missing someone like crazy........

India
August 11, 2010 10:14am CST
I cant explain what I'm feeling at this time because today I met my love after 6 months. But the meeting was only for a few hours as she had to go back. Actually she is working in a city that around 2300 kms from my place, she comes back home after 6 months and that i the time she meet me. In the past one year, since she joined her job i have just met her twice. Today when she was leaving i was feeling like that somehow I can hold her hand and ask her "please dont go..." I dont know why my eyes are getting wet while typing this. I dont know what to do to stop her going back because somewhere in the back of my mind i know that the job is very important for her. And also the fact is that I need her very badly. Just feeling so helpless and lonely again..... Waiting for her nest trip back home......... it will take 6 months again..... :( :( :(
20 responses
@myiesha (97)
• Singapore
12 Aug 10
Long distance relationship is very hard to keep. I was there once but fortunately we made it but it takes a lot of effort. I used to work overseas and hubby (my boyfriend at that time) was in our home country. To make the story short I gave up my work overseas and go back home. What they say is true if you can't compromise, somebody has to sacrifice. Anyway, if it's for your loved ones I'd say it's worth it.
• India
12 Aug 10
I know, to get something u has to loose something. I think I'll to just wait and there is a possibility that she will come back after 2 years, once her agreement expires. But these 2 years seem so long that i cant explain.
@gaiza12 (4889)
• Philippines
12 Aug 10
I very well understand how you feel.. I too am very far from my love. It's good for you that you get to see each other every 6months but i know it's still not enough. Why not instead of her going to your place every 6 months, you go to her place instead when your off duty. At least you did make an effort in going to her place and she might realize that you really miss her for going 2300 kms just to see her. Just have your communications open always, it's what me and my man do. We talk on the phone at least almost everyday. If you really love each other, then you should find time to just talk at least even 30minutes a day..won't cost a lot anyways with the rise of the technology, you know what i mean..
@gaiza12 (4889)
• Philippines
12 Aug 10
Good luck on your relationship..
@Ladyslipper (1330)
• Philippines
12 Aug 10
Being away from the one you love is really hard. You have to be strong and need to do everything to keep the fire burning. I've been in this situation before. At least in your situation you get to see her every after 6 months. In my past relationship which did not work we don't have a chance to see each other. He was working and also living oceans and miles away from me. When he went back home and started his job there we have not seen each other at all. After more than 1 year of not seeing each other we broke up. He's busy with work and it's the same for me. We have different priorities in life. I now have a family of my own. It's been 4 years already since we broke up. Two years after that I got married and now have two kids of my own. It's a good thing you still get to see her. I hope your love for each other will remain strong. One thing that I've learned from my past experience is that if you are in a long distance relationship you need to have constant communication. Don't neglect each other. Remain sweet. Don't forget to say I love you always and how much you miss each other. Write letters and make sure you get to hear each others voice at least once in a while if everyday will not be possible. My past boyfriend and I were not able to maintain this type of constant communication and it was the reason we grew too far from each other until it came to the point that he became a stranger to me. It was a sad ending but also a start of a good one for me because I'm happy now. I wish you and your partner well! Have a nice day always...
• India
12 Aug 10
Thanks for the wishes......
• China
12 Aug 10
love is easy to say, but hard to keep. Especillay you two in different place. think twice before you do.
• India
12 Aug 10
love is something that can never be planned or thought over, If love is planned that is not love.....
@Opal26 (17694)
• United States
12 Aug 10
Hi ashishp~ And welcome to myLot! I am sorry that you and your girlfriend can't be togehter right now because of her job. But, it is good that you two care enough about each other to understand that this is important to her and only temporary! I know that right now those 6 months seem so long, but if it means that she will be with you again and not have to leave you than it is worth it! Just try to keep yourself busy with whatever your job is and if you are lonely come here and talk about it! We are here for you and to listen! There are alot of really good listeners here and you will find out that the people here truly care!
• India
12 Aug 10
Thanks buddy. Today for the firt time i felt that there are people here that can really help. I really felt a lot lighter after posting this discussion and also got a number of things to do in my realtionship. Thanks
@akopoaysi (740)
• Philippines
12 Aug 10
i feel bad for you. if you really love her so much and you think you can have a life with her. why dont you sacrifice. go find a job there so you'll be always be with her. to be in a relationship someone must sacrifice if a compromise wont happen. ask this to yourself. can you really be in a relationship that you could only see your love for few hours in those two days in a year? and if yes, what if the relationship becomes deeper and deeper and you decided you want to marry her. how can you prepare the wedding and how your marriage will work if you only spend few hours in a year. think about it.
• India
12 Aug 10
I have to sacrifice for 2 years. and will have to wait for 2 years. her contract will expire after 2 years and hopefully she will be back after that time. But these 2 years seem never ending....
@mrfdg1972 (3238)
• Philippines
12 Aug 10
you have to keep yourself busy for the meantime, but with the advent of internet, you can almost talk/see your love all day. Sunny cool suggest you can work at her company or live near her work, if that is possible then there is no cause for those tears,How about we take a look at it on the other side I wanted my wife to go abroad, she can go to USA with no hazzle, her mom is a citizen there, but she still refuses, Ohhh when will i ever get out of her Nagging
• India
12 Aug 10
keeping oneself busy is running from the relationship. I cant stop thinking of her all the time. Getting a job at her place is not a solution.
