I'm worried I'll be charged with kidnapping!!

@oldchem1 (8144)
August 12, 2010 3:20am CST
Three weeks ago two of my grandchiuldren came to stay, a week ago my daughter and her husband came to pick them up but only onw ent home, Harry stayed. His parents are coming again today to pick him up, but I am worried that teir journey may be wasted as he has already said that he wants to stay!! It is quite embarrassing that he wants to spend all his school holidays with me! Should I make him go home or let him stay?
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@ddaguno (3110)
• Philippines
12 Aug 10
My mom used to protest when we wanted to stay with our grandma during vacations too but my granda is a good artist and she would get all dramatic with my mom and say, "Why are you so selfish, I only get to be with them during summer." Maybe you should also try your acting skills with your grandkid's parents.
@oldchem1 (8144)
12 Aug 10
I think the fact that we have a pool could be a big temptation!!
@ddaguno (3110)
• Philippines
12 Aug 10
And your cooking too, i bet.
@ip5217 (1656)
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
That's not kidnapping first of all. (wink) Meanwhile, I suggest that you tell your grandchild to stay with his parents. Children should learn to bond with their parents. We do not want to tolerate the gap that might form if we continue to allow him to stay away from his parents and other siblings.
@oldchem1 (8144)
13 Aug 10
We always make sure that he phones them a couple of times a day and he sends them little letters, we are getting him home for a few days next week then he and his siter are coming back and for the last week of the hoildays his mum and younger sister are coming too, it's amazing how popular you are when you live somewhere like we do!!
@SomeCowgirl (32273)
• United States
13 Aug 10
I remember when I was younger and would spend the summer and every weekend with my grandparents. I couldn't wait to go over there on Holiday's either, and would often get picked up or dropped off over at their house before anyone else showed up at their house for the Holidays. My nephew goes over and spends the weekends and summer at my grandparents now. I reckon when we have children and then grandchildren the grandkids will want to be at our house too (atleast I hope so!) Though I read you have a pool so that could have something to do with it.
@oldchem1 (8144)
13 Aug 10
Harry in pool - Harry with friend in the pool
Yes the pool is an atraction - but to be honest has only been for the last month for Harry - he used to hate the pool and water, it's only this holidays I've actually got him in there!! We love having him here and we have negotiated taking him home for a coupleof days next week while we go and visit my other daughtyer and then bringing him and his sister back!!
@de_toya (2434)
• Indonesia
13 Aug 10
Let him stay with you to spend his school holidays with you. Maybe he missed you so much. I think his parents will understand. Unless if he has to attending for his school earlier due to some school activity, you have to ask him go with his parent back to his home. I think his parent won't kidnapping their own children from their grandmother .
@oldchem1 (8144)
13 Aug 10
His parents are fine with him stayin, in fact my daughter is coming up for a week with his two sisters at the end of the month.
• United States
12 Aug 10
First it would depend on how old the child is, before considering keeping him with you because he wants to. Have you asked him why he prefers your home instead of his parents? IF its because he has more fun etc, lol then he should go home with Mom and Dad. Grandparents usually are more fun to be with.. Spent alot of time with mine growing up. If nothing else sit down talk with the parents discuss this thoroughly through first. See how each feels about the idea of either staying or going with the parents. Make the decision together if there isn't any other reason other than the child's preference. Sometimes we want to do what is best, yet, we don't always know until its to late what was.....
@oldchem1 (8144)
13 Aug 10
Harry cooking - Harry helping me with the baking!!
I know really why he enjoys staying - we moved awat from where Harry lives and where I used to live almost 6 years ago, before that we spent almost everyday with him and his sisters as we looked after them while his mum works. I know that he misses us as much as we miss them and it is lovely to see his little face light up when we visit. I think he likes to make the most of the time that he can share with us. His Dad was attacked at work and so now is the 'house husband' while my daughter works - there are three kids - he is the eldest, it is usually him and his 6 year old sisterwho come and stay. It is pretty obvious that it is beter for them to spend time here as we are in the country with a beach nearby and loads of room for them to play, they have lots of friends around here too, at home they live on a busy road with no garden so they don't have many places to play.
@ElicBxn (60419)
• United States
12 Aug 10
how old is he? if he's under 14, he should be made to go home
@oldchem1 (8144)
13 Aug 10
Harry and granddad - Barbecue time with 'the men' - Granddad and Harry
He's 8. His parents do like him spending more time here though as they live in a terraced house with no garden on a busy road in a town, where we live in the country with masses of room for him to play, ride his bike etc. He loves 'helping' his grandad with the barbecue!!
• United States
12 Aug 10
How old are these grandchildren? I had a granddaughter that thought the only place to be was grandmas...she will be 11 this month and I have noticed in the last year she has out growed this, but oh my the tears (and tantrums) those previous 10 years brought. I also have a grandson that use to stay with me alot but now he is 14 and I have barely seen him in the last year. Holidays have been it. So enjoy them while you can the day will come when they grow up (of course the pool could have a lot to do with it!!!)
@oldchem1 (8144)
13 Aug 10
Harry in the pool - Harry ready for a swim in the pool
My grandchildren range from 14 to 2 but it is the 8 and 6 year old who spend most time here, especially Harry. I have to admit that ever since he was born we have had a very special bond with Harry, we used to live only a few mi utes from their home, and we looked after him when his mum woeked for a while. He really is the most adorable child and everybody wholives around me know him and are full of praise for his manners and behaviour. To be honest the pool has only just been a draw to Harry as out of all my grandchildren(despite spending loads of time here with me)he always hated water and I've only got him swimming over this holidays - his little sisters have been swimming for ages!!
@rachael5760 (2597)
• Israel
12 Aug 10
I'd send the boy home and then later his parents will let him come back to visit you. Always have good relations with the parents as well as the kids. You don't want to turn your daughter against you.
@oldchem1 (8144)
12 Aug 10
Harry with granddad - Harry with granddad, enjoying a little sun
He got his own way, a few crocodile tears and he's still here and they have gone!!
• Singapore
12 Aug 10
Haha, be cool. Since it's your grandchild's wish, let him be, since he likes you so much. Have a nice time with him!
@oldchem1 (8144)
12 Aug 10
We love having him, but I just feel a little guilty on his parents.
@epicure35 (2822)
• United States
14 Aug 10
Not to worry; just pray. I know this is a crazy world, but it's unlikely you'd be charged with "kidnapping" for loving your grandchild. There is a special bond between grandparents and their grandchildren. God refers to it a couple of places in Proverbs. I know that bond and can attest to the joy and sorrow of that particular God-given relationship. I don't understand why you use the word "embarassing" re his wanting to spend his holidays with you. I'm wondering if there's a particular reason other than his obvious love for you that he wants to stay. Yes, you should encourage him to go home if his holiday is over and his parents want him to go home.
@JayJay45 (157)
• United States
13 Aug 10
You should do what your daughter wants! Tell them you love having him if he wants to stay, but let her decide! It is so hard not to intefere, but she must make that decision, not you.
• Malaysia
13 Aug 10
Just let them go back home. It always another holiday for them to come and stay with you, oldchem1. It's their school going to start and hope they will be good in their studies and come back when the holiday in with a lot of good news to be tell to you.