would you rather be alone than to be with people who you dont like?

Philippines
August 12, 2010 1:07pm CST
having friends is really fun. You will enjoy their company because you like them. What if you will be stuck with people who you really don't like at all? would you rather be alone and spend time only to yourself? Or if we try to mingle with these people for the sake of just mingling with them, will you be happy or would it really be shown that you don't like being with them. I would rather be alone. Although I am regarded as being friendly, I will just have to talk to them or be with them only if it is necessary but aside from that, I will never mingle with them. I don't want to push myself to the company of people whom I really don't like. There may be some repercussions if I try to be with them, It might be too obvious that I am just letting myself be with them and it will not be good for me.
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@Angelgirl16 (2171)
• United States
13 Aug 10
Hi aaronfyzeon, Having friends is fun and important to me. However, I realize that there are people around me that I don't care to be in their company and vice versa, they don't want to be in my company either. you mentioned being stuck with people you don't like, and how would a person handle the situation. Well, You really don't have to be stuck with people you don't like, unless you are in a stalled elevator, or in an airplane that landed on an island or in the jungle, then I guess you would be forced to talk to them. Otherwise, you can escape, most of the time, being around these people. I certainly would rather be alone than to be with people that don't enjoy my company and I as well, don't enjoy their. What a waste of time, pretending. It is impossible to like everyone you meet, so we should just respect each other's space and stay out of his or her face.
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
Hello angelgirl! I totally agree with you. The common situations that will somehow depict this scenario would be in the office wherein you really need to deal with your co-workers for example that you really don't like. Another one is having a group project in school wherein all of your members are the people who you don't like. I am a very transparent person and I am not good in pretending! it will somehow really show that I am uncomfortable being with those people if situations are unavoidable. I will just have to be quiet though at all times if necessary. I hope the scenarios I have stated can make you imagine what I am stating. Have a nice weekend.
• Philippines
15 Aug 10
absolutely! Thank you for the comment.
@redhotpogo (4401)
• United States
12 Aug 10
I would much rather be alone then with people I don't like. Being with people you despise is like being alone anyway. Except you're being tortured. So chose the scenario where you're alone, but not being tortured. Keep your enemies close. But not that close. Just close enough to be able to prank call them.
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• United States
13 Aug 10
Exactly.
@Reyachan (589)
• Romania
12 Aug 10
I agree with you , redhotpogo but also with the old saying with keep your enemies closer. Might sound like a paradox but if you think about it, closeness doesn't only refer to physical distance. i think that old saying mainly refers to keeping your eyes more open to their actions in order to dodge any attacks. As for the pranks....good idea :))
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• Philippines
13 Aug 10
Thank you so much for your mind twisting responses. When you are in the company of the people you don't really like does not exactly mean you abhor them. It is merely you don't just like to be with them because of some differences. You will start to despise them or mortify them if they started doing bad things to you, by that they will become your enemies. You should really not be close to them because any moment they may attack you with whatever means they can do to you. Remember, you are just alone! and even if you are being alone they will be able to do those things to you because they rule with numbers. Anyway folks, Have a great time and continue to share you intellectual thoughts.
• United States
13 Aug 10
I would rather be alone than with people that I don't like. I don't know why some people see being alone as a bad thing. Sure it's nice to be social, know new people and be with familiar people but being alone is also an option (and not a bad one). I am not a social person and only have a couple of close friends and I am okay with that. When I am with my friends I am happy but I am also happy by myself.
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
There is nothing wrong being alone or be alone most of the times. Consider that having time for yourself and really enjoying that time. If you are going to be with the people you don't really like then it will just make you feel uncomfortable. and if you still continue to be with them in a longer period of time then it will be a torture to yourself. So why would you torture yourself if you can get out of it immediately. If it is really unavoidable to not be with them then all you have to do is just be quiet. That is great to know that you do have 2 good friends that you like to hang out with. Keep it up. Have a great weekend.
@thaMARKER (2503)
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
i'm alone most of the time. i like it. i can think properly and do things i want without concerning other people's wants. and yeah.. i'd rather be alone than dealing with different personalities. i'm tired of doing so.. ehehehehe.. very bad huh..
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• Philippines
15 Aug 10
There's nothing bad about it if you are just doing what you want without hurting someone. I think you will not be able to hurt them if you stay away from them.
