Do you take it against a parent who talks about his children's achievements?

@bingskee (5238)
Philippines
August 14, 2010 1:11am CST
We parents always take joy in our children's achievements. We are the ones who feel elated when they excel in school, or in activities they had joined in. We feel that we are doing the right thing being a parent. We feel that we wanted to shout to the world that we have done the best thing as parents. Not everybody can understand a proud parent when he talks about his child's (children's) achievements. Some people will surely take it against a parent who speaks about these things. There maybe reasons why and one of them is because their children are not achievers. Even among parents, insecurities abound. I have heard of proud stories of other people's children and honestly I feel happy for them, no hypocrisy. Who would not be when you know how it feels having to receive the honors for those achievements? Indeed when my children receives the honors and awards, it felt like I am also receiving them. But as I said, not all co-parents can be sincerely happy. Try once and see the reactions.
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11 responses
• United States
14 Aug 10
When my children excel, I excel that is my utmost proudest moments in my life. See today there is more talk about the bad in children that people concentrate so much on, and forget even the small great things they do accomplish. My motto in my home was to always assure I was very proud even of the finger painting. This allowed my children to feel good about expressing themselves and not fear. Life in itself is very scary and well what good is there if a child is afraid to express themselves. If we do not express being proud to our children at a young age they do not know what it is like to be appreciated and then it becomes a vicious victim's life. I feel very content and proud even of children that are not my own as it says a lot about who is raising them. So onward to all parents for feeling so very proud of their children, I know I do.
@bingskee (5238)
• Philippines
14 Aug 10
some parents may not know but our children are happy when they feed we are proud of them.. they always wanted to be appreciated.
• United States
14 Aug 10
Exactly my thought is when they do not feel appreciated well they turn to the wrong areas and people which get them in trouble, not to mention a way of getting the affection.
@dorannmwin (36608)
• United States
25 Aug 10
I never look down on a person that talks about their children's achievements. The reason that I feel this way is because of the fact that I am a parent as well and it is important for me to be able to brag about the achievements that my children make. I think as parents we have every right to be very proud of our children and we should be able to brag on our children and we should also be able to listen to our friends brag about their children without criticizing them for it.
@bingskee (5238)
• Philippines
26 Aug 10
hi, you are one positive person. everybody should understanding when a parent feels proud. :-)
@mauie0918 (339)
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
Of course not! Parents are really happy if their children will achieve something whether big or small. I am also a Mom and I do understand parents who talk about their children's achievements. The feeling is so different.
@bingskee (5238)
• Philippines
18 Aug 10
i am glad you do. well, some parents think otherwise.
@sid556 (31018)
• United States
15 Aug 10
Hi Bingskee, As a parent, I can understand when a parent brags about their child and their achievements. I don't get envious or jealous. I don't compare my kids to other people's kids. My kid's may not have the same achievements as others and I've always had reasons to be proud of them. Likewise, I've never felt ashamed of them for any reason. I think it is really sad when parents get upset over hearing of another child's achievements. I don't understand why such bragging would bother them. Surely, their own children have bragworthy qualities....all kids do. Regardless, the reason, I feel that their attitude probably sends a poor message to their own children.
@bingskee (5238)
• Philippines
16 Aug 10
truly there are parents who get affected listening to another child's achievements via the parent. it just shows that these are all about them though they should bear in mind that what counts here is the child's development whatever it is that he or she wants to achieve. children achieve what they wanted because parents support them but if parent do otherwise, the children will hesitate showing what they can do or what they can achieve.
• United States
15 Aug 10
I am not agianst it it is sooo natural for the parents to talk about the achievements of their kids just like my parents they always talk about our achievemnts in life. That means they are proud of their kids. As of now i just got married and we do not have our own kids yet but when time comes that we will have our own kids of course i will talk the achievements of my kids to other people.
@bingskee (5238)
• Philippines
15 Aug 10
that is nice to know, dreamkeeper!
@Chevee (5915)
• United States
14 Aug 10
I do not have a problem with parents bragging about their children. Especially if what they are bragging about is a true accomplishment. If they are just trying to hide something or trying to make something out of nothing, then I just shut my ears to there bragging. If they are deceiving themselves it will soon show up and show out. I certainly think a parent should speak well of their child's accomplishment and let the child know they are proud of them, that will motivate the child and he/she will continue to do well. What I have a problem with is when your child is doing good even great, and then another person's child is just doing reasonablely well. They make it seem that what is right for there child should be right for every child. Everyone is not the same. For example, my grand boys (twins) are on the National Honor Society, they just entered high school, and their mother (my daughter) have them both on advance courses, well my sister grandchildren, nieces and nephews are not advanced they are on the standard courses. She makes a comment that someone told her, that it is a good thing to put children on standard courses they can get scholarships on standards, my point is she makes it seem like my grands shouldn't be on advance. Why not? Who ever told you that don't know my grands, only God and their mother know what they can do. So why not give them the benefit of the doubt and accept the fact that they are gifted in that area. I am proud of anyone, anychild accomplishments and will to succeed. I also am not jealous of anyone else's blessings or gifts from God.
