Philippines
11 Aug 10
It will be easier if your feelings are mutual. If you're not sure if your best friends feels the same way, I'd risk letting my feelings known. I don't want to regret in the future not knowing the answer. I guess, if you're really the best of the best friends, your friendship will survive and remain even if he/she didn't return that love.