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
12 Aug 10
Sweetie, i am the rude kind. If i don't like someone, i make them understand that. I would leave and rather be alone. I won't punish myself to be near anyone i really don't like. TATA.
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• Philippines
13 Aug 10
Hello saphrina, It is ok to make them understand clearly that you do not like them. You tell them bluntly but only that. We should not be rude to anybody only because we do not like them. But anyway, thank you for the answer.
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
13 Aug 10
I did warn you that i'm rude.
• Philippines
15 Aug 10
It is absolutely ok saphrina.
13 Aug 10
100% rather be alone than with people I don't like. Seems like a no-brainer to me, but I don't get lonely when I'm alone, I enjoy every minute of it and it makes seeing friends better after :}
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• Philippines
13 Aug 10
Wow that is good that you effortlessly came up with a response dear. Yes there's nothing wrong being alone especially with smart people like you would definitely got bored with people who just come up with futile topics. You will have lots of nice things you can do when you are alone rather than spending it with the people that you don't want to be with. Have a great weekend ahead!
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
Good day to you Aaronfyzeon, I agree with your statement in your main topic discussion. That, I would choose to be alone rather than to be with those people that I am not comfortable to be with. Same as you, I am a friendly person, however, maybe there are some traits that are not fit to each other. Or perhaps, it needs to take a good start to come-up with a good conversation. Hence, the feeling will somehow be comfortable.
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
Thank you so much for agreeing and that is great to know that we are both friendly. Yes! it is what you call major differences from each one of them. And if you feel that you are different from them because you don't like their company then they will tell you that you are an outcast! but who cares! unless you don't step into their shoes or they are not the one giving food on your table then we should care less about it! Yes having a good start with a great conversation that you will all be able to agree will help. but still differences will be noticeable and it will still end up pretending that you enjoy mingling with them. thank you and have a nice weekend!
@Steinway (307)
• United States
13 Aug 10
I would prefer being alone, if there is people around I don't like. I have to deal with people I don't like when I go to work, unfortunately I have to deal with them for 8 hours...lol
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• Philippines
13 Aug 10
8 hours will quickly end if you are enjoying what you are doing. If you are alone and enjoying the time with yourself and working on your own without being able to deal with those people then your time will quickly end and you will be able to go home with a nice feeling that you enjoy and love your work. But if time comes that you should be dealing with them then just keep silent. Often times they will regard you as a loner but it is absolutely fine because at least you don't step into their shoes at all. Thank you so much and have a great weekend.
@jennbart (1330)
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
I'd rather be alone than be with people I really do not like to be with.I am sure I am just going to be bored with the people I do not feel like talking or hanging out with anyway. I would rather be alone with my trusty psp than mingle with some people I am not interested in chatting.
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• Philippines
13 Aug 10
Thank you so much for the response! Exactly! you will just get bored if you will still stay with them. It is good that you have better things to do to make you feel good doing like playing PSP. Have a wonderful time playing!
• India
13 Aug 10
Obviously why one would like to be in company for ppl who you don't like.. ..you can enjoy more alone rather than having those persons .
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• Philippines
13 Aug 10
Thank you so much! you will be able to have nice things to do rather than be with those people that you don't like. You will also certainly enjoy being alone because you will now have time for yourself as well. Have a nice weekend ahead.
• India
13 Aug 10
I'm friendly..but i may have apprehension of becoming friends with someone stranger initially. only when we talk and understand each other better we can become best of friends..if there is a lack of understanding or if the interest are different then it is hard to be good friends...so then you distance yourself from them and they would distance us from them..there is no point in being with such friends...though i'm not denying that you can be good friends at a later stage in your life... I would prefer to be alone rather then be in an ackward company..
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• Philippines
13 Aug 10
Hello there richclass2. It is good that you are friendly. Of course we should always keep our distance first to people newly acquainted with us. It will be comfortable being with them if you agree on lots of things but if you notice the lots of differences then you tend to move away from them especially if what you notice is not really agreeable on your part. you will really feel awkward then If you try to be with that company with people that you don't really like. Like most of the people would do, just be alone and be happy being with yourself. Have a nice weekend!!
• China
13 Aug 10
I would prefer to be alone. If there is someone I do not like ,I won't stay with him/her,I will feel uncomfortable.If he /she still want to accompany me ,I'll tell him/her frankly,I want to let myself calm down and slient.
