Please don’t misunderstand me, sorry

Hi, I don't feel comfortable denying friend requests. I just add everyone. But if by any chance someone sends stupid PMs I immediately delete them from my list. Really, the whole thing is so dumb. Ain't we having enough fun in myLot already? Why should someone abuse its services? If one needs to promote such things one can surely put some banners in one's profile. There are other more effective methods to promote one's sites. They send messages over and over again. On top of that, they send the same message twice or thrice and that really is irritating. But I don't think we should throw the baby with the bath water. There are beginners here who may need our assistance. Sometimes they see our activities and become impressed. That is why they send us add requests. We shouldn't deny them but we should wait until they do something dumb. Thanks. God bless you

Hi Professor! You are not alone! I don't know why these people don't take the hint! It has happened to me again too. Everytime I think well maybe this person won't be just looking for a referral and make the mistake of accepting them I get that dreaded PM again! So, I feel as you do Professor I also won't accept anyone who has a zero score or looks like they are just "friend collecting". I have enough friends and am not looking to being anyone's referral and don't want to join any other sites!

Hi Professor, like you I get requests from some people, and I can't understand why. In most cases they are just pushing some website to make money for themselves, so I try and visit their home pages to see their activity before accepting. In the past I would just accept all. Thanks for the discussion.

hello there! I receive this kind of request couple of times already and like you, I don't have time for it so I just ignored it. Some are using mylot to get referrals for their site but they are not really active here. It may be another trash in my messages but I just let them be since I have no intention of deleting them as my friend

i do not add mylot members who have zero discussions. been wary lately.

dear professor, i think everyone here has more or less experienced that kind of people. am learning from you. these are nuisance people, and probably not doing responses and discussions in my lot. they are there, just to be able to get referrals. too bad. just don't bother. you'd feel happier. ann

I usually accept the friend request that I get from people with few or no posts. Some of them become active members after a while and some of them never become active and only send me a lot of referral links, but I don't want to deny every new member just because some new members send me referral links. If I add some people who start sending me referral links all the time I ask them to stop and tell them that I am not interested and if they keep on sending me links I delete them.

Yeah I know what you mean I never reply back either, but I do like to add friends just as long at they don't ask me to join a website because I rather stick to mylot and some of my other favorite sites, but that's about it for me. Have a nice day professor.

Is there a limit to have friends on here?

Hi Professor, I have experienced that a few times, so now I have grown smarter. I will leave the FR (0) for a week and if it is still (0) by then, I will deny the request. Site invitations given by friends with little activity are ignored while those from the others whom are sincere, I would explore for myself before deciding to join or not.

I have found that same experience and am also not accepting any new friends until I can see they have been on a little bit. I don't mind learning in a new discussion about new ways to make money but I do not like to be solicited without my asking for it first.

I have same happening. Many requested me for add friend. I accepted them. Many in PM gave me sits, while I ignored them why I didn't interest them. I don't understand why they want.

I too got this type of frn request with 0 score they offer to join sites even some wants to exchange referral links..rubbish i don't like this i would love to do this if some experienced mylotter sens this msgs but from those doesn't respond to discussions and are here only for links!

yes ,you are right ,some people with zero-response has some other purpose ,so you should be careful about what they recommend you... as for me ,now i am a newcomer ,do not have these problems ,even some functions of mylot i have not use.... if some active member recommend you some websites to go ,maybe this you can try ,cause they may investigate these websites beforehand...

I don't think there is any need to apologise, Professor2010. I rarely accept people whose profile shows little or no activity and don't feel the need to apologise. I think it would be a good idea, actually, if, when requesting to add someone as a friend, one had to add a short message explaining why one wanted to do so. It is sometimes very difficult to determine why someone has requested you as a friend and I always check their profile to see if they have been involved in discussions in which I posted and to see what kind of interests they have. If they have made no attempt to participate in MyLot, I can be pretty sure that their motive is to spam people, so I deny them. They always have the chance of asking to be added later, when they have maybe shown their colours!

Hi Professor, I used to add anyone and everyone. I guess i am lucky i never got such PM's but now i am giving them some time to show that are active with at least a few posts. Even i am getting many friend requests and if within a week they don't show the progress then i just let them stay like that further, until one day i deny their friend request.

That is a very good tip! Thanks! I am very careful about who I send a "friend request" to, this will be my "new" rule. I'm not in here as much as you are though.

Hi Professor...nice to see u after a long time...I was just wondering what you had in mind when you added me. I think i too had a Zero score...