my battle

Philippines
August 12, 2010 8:52am CST
Hi guys..can you help me..i need advice...my husband and I have some fight two weeks ago...he is working in another country.he shouted at me because he's thinking that im doing some lies..until now he is not calling and do so i..They say that being a couple it doesnt matter who is right or wrong, he posted on his facebook wall that he missed our baby so much...what shall i do??do i need to make the first move???
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14 responses
• Portugal
12 Aug 10
yes just talk with him and ask him why he said you lied bcs you didnt. there is no sense that you guys be without talk for so long. you are married already. you must solve things even if he is in other country. if things start to go wrong between both and he doesnt see you or talk with you he can fall for someone else with time if you guys keep without talking and just arguing. talk with him and solve things^^
• Philippines
12 Aug 10
do something to talk to him your right! in the relationship doesn't matter whose right and wrong as long as you guys try to make it right, no perfect relationship most especially that you guys far away from each other you must improve your communication in your situation that is very important "communication" so that you can ensure that your love and faith is always their for him!
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
hi guys..thank you 4 all d advice!i will try my very best..=)
@skysuccess (8882)
• Singapore
12 Aug 10
mcaquino, I do not think there's any point of delaying but on the other hand, if you go in while it is still hot - you may be rushing things. I'd rather that you spend sometime with yourself and find out just how this misunderstanding had resulted between the both of you. I do not think your husband would not have flared up if he is not concern about you. If he had misunderstood you, I suppose you have every right to clear this if not by phone then by a personal email to him. I do not think the silent treatment would help either of you. Besides, it will be very detrimental and distracting for him when he is far away from his home and child. Do whatever is necessary - be levelheaded here.
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
yeah,,tnks so much!=)
• Singapore
13 Aug 10
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@anneish (117)
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
well,yes...call him,in the first place your already a couple and have a child...so i think pride must be set aside.cause i do believe that he is just waiting for you to call him,and calling him is the best thing to do to settle what ever fight you have with him...
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
hi thanks..maybe i will swallow my pride.ill call him right away!!=)
@Iequate2 (280)
• United States
13 Aug 10
Hello mcaquino, I am not an relationship expert, but in my opinion, If as a married couple have a disagreement, it should only last for so long. Two weeks is too long to be angry at anyone. I would make certain that he knew that he could trust me, and that I loved him. One thing however, you said that he wrote on FB that he missed the baby. What about you? Be careful, sometimes, men make up arguments just so they can do that they want to do. Call him and assure him of your love and trust, then if he doesn't respond, it must be something else. I hope your marriage works out for the best. :)
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
hi yes i will call him ryt away! b4 its too late..thank so much..=)
@devijay78 (1575)
• India
12 Aug 10
Fights are common in any relationship. But you need to kiss and make up after some time. Don't drag the issue. Have a talk with him. See where both of you have gone wrong. And he is your husband after all. The very fact that he posted such a msg shows that he is missing you too. Call him up and talk to him. Nothing wrong in making the first move. You might actually feel better if you sort it out with him. Good luck.
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
thank you..hope he missed me too.=)
@juicekodai (1122)
• Philippines
12 Aug 10
yup.. why not?.. does it really matter who makes the first move?.. your a couple, your one body one soul.. if both of your wont do it, then who would?.. go ahead, call him.. no reason to delay.. pray and things will be fine to both of you..
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
Hi thank you 4 d advice!=)
@meemingNEW (2228)
• Philippines
12 Aug 10
In my opinion, since your husband and yourself is a couple,.. if one won't do it, I think the other one should. No matter how hard your pride stops you from doing what you should have done earlier, just go call your husband already. Be sweet, stay calm and try to explain whats really going on. If he shouts or screams at you, just listen. Your problem won't be solved if both of you won't give time to listen to each other. Why don't you post on your facebook wall this "I miss my hubby so much". Haha. Probably he'd call you first. :) Best of luck.
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
hi you know my pride is the one stopping me to do those things..thank you..=)
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
13 Aug 10
Hi Mcaquino, I would probably try to talk to him...reason with him. What does he think you lied about? Did you lie? If you did then you should apologize and reassure him that it won't happen again. If you didn't and he is just accusing you then really, he should be the one apologizing. Either way, you two need to talk. This has got to be so hard...having him away in another country and to be arguing as well. I hope you work things out soon.
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
keep in touch and be patient with him... atleast he know ur always there gives him the feeling of reassurance
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
hello mcaquino! you know, it's not easy for your husband to be away from you and your kids. Married couple who sees each other everyday gets into a fight, how much more for couples who are far away from each other? you can expect communication gaps sometimes. Don't let your pride get in the way with your relationship with your hubby. He misses you and your baby, i'm sure of that. Sometimes, people just doesn't know how to express their feelings and project other feelings which could lead to misunderstanding. He's the one away from you, reach out to him if he is really important to you. You are right, couples who love each other, it doesn't matter who is right or wrong, what matters is you have expressed each others' feelings, you respect and understand each other. Most importantly, what matters is the make-up time.. don't delay much longer, reach out to him. he's just waiting for you..
• United States
13 Aug 10
Call the jealous man before he thinks your sleeping around on him. Let him know that you love and miss him and want him to come home when he can. Life is too short to let this get in your way.
@sinaj292 (602)
• India
13 Aug 10
you have to take the first action ........he is missing the baby means.... he is missing you too... because i you are the first person to his life baby is the second one came after you..... so if he is missing baby means he can't be there with out you..... you take the first move........ call him........
@srineeya (52)
• India
13 Aug 10
hi friend. according to your discussion your husband is more affection in your baby. so your baby is key for the resolving the problem. what is your babys age. tell me first. then i adviced you if you wish :) thank you
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
Yeah, sometimes we must give and take. Marriage is a two way street. If one is mad you should be low and if he's feeling bad of your last conversation, you can do the first move to talk with him and make things right. You know men, specially when they are far from their spouse, they have so many things to think about and some may be negative. Or why don't you reply on his wall that "Daddy I miss you too, something sweet will wipe away his doubts. Hope you and your husband will be ok. 2 weeks is so long that you must put an end to the silent war between you and your husband.