@bingskee (5238)
• Philippines
15 Aug 10
hello, cheevee. what a nice point you make. each child has his own gift and talent. it only takes encouragement to let the child show it.
@cupkitties (6689)
• United States
14 Aug 10
I don't unless they're over doing it. I understand they are proud of their kids but some times too much parental bragging can put a lot of pressure on the child and make them feel like they constantly have to be perfect and when they make a tiny mistake they feel like a disappointment.
@bingskee (5238)
• Philippines
15 Aug 10
i agree with you, cupkitties. it could put a lot of pressure on the child (children).
@PDBME2 (1023)
• United States
14 Aug 10
One time I was listening to a fellow coworker talk about her daughter's wedding. Well one daughter had 5 kids by all different men. I don't know the reason as to how or why but I just knew because people around work had told me. One day her mom announces her daughter is going to get married. She was helping her daughter with wedding expenses, even a church wedding dressed in white. I knew the groom was not the father of her kids, in fact he didn't even have any. While sitting talking to the mom one day she was so excited about her daughter's wedding. She looked at me, after a while to tell me that although her daughter has made mistakes in the path she has never had a divorce on record. She said with a gleam of happiness in her eyes that her "daughter had made wrong choices in life but she was making the right one when it came to marriage, the other guys weren't worth it." I laughed because she was so proud her daughter had never been divorced, but she did have 5 kids! She was very proud of that achievement of her daughter to have never had a divorce on record. She turned something negative into a positive, that is the kind of person she was never said nothing bad about anything.
@bingskee (5238)
• Philippines
14 Aug 10
i am laughing right now. LOL oh, well, how parents love their children! in the eyes of many, the situation is awkward but it made mom very proud.
• India
14 Aug 10
It is not about a parent talking about thr children's achievements, it is about how another parent take this and post it on thr child!!!! ofcourse a child's achievement make a parent so happy and proud,but seeing or hearing this another parent who act very rough or compare towards thr children is un acceptable i hope now adays lot of movies coming up explaining so many things about child care and thr details!!!!!! hope people take many things in mind thru movies:)
@bingskee (5238)
• Philippines
14 Aug 10
that is sad. i never thought of this - the repercussion to the children who do not excel. and i know of parents who compare never thinking that they are also responsible in the upbringing of a child. they blame without taking the responsibility, without asking how they can help their child (children). it is not only through movies that we can learn. there are many facilities or channels we can use to impart the message.
@jonnifc (1021)
• Philippines
14 Aug 10
No, I don't. I understand that they are just so happy about their children's achievements that they want to share it to anybody who would listen to them. That's how parents express their pride for their kids. In a way they have the right to do that because they are responsible for these young people and if their kids do well, then they feel that they are doing a good job. I think most parents are clueless whether or not they are doing the right thing when it comes to raising their kids. So let's let them enjoy the fruits of their labors. Now, I don't think I'll like it, though, if that's all they do. If they keep talking about it like their are the only kids that matter, and everyone else's story is not worth mentioning. I think they should also let other parents get a chance to share their pride. Also, I don't like it if the parents would make the story about themselves rather than their kid's efforts.
@bingskee (5238)
• Philippines
14 Aug 10
ha ha most parents actually are clueless. but let them be proud of what they endeavored to do! and truly, there are parents who talk about these things like it is all about themselves. ha ha
@zralte (4186)
• India
14 Aug 10
I am proud of my kids and well, if they achieve something, I know I want to tell everybody. And I understand about that if other parents are doing it too. As long as they don't overdo it. There are some people who just brag about their kids anytime, anywhere. I could not stand it if it is inappropriate. Of course I would not be saying anything, but I would feel bad for them. There is a time and place for everything. I would not brag to strangers about my children's achievement and I certainly don't want strangers bragging to me about their kids.
@bingskee (5238)
• Philippines
14 Aug 10
but some parents tend to overdo it. i still give them their chances. i still try to understand. it is funny when a parent talks about this to strangers. ha ha