What if the person you love tells you to remain friends only?

Mauritius
August 14, 2010 7:55am CST
Would you be able to stay friends with that person coz you will still be close to him/her and probably still love him/her which that person will not hesitate to meet others. Won't that hurt?
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9 responses
@besthope44 (12145)
• India
14 Dec 10
If you loves him truly then you can wait for years for him/ her to understand you better. So be patience and try to express your true love on him/her.
• Philippines
23 Sep 10
its ok for me... because you will still be close to each other..can do bondings.. and go to the place that she can make happy...
@chiyosan (29387)
• Philippines
28 Aug 10
if this happens... i am sure you would have clues already - you should be able to feel that something is wrong. and when the person you love tells you that you are not loved anymore... you should actually try to accept it.. it can be hurtful but things happen...
@lealuvy2j (1989)
• Philippines
17 Aug 10
I suggest to cut off communication with that person for a while and when you are ready and you can honestly say that you don't have feelings for that person anymore, that is the time I truly believe that you can be friends with that person. It would be very difficult to move on if you constantly keep in touch with that person while harboring feelings for him/her. Go out with friends and try not to think about it too much. In time, you will find someone and realize why it hadn't work with anyone else.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
14 Aug 10
It is a crushing blow to your heart when the one you love only wants to be friends. It is hard to accept because you have romantic feelings while they do not. It is painful to know what to do. Settling for a relationship of friendship may not be what we wanted for our future, yet friendship is bond of strength. Keeping this person as a friend will still keep that person in your life. Perhaps the friendship will last longer than the romance would have. It is a tough choice for our hearts to make. It can be a struggle but ex-lovers can be the best of friends.
@bokal2703 (802)
• Philippines
14 Aug 10
I guess even if it will hurt me a lot, I will accept it. At least somehow, I can still be a part of his life. I don't believe that in order to forget someone, one should cut ties with that person. Besides, I want to remove the feelings that I have,but not lose the person forever. I will not decline his offer of friendship, but I will lessen the time that I will be seeing him. It will hurt, but having him as a friend may still help and make me stronger at the same time.
• United Arab Emirates
14 Aug 10
It would be hard to digest for me...if my wife says that she wants to remain as a friend to me. I will try but i cannot promise her that if that friend would be alive to keep that relation.
@kd_fmay (555)
• Philippines
14 Aug 10
Hi brokensoul! I would rather stay away for couple of months or year, I guess. I need to mend my broken heart first before to make friend again with that person. It doesn't help if after he say that I will be still close to him, doing that means I'm allowing myself to be hurt.
• India
14 Aug 10
Hello, I personally don't recommend seeing your ex after break up, at least not within a few years range. It sounds like you've recently went through a break up and still struggling with it. Read http://www.wikinut.com/how-to-survive-a-break-up/z1.q0bmr/f2x_t7lc/ to know all the phases that come immediately after a break up. If someone was truly in love with you, she will definitely hesitate to talk to you immediately after a break up. Being friends again is a vague term. It means that although she has got over your love she hasn't got over the habit of having you around. She wants to be friends with you because she wants her to get strong slowly but steadily. She doesn't care about what might happen to you. If you accede to her it's only you who will suffer. A break up, once announced, should be adhered to as a break up. It is for your own good. Don't let her rise upon your grave. Instead you rise on your own, strong and invincible. Thanks. God bless you