@garychie (157)
• Philippines
12 Aug 10
Oh, i know it feels to miss someone and all you have to do is cry because you have no choice. I always feel that everytime my husband needs to go back to work. Although i only have to wait for him for 4 months, still it is long enough. Just always communicate with her, talk to her on phone whenever you can so you won't miss her too much and stay true to her.
• India
12 Aug 10
Calling over the phone somehow solves the problem but its not a long term solution. When u miss someone there is nothing that can be done in order to console urself....
@tovk12 (226)
• India
11 Aug 10
Yes it is very difficult to stay without our loved ones. But this is realised only when the loved one is away. The feelings are intensified and you fall deep in love with each other. Don't worry the days will fly off and again your love will be with you.
• India
12 Aug 10
I agree with you, distance really takes a lot out of a relationship. I think I have no other option to wait for time to fly off and wait for the time she comes back....:(
@sunnycool (12737)
• India
11 Aug 10
I can understand it is never easy to stay away from your lover.hope you guyz get along well very soon and live together.Why dont you shift to her place than to be in pain in your place.
• India
12 Aug 10
it is not possible for me to shift as i am in a govt job at my place. So leaving govt job is not a solution to this problem.
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
11 Aug 10
That is so sad sweetie. I wish i can cheer you up, but i know exactly how you feel this very moment. It is hard to let go, even for work. I cannot think how you can handle this. Luck. TATA.
• India
12 Aug 10
I think i got some solution in the above response. may be writing letters and sending surprise gifts can change something.... Thanks a lot to mylot.... I'm feeling better....
@dragon54u (31185)
• United States
11 Aug 10
It's always hard to be separated from someone you love so much! Can you not get a job in the same area and move closer to her? Or visit her every couple of months? Meet halfway? If you can't do this, write her real letters with paper and pen that she can take out and read again when she misses you. Emails just aren't the same! Include a pressed flower or something real that she can hold and look at. Send her small gifts or cute greeting cards--just don't let her forget you, remind her of your love every day in ways that she can see and touch. I wish you luck with your love.
• India
11 Aug 10
Getting a job at a place near to hers is impossible for me. I am in a govt job at my native place and cant drop out of this job. Meeting for us is real difficult. But the second part of your reply has really touched my heart. I think that is one thing that i missed in the last few months. I'll now start writing her letters and make her realize that how much i miss and love her. Thanks a lot friend. really thanks a lot. You've really shown me a way. Thanks Best of luck.
• Portugal
12 Aug 10
ohh that way is so hard to be with her :( talk with her and go live to where she is or she goes live to where you are. job can be important but love is more. for me if i had a bf and had to choose between him or my job for sure i choose him i dont even think twice. if she loves you she must let her job and find one near you or you go near her to live with her and she continue to work there. like this you are never happy bcs you see her two times a year :(
• Romania
12 Aug 10
hello, I`m feel sorry for you. well 6 months are very much to stay away from a beloved person. maybe you should try to go in place (town or whatever is) to be with her. maybe you will find there a good job for you too. this way you will be togheter all the time (almost ). bye!
• Philippines
12 Aug 10
oh.. that was a sad story ashishp2c. I also feel that way when my boyfriend can't meet me up for a week. It hurts and I sometimes cry missing him so badly. Don't you have ways to communicate with her? How about calling her everyday? or chatting her with a webcam? communication is very important in a relationship. I tell you. Or why don't you look for a job near her work place? It would be great for you can see her everyday. Or do something that makes you so busy to stop thinking her everyday because the more you think of her the more you gonna miss her so much..and you gonna be crazy..missing someone is too hard. It gives us a feeling of loneliness.
@thanks1961 (7049)
• India
12 Aug 10
Hi my dear, It is so touching yarr!! Relax. Assume that she is very close to you. I have one friend, who got married and stayed with his wife for 16 days and left for job and now it is 3 years more and planning to come back to home town for 45 days. Think of this case. Poor man/girl. Just after 16 days of marriage and going to meet after 3 years!!. So be happy, she is gone for a good reason and make a good life later on. Any time you have strong desire to meet you can also go and visit her for some time. Or let her settle down and once become more comfortable, she will be back with you. The best way is that make a meeting place in between. You travel half the way and let she also come forward half the way and meet somewhere in between. So you can also take few days leave (if working). And for the time being make it about 3 month gap. So you won't miss her a lot. If this is the case, on the weekends you can make the plan. I am not sure where you are located. If possible, travel each of you to a convenient place and can meet together. Also, this parting and living separately is a cause for deep love. Hope you will understand this. I think she also may be having the same feeling. But co-operate. Everything will end up in good result. I believe that you both will settle down so soon and be together shortly. Regards, Thank-s
• Philippines
12 Aug 10
Why don't you follow her? You can stay and work there, so that you can be together. I find that romantic. If you don't have any valid reason to stay in your place, then go in her place and be with her. The Girl will appreciate that and may love you more.
• Philippines
12 Aug 10
i miss someone on the net...i've chat with him very often but now he's no longer on line (for 5 months i think). I hope to see him again...
@sinaj292 (602)
• India
12 Aug 10
Some relations are like that only ........ we can only love them ,can't stop them from their work..... I think it is better to have some work in this current world..... we have to sacrifice something to get something....... Better you wait for her next visit..... Let she go, if she come back to you.... then she will be yours only......... These feelings are some features of real love.........
• United States
12 Aug 10
Wow so very sorry that you and she can not be together as much as you like. One things for sure if the love is strong will overcome all barriers. No distance can ever separate true love. Good luck to you maybe she and you can meet in the middle of the distance between the two so that it won't have to be so long as six months.