what is the most important role of a woman?a wife or being a mother?

Philippines
August 11, 2010 10:20pm CST
Being a wife and a mother to a 1 year old son..is very difficult..you cannot manage two roles at the same time...how about you..what do you prefer???
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13 responses
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
I prefer to be both because I can manage it very well. I have three sons and I got no maid to help me. I can do all the groceries, cooking, household chores like cleaning the house, garden, do the laundry, ironing and everything you can think of. I am the one teaching my children on their homework. As a wife I also do my responsibilities to my husbands. He has nothing to say that I'm lacking of something. He always tells me that I offer more that he can imagine that's why he loves me so much and he can't found anything better to replace me in his heart and his life. Well, that is my reward!!! I'm really happy right now.
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
I'm sorry. I said husbands. I'm suppose to write HUSBAND. I'm sorry for the error on my typing.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
12 Aug 10
The most important role a woman can have is to be herself and to be happy with herself. You can not enjoy being a wife or even a mother without satisfaction within.
• United States
12 Aug 10
My thoughts exactly, sender621. You cannot properly love and care for others until you love and care for yourself.
12 Aug 10
I'm not yet a mother, but soon to be a wife. tips to be a good wife: Be respected and appreciated. First,before you can share, you have to know who you are. In marriage ,there is only one leader and a follower. Husband is considered to be the leader and wife as the follower, but it doesn't mean you should under estimate woman in our society or in our own home. Men should be respected and woman to be appreciated. Caring for the husband and to your children should be well balance. Maintain your body to stay attractive. Husband and wife should communicate anything for at least 15 minutes or more so relationship won't have lapses. Give an appreciation and loyalty to your husband. Make a romantic memory
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
Very well said my friend. I think you are gonna be a good wife and mother someday. Have a nice day!
@arko009 (257)
• Kolkata, India
12 Aug 10
Being a man I still can understand how women feel in this stage of life.Being a mother requires huge responsibilities,and also being a good wife also requires devotion towards your life partner.We men just cant think about doing such multi tasking and have a good life,I just salute you women to take care of us and our all whole life.Women plays various roles in life mother,wife etc...,which we men think is very easy to play,but it's not.We men cannot think about to do the stuffs you do,and a good husband always expects that you should be a good mother than a good wife.At least I think that my wife should be a good mother rather than a good wife.
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
Well my husband want them both. So demanding LOL! But thanks for your appreciation as men sometimes don't realize how hard it is. We are trying to be a superwoman. Though it's really hard it's alright. We feel happy enough that our husbands and kids are being take care of by us.
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
Both... you can be a mother and a wife...it is just a matter of responsibility, devotion, and love.. You can manage life and it is beautiful and a rewarding experience being a matured woman.
@chiyosan (29388)
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
he he i think it can be done. my mom was able to manage 3 roles! a businesswoman, a mother, and a father to us -- it could have been 4 roles but latter part of her golden days my father left us and so she stopped being a wife but became a father and a mother to 3 children. I guess it just takes a lot of time management, a lot of love and passion for her work and for her dream for us, of course. I know it is hard, especially for those working mothers, but i guess it would come to a point where all moms will have this natural ability to be as they are and they aren't supermom for nothing. :D Be blessed!!
• Philippines
16 Aug 10
you cannot be a good wife when you are not a good mother and you cannot be a good mother if you are not a good wife. The two always go together. You cannot prioritize one over the other. You will surely loose one if you choose one. It's really difficult to be a wife and a mother. You have to love your husband and children.
@ania66 (78)
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
I am a mother to a now 2 yr-old son; been married for 3 years now. For that dual role, I guess I can safely say, 'been there, done that!' :) For about a year and 3 months, I took care of my child without the valued help of a babysitter. Yes, it was difficult to be a mother and a wife at the same time. Nonetheless, the understanding and the physical assistance of my husband whenever he's at home lightened that dual role I played. In our case, I believe it was just a matter of understanding and compromising and of course, be reminded always that as parents, you are both (jointly) responsible to the rearing of your child. Therefore whatever my lapses were as a wife during those first few months of my child when he needed my attention most, my husband stood by me always and was supportive as ever. A way to remind ourselves was, we talked, we communicate about it. And we cherished those moments of being there for our precious one. If I have to do it again, I will do it just the way it was. So, Enjoy!
• United States
12 Aug 10
As a very independent person who is very anti-enforced gender roles, I think the most important role of a woman is not to be a wife or mother but to be herself. A whole, complete person who doesn't need a man to "complete" her but to be her companion if that's what she chooses. I don't think it's a woman's "role" to be wife and mother, I think it's a choice, and that the woman has her own opinion on which is more important to her.
@Angelwriter (1956)
• United States
12 Aug 10
I'm neither, but I don't understand why you can't be both. Aren't there tons of married women with kids? Aren't they doing both? Maybe both can't be done easily, but to say they can't both be done period? No, I don't believe it. I'm sure there are women who manage both. In fact, I know there are. Just because it's difficult doesn't mean impossible As for which I prefer for myself, neither.
• Philippines
12 Aug 10
If i must choose between the role of a wife or a mother, I would absolutely go for the role of a mother. As a mother, you play a very important role in your child's future. You are, in a way, laying/building the foundation of your child's life. You have a bigger responsibility to your child than to your husband.
• United States
12 Aug 10
Nice Question. I guess both...Since mother and Wife having a unique role as a woman. They are plainly same NOBLE
@akopoaysi (740)
• Philippines
12 Aug 10
i still dont know. i am not a mother yet. hopefully soon. i think the two most important role for now is being a wife and a daughter. :)