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• Philippines
13 Aug 10
Great job! sometimes it is the best thing to be frank. But let us all be nice in telling them what we really feel. Or the other best thing we can do is just to keep quiet the whole time if we really cannot avoid being with them. This is a great act because we will effortlessly let them notice that we are not into them without being rude at all. have a great day!
@srineeya (52)
• India
13 Aug 10
friends is really good one. but it is up to limit. friends are not carring but they are helping persons. carring person is father mother husband and wife. so firnedship is up to limit. so your thought is very nice. dont go to close to friends. just entertaing only. dont share personal things in friends
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• Philippines
13 Aug 10
Thank you so much! Yes friends and family should always be fun to be with. Just be with your friends and family instead of being with people who you really not want. It is nice that you gave an advice that we should not really get too much close with our friends because they will all know what our weakest spots and might take it against us sometime.
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
if this is work then i have to put up..but if its for hanging out purposes only, it would just ruin my day and piss me off being around this person ...so i guess id rather be alone... esp. if this person makes you feel unwanted its just a waste of time
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• Philippines
13 Aug 10
Thank you for the response! It will really just make your day bad if you hang out with the person whom you really don't like. Yes if this person makes you feel you are unwanted then you will also make him feel the same if you just ignore him totally. For us not to waste our times, we just need to get out of that place and do worthwhile things instead. Have a great day.
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
Nobody wants to be with someone who you don't like. Of course, i'd rather stay away from them. But sometimes, we need them in a certain situation so i still talk or act good towards them but not that very often. I prefer to be alone than be with them forever.
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• Philippines
13 Aug 10
Thank you so much for that wonderful response Tess. Yes nobody really wants to be with someone that you don't like. It is nice that you still act professional in dealing with them if you really cannot avoid being with them. Being with them will always have to end. For example it is your office mates, at the end of the day you will still be going home and be with your family or have your time for yourself. So it will always have to end.
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
That will be a big no to me. If i can avoid the situation i will. But be alone with them i dont think i can. Maybe i'll just say hi, smile and then took an exit. Being with them will make me uncomfortable.
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
Thank you so much for providing a graceful exit when you are in the company of people that you don't like. It's really good to just smile at them and just be quiet and just say only hi. Less words less mistakes. We should always make it a point that we are comfortable in all our dealings with other people so just have that graceful exit if you can. Have a great day.
• United States
13 Aug 10
I am on the situation you are talking about for now..I hate to pretend but I have to in order to avoid trouble..for the sake of my husband..Life is horrible everyday but sooner or later..it will end soon.
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• Philippines
13 Aug 10
Thank you so much for sharing inday, It is good that you express it here by posting that you are experiencing right now. Yes you can also see some good responses here mostly what they do is that they just keep quiet if they cannot really avoid the situation that they really should mingle with them. Sometimes if you are extremely quiet or introvert will make them notice that you are not really comfortable being with them. It will give a hint without exerting any effort of not being rude! Yes, every torture from that situation will surely have its end. Or you can just enjoy the company of your husband if he is near you and just make the most out of it. Thank you for sharing some insight inday. I hope also that you will learn from other people here. Have a great week end.
@Shinyqiu (119)
• China
13 Aug 10
I agree with your opinion.We everybody have rights to select excellent and famillar wih us of person as friends.we don't need betray our inner feeling when be friends with those we don't really like.We even are lonely by ourselves without some need of work necessary.
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• Philippines
13 Aug 10
Thank you for agreeing with me. Yes all we have to do is just choose the people who we are going to be with in order for us to be comfortable being with them. have a great day!
@anncherry (406)
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
I'd find the nearest exit and buzz off quickly!!! Besides, I have better things to do and better people to hang out with. I won't be wasting my time with them. Life's too short. ;P
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• Philippines
13 Aug 10
Hello there! Thank you for your nice response. Yes! Having a graceful exit without explanation is much better because there will be no issues anymore to arise. Being with them will not make you able to do those better things that you should do so just get out there really quick and hang out with people that you really want to be with. Have a great day!
@ash_gray (128)
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
I would prefer to be alone rather than to be with the people I don't like or hated most. I will spend time alone.
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• Philippines
13 Aug 10
Yes spending time alone makes you do worthwhile things rather than being with people that you don't really want to be with. Thank you for the response and have a great day!