Is your online personality different from your "real" personality?

@Porcospino (31366)
Denmark
August 11, 2010 5:40am CST
Are you shy in real life and more open online? Are you very talkative in real life but write short posts online? Are you more serious online? Do you joke more when you are online? Is your "real" personality different from your online personality in other ways? I think I appear more serious online than I really am. I am often write long posts and I often get attracted to some of the serious topics here on Mylot, but in real life I laugh and joke a lot, and I often use irony. I don't use much irony online because it is my experience that people often misunderstand me and get offended because they thought that I was serious
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• China
11 Aug 10
Ah.,,I think for me is the same in real life I was like this and in internet also.. personality is also the same..just I think when online when talk is bit slow then in real life and the words maybe used better then in real life becouse when we talk we don't have time to thought if the word is exactly right to use here or not,but when we "talk" only actually type online we have time to check the words we type to see if there is some mistake..haha..I think this is the only different to me....
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
12 Aug 10
That is a good point. We when we talk offline we usually don't have the time to find exactly the right words, it is more important to communicate with others and express our ideas. When we write we have time to find the find words and if we don't like the way that we express things we can go back, delete it and write it in a different way.
• China
13 Aug 10
Yeah yeah totally agree! So~ maybe the talking in real time will become less and less and whole people in the world will lose the ability of speaking~~haha^^ just kidding..~~
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28 Oct 10
No I'm the same. I find it much easier to communicate with people online, as I'm not shy or reserved. I will debate and push discussions more so than I would in person but I generally the same apart from these two areas. I don't dress myself up online any different, the members who talk to me would see if they met me in person that I am the same online as I am off.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
28 Oct 10
In many situations I also think that it is easier to communicate with people online, and I understand what you mean. I am not as shy or reserved offline as I was in the past, but in some situations I still find it easier to communicate with people online. I might seem more serious online than I really am, but aside from that I am the same person in both situations.
@HADDOWZ (1469)
11 Aug 10
I would say I am a very quiet contented person in real life, who enjoys to listen to other people more than to actually talk. So I guess my personality here in mylot is different from real life. I find it alot easier to chat to people online than in a face to face experience. I am sure you will find many members here who are the same as me. It takes alsorts to make the world go round. Have a cool day in myLot.
@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
11 Aug 10
I also think that many people find it easier to chat to people online. I sometimes feel that way as well. When I am with a group of people that I don't know that well and I don't usually talk much. When I started chatting online I found that easier than talking to strangers in real life.
@bellis716 (4799)
• United States
13 Aug 10
I usually have more to say online, but that is because, online, I can stop and think just how I want to word a statement. If I've already typed a statement and decide that I don't like how it sounds, I can reword it. I can't do that when conversing with friends. Once something is said, it can't be taken back.You might say that you didn't mean what you said, but people will always be suspicious.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
13 Aug 10
That is true, it is easier to correct the things we write than the things we say. When we write a comment we can read it before we submit it and if we want to change something or add something we can easily do that. When we speak we are not able to do the same thing. When I want to express my opinion about a complicated topic I find it especially useful to write it down, because that gives me the chance to divide it into different parts and write about it step by step.
@ehsanji (503)
• Pakistan
11 Aug 10
Do you think it was a suitable category for such question? I don't think so. But I will reply to your question, any way. So, my real personality from my personality that I have on the Internet is slightly different. I mean people say that I am kind of harsh when I am talking them through the Internet, and I am rather soft when it comes to the real life. So, meet me and find out how I am for real. :D
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
11 Aug 10
When I posted the discussion I was thinking about "MyLot personalities" contra personalities in real life, and I should probably have written "Mylot personalities" and not just online personalities, but it is too late to edit it. In my own case my Mylot personality is similar to my online personality on other sites
@megamatt (14292)
• United States
11 Aug 10
My kneejerk reaction was that I am the same but now that I really think about it, there are some differences. I think whether that is my intention or not, I do present myself a bit differently online then I do in real life. There are some similiarities to be sure. There are many differences. I think I am a lot more wordy online. I am rather quiet in real life, unless I am spoken too. I think when you break it down, the core of me is the same. I just approach the way that I say what I mean a bit differently. I tend to elaborate more online if I need to. In real life, I am more to the point. I tend to be a bit more comfortable as well and worry less about what I say. I guess there is just something about the online world that makes everything come across a bit different.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
12 Aug 10
Yes, sometimes it is easier to express yourself online. I also tend to eleborate more online, maybe because it has always been easy for me to to express myself through writing. I can be talkative offline, but it depends on my mood and the situation, and when I am with people I don't know that well I am often pretty quiet.
