Please don’t misunderstand me, sorry

India
August 12, 2010 8:35am CST
Friends, I am getting ‘ADD FRIEND’ requests daily. I am accepting almost all but denying those whose score is zero, means they have joined fresh have not responded to any discussion. One may ask, why? This is because in the past I used to accept them, and immediately after I received PM telling me to join this site or that, one even told me, she will guide me, if necessary. Well since I have no time for this kind of stuff, I never replied back. I will request members here not to send friend request to me, please don’t misunderstand me. Do you get such requests and next PM to join this site or that? What you do, please share. Professor
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18 responses
• India
12 Aug 10
Hi, I don't feel comfortable denying friend requests. I just add everyone. But if by any chance someone sends stupid PMs I immediately delete them from my list. Really, the whole thing is so dumb. Ain't we having enough fun in myLot already? Why should someone abuse its services? If one needs to promote such things one can surely put some banners in one's profile. There are other more effective methods to promote one's sites. They send messages over and over again. On top of that, they send the same message twice or thrice and that really is irritating. But I don't think we should throw the baby with the bath water. There are beginners here who may need our assistance. Sometimes they see our activities and become impressed. That is why they send us add requests. We shouldn't deny them but we should wait until they do something dumb. Thanks. God bless you
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
12 Aug 10
Hi my sweet "almost son"! It is so like you to be so kind! I have missed you too! Hugs right back at ya!
• India
13 Aug 10
Well actually my monitor was not working for the past couple of days. I was totally down. You know, how I love writing here and flipping the webpages for no reason. Then I invented a novel way to get my monitor back to work. When you'll hear about this you are going to be proud at your son's keen observation. I observed that whenever I slap my monitor on its left ear it starts working, provided the slap must be real hard. So until the engineer came to fix the monitor, I slapped and then wrote. The operation was almost like a type-writer where you have to slap the machine to write. You can't control a mischievous child without spanking. That's so true, I realized.
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
13 Aug 10
I am so very proud of you, my "son"! Sounds just like something I would do. Nothing like a good slap upside the head That's how I keep the bf/roomy in line!
@Opal26 (17690)
• United States
12 Aug 10
Hi Professor! You are not alone! I don't know why these people don't take the hint! It has happened to me again too. Everytime I think well maybe this person won't be just looking for a referral and make the mistake of accepting them I get that dreaded PM again! So, I feel as you do Professor I also won't accept anyone who has a zero score or looks like they are just "friend collecting". I have enough friends and am not looking to being anyone's referral and don't want to join any other sites!
• India
12 Aug 10
Opal, Opal, Opal How are you? [Grin]
• India
13 Aug 10
LoL... Did you read my story? I wrote it in my own box. Pity me, I am such an egotist.
• India
13 Aug 10
Now that was really something.
@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
14 Aug 10
dear professor, i think everyone here has more or less experienced that kind of people. am learning from you. these are nuisance people, and probably not doing responses and discussions in my lot. they are there, just to be able to get referrals. too bad. just don't bother. you'd feel happier. ann
@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
13 Aug 10
Hi Professor, like you I get requests from some people, and I can't understand why. In most cases they are just pushing some website to make money for themselves, so I try and visit their home pages to see their activity before accepting. In the past I would just accept all. Thanks for the discussion.
@bingskee (5237)
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
i do not add mylot members who have zero discussions. been wary lately.
@anneshirley (1517)
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
hello there! I receive this kind of request couple of times already and like you, I don't have time for it so I just ignored it. Some are using mylot to get referrals for their site but they are not really active here. It may be another trash in my messages but I just let them be since I have no intention of deleting them as my friend
• India
13 Aug 10
I too got this type of frn request with 0 score they offer to join sites even some wants to exchange referral links..rubbish i don't like this i would love to do this if some experienced mylotter sens this msgs but from those doesn't respond to discussions and are here only for links!
@grangeke (112)
• Belgium
13 Aug 10
Is there a limit to have friends on here?
@sjaswon (639)
• Jamaica
13 Aug 10
I have same happening. Many requested me for add friend. I accepted them. Many in PM gave me sits, while I ignored them why I didn't interest them. I don't understand why they want.
• China
13 Aug 10
yes ,you are right ,some people with zero-response has some other purpose ,so you should be careful about what they recommend you... as for me ,now i am a newcomer ,do not have these problems ,even some functions of mylot i have not use.... if some active member recommend you some websites to go ,maybe this you can try ,cause they may investigate these websites beforehand...
• Singapore
13 Aug 10
Hi Professor, I have experienced that a few times, so now I have grown smarter. I will leave the FR (0) for a week and if it is still (0) by then, I will deny the request. Site invitations given by friends with little activity are ignored while those from the others whom are sincere, I would explore for myself before deciding to join or not.
@ANIME123 (2473)
• United States
13 Aug 10
Yeah I know what you mean I never reply back either, but I do like to add friends just as long at they don't ask me to join a website because I rather stick to mylot and some of my other favorite sites, but that's about it for me. Have a nice day professor.
@aurorastorm (1136)
• United States
12 Aug 10
I have found that same experience and am also not accepting any new friends until I can see they have been on a little bit. I don't mind learning in a new discussion about new ways to make money but I do not like to be solicited without my asking for it first.
@Porcospino (17807)
• Denmark
12 Aug 10
I usually accept the friend request that I get from people with few or no posts. Some of them become active members after a while and some of them never become active and only send me a lot of referral links, but I don't want to deny every new member just because some new members send me referral links. If I add some people who start sending me referral links all the time I ask them to stop and tell them that I am not interested and if they keep on sending me links I delete them.
@voldrox (7205)
• India
12 Aug 10
Hi Professor, I used to add anyone and everyone. I guess i am lucky i never got such PM's but now i am giving them some time to show that are active with at least a few posts. Even i am getting many friend requests and if within a week they don't show the progress then i just let them stay like that further, until one day i deny their friend request.
@2004cqui (2823)
• United States
12 Aug 10
That is a very good tip! Thanks! I am very careful about who I send a "friend request" to, this will be my "new" rule. I'm not in here as much as you are though.
@owlwings (39225)
• Cambridge, England
12 Aug 10
I don't think there is any need to apologise, Professor2010. I rarely accept people whose profile shows little or no activity and don't feel the need to apologise. I think it would be a good idea, actually, if, when requesting to add someone as a friend, one had to add a short message explaining why one wanted to do so. It is sometimes very difficult to determine why someone has requested you as a friend and I always check their profile to see if they have been involved in discussions in which I posted and to see what kind of interests they have. If they have made no attempt to participate in MyLot, I can be pretty sure that their motive is to spam people, so I deny them. They always have the chance of asking to be added later, when they have maybe shown their colours!
• United Arab Emirates
12 Aug 10
Hi Professor...nice to see u after a long time...I was just wondering what you had in mind when you added me. I think i too had a Zero score...