What if the person you love tells you to remain friends only?
28 Aug 10
if this happens... i am sure you would have clues already - you should be able to feel that something is wrong. and when the person you love tells you that you are not loved anymore... you should actually try to accept it.. it can be hurtful but things happen...
17 Aug 10
I suggest to cut off communication with that person for a while and when you are ready and you can honestly say that you don't have feelings for that person anymore, that is the time I truly believe that you can be friends with that person. It would be very difficult to move on if you constantly keep in touch with that person while harboring feelings for him/her. Go out with friends and try not to think about it too much. In time, you will find someone and realize why it hadn't work with anyone else.
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14 Aug 10
It is a crushing blow to your heart when the one you love only wants to be friends. It is hard to accept because you have romantic feelings while they do not. It is painful to know what to do. Settling for a relationship of friendship may not be what we wanted for our future, yet friendship is bond of strength. Keeping this person as a friend will still keep that person in your life. Perhaps the friendship will last longer than the romance would have. It is a tough choice for our hearts to make. It can be a struggle but ex-lovers can be the best of friends.
14 Aug 10
I guess even if it will hurt me a lot, I will accept it. At least somehow, I can still be a part of his life. I don't believe that in order to forget someone, one should cut ties with that person. Besides, I want to remove the feelings that I have,but not lose the person forever. I will not decline his offer of friendship, but I will lessen the time that I will be seeing him. It will hurt, but having him as a friend may still help and make me stronger at the same time.
14 Aug 10
Hi brokensoul! I would rather stay away for couple of months or year, I guess. I need to mend my broken heart first before to make friend again with that person. It doesn't help if after he say that I will be still close to him, doing that means I'm allowing myself to be hurt.
14 Aug 10
Hello, I personally don't recommend seeing your ex after break up, at least not within a few years range. It sounds like you've recently went through a break up and still struggling with it. Read http://www.wikinut.com/how-to-survive-a-break-up/z1.q0bmr/f2x_t7lc/ to know all the phases that come immediately after a break up. If someone was truly in love with you, she will definitely hesitate to talk to you immediately after a break up. Being friends again is a vague term. It means that although she has got over your love she hasn't got over the habit of having you around. She wants to be friends with you because she wants her to get strong slowly but steadily. She doesn't care about what might happen to you. If you accede to her it's only you who will suffer. A break up, once announced, should be adhered to as a break up. It is for your own good. Don't let her rise upon your grave. Instead you rise on your own, strong and invincible. Thanks. God bless you