@carolbee (16230)
• United States
13 Aug 10
I am a friendly, talkative person. Very outgoing and never meet a stranger. I love people and it shows. Sometimes online I find it difficult to express my silly side. I love life and have fun wherever I go. I am a fun party person who loves life. It's hard to brag about myself here and not feel self centered and guilty..lol
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• United States
12 Aug 10
My online personality is very much similar to my "real" personality. I tend not to have very much to say, unless there is a basic topic that would relate to my personal experience. In person, I am really shy and I hardly communicate with others, unless there is a topic that would deeply touch on my perspective. If I have deep feelings about a topic online by someone that I can relate to, then I would write a long post to that discussion because is meaningful and expressive.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
11 Aug 10
I think that I am just as shy online as I am offline. I am more serious offline then I am online, and I think that I probably "talk" more online (as in "type) then I do when I am offline. I am still afraid of confrontation whether online or offline and I can be a very guilty conscious / apologetic person.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
11 Aug 10
I am also shy, not like I was when I was younger but still pretty shy. Sometimes it is easier for me to type than to talk in real life, but I would say I have become better at talking to people in real life than I was in the past.
@allknowing (130067)
• India
11 Aug 10
There is a big difference between the kind of interaction that one has online and offline. While we are online we have less responsibility and we can move on if the situation makes us uncomfortable but this is not so when we have to deal with real situations and obviously our behaviour will get a different avatar.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
11 Aug 10
That is true. When we are online it is very easy to leave the situation, and if we start feeling uncomfortable we can simply leave the site and move on to something different. In real life we have to deal with the situations in a different way. Some people do and say things online that they wouldn't have done in real life, because they have less responsibility online and because they are able to hide online.
• United States
13 Aug 10
I am more shy in real life than I am on here. It's much easier to talk on here for me than talking face to face to someone. In real life I think to much and critique myself before I say something, on here I can re-write until I like what it says so it's easier. Other than being shy, I am pretty much the same =)
@puccagirl (7294)
• Israel
11 Aug 10
It's pretty much the same, I try to be myself no matter where I am. But I don't tell any personal details about myself, so I guess I am a bit more open in real life? I don't want to put very personal stuff online because you never know who will see it, you know?
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
11 Aug 10
I know what you mean. I also think about the information that I reveal online, because when the information is available online anyone can read it, and there are some personal details that I don't want to share with everybody. I also think about that when I write about my friends or relatives, I don't want to share very personal information about them either.
@Memnon (2170)
13 Aug 10
That's a very interesting question. My on line personality very much reflects my real one. The only exception being that, as I work nights and my partner works days, I don't get onto many discussions!
• Philippines
15 Aug 10
Well, my personality online and real life have similarities but the only difference is that I don't normally talk my heart out or tell every friends what's running on my mind. I'm not so much in socializing in real life because I spend almost everyday at home being a mother but I'm very active socializing here in mylot. Still, I can't really show who I really here since it will really takes a lot of time to know someone...first impressions don't really last that long. :-)
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
12 Aug 10
I don't have an online personality. I am the same person online as I am offline. I am a loving mother, a good friend, a great spouse, and good employee. i am funny and silly and hardworking. to have to become someone else just to be online would be way to much work for me. i have enough to do during the day! LOL
@JOIEMARVIC (2335)
• Philippines
12 Aug 10
I am way way different in real life and in my online personality. I am more myself and more honest in my online world. I can be who I want to be, talk about things I really want to talk about without the fear of being rejected or misuderstood by others. Though I would like to be as honest as I can in real life. Maybe that time will come. But for now I am happy to find a place whre I can enjoy and be myself at the same time, th einternet world.
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@voldrox (7191)
• India
12 Aug 10
Hi Porcospino, In real life, you need to break the ice for me to open up to someone. But, after that i am just what i am here. No ice breaking here.
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@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
12 Aug 10
Well, there are some restrictions in my real personality. My online personality for me is the real one cause its easy for me to express my feelings here especially that I wont have to worry about what other people would think about me.
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• Saudi Arabia
11 Aug 10
I don't hide my real personality in the web.what I am in the real world is me writing and answering topic here in mylot.I'm very funny easy to go with person, we can talk anything under the sun.My personality in real world is same here in the web.
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• United States
11 Aug 10
I like to think of my online personality as a "better" version of my offline personality. To me, the internet acts almost like an equalizer, which gives me more confidence. Therefore, I'm more open and outspoken online than offline.
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