Breasts out in front of hubby.

@ladym33 (11007)
United States
August 15, 2010 1:53pm CST
We recently visited a relative out of state who also had a friend staying with her. Her friend was about the same age as my husband and I maybe a couple of years older. She had recently had a boob job. We all spent 4 days together and my kids and this ladies kid was there too. Every opportunity she had she was showing off her breasts, when we went the ocean she wore a bikini that barely cover them and I would say that 90% of them were showing. I think this was extremely tacky and rude to do in front of my husband a married man and disresctful to me. My husband behaved himself and I have no reason to be angry at him e didn't glare or anything (at least not that I saw), but I am sure it was hard for him not to look, not to mention my 13 year old son. Would you have said something to this woman about her lack of class or would you have said something to your relative about maybe suggesting her friend cover up a bit more or would you just let it go? I didn't say anything but I just think it was really tacky. I have nothing to be ashamed of in that area either but I would never dress like that in public or around someone elses husband like that.
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@p1kef1sh (45640)
15 Aug 10
I guess that there's no pint in having a boob job if nobody's going to admire them! I must say that flaunting them in front of everybody is not good taste. As a man I would have undoubtedly noticed. Your husband probably did. But he clearly has the good grace to rise above the display. Your relative sounds silly and immature to me. No doubt some folk will give her the response that she obviously craves. I hope the family can keep aloof from it all.
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@ladym33 (11007)
• United States
15 Aug 10
I realize she was proud of them and if she was at a nightclub or something trying to pick up guys by all means let them fly, but this was not the correct atmosphere for it in my opinion. If she was trying to make long term friends with us or to become my friend this was not the way to go about it. Not to mention she herself is married (but he was back homea and was not there). I don't think she would appreciate it if I flaunted my stuff in front of her husband.
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@goldeneagle (6775)
• United States
15 Aug 10
well I am not saying that she was right for dressing that way, but I am not saying that she was wrong either. Also, you guys went to the beach, so I am sure she was not the only one out there scantily clad. As for your 13-year old son, I PROMISE you he has seen worse than a woman in a bikini on the internet. Whether or not you can get him to admit it to you is another story. I have to say that I prefer women to be more conservatively dressed under normal circumstances, but I am a guy, and I am not going to turn down a free peek either. Now, if she had literally pulled up her shirt and showed them to your husband, I would probably agree that she would have been wrong for doing so, however, a beautiful woman with a nice rack is not wrong for wanting to show them off a little, especially at the beach where bikinis are perfectly acceptable. I would also be willing to bet that seeing her dressed like that made him want to go home and make love to you. Also, seeing her dressed like that probably made him realize that the fact you dress more conservatively makes him respect you more...
@ladym33 (11007)
• United States
16 Aug 10
The bikini thing didn't bother me that much we were indeed at the beach, I thought it was a little Ok more than a little too revealing but to each their own. It was that every time we were all together she had them out. Thanks for saying he probably wanted to go home and make love to me, by the way is something he always wants to do, but I don't want him to be aroused by someone else to do so. But like I said he did nothing wrong. If he was looking I didn't see it, but I am not naive I am sure he did look it was kind of hard not to. But he did not stare and he seemed to be trying to not look at her. If she was talking he was looking up, I am sure if I was not there he would have looked more, but he did the right thing.
@Sherry12 (2475)
• United States
16 Aug 10
I think you did the right thing by not saying anything about it. Though I sure understand why you would be upset. She must be very insecure to have to receive attention that way. It sounds like it was embarrassing to everybody but her.
• Malaysia
16 Aug 10
It's human nature to show off what they think the advantage on them to show. But in this case, showing the boobs that already altered to others intentionally, I guess that just want to attract attentions. There's no need to feel uneasy towards this kind of attitude. Have pride on yourself and act normal. For those kind of people who like to show their "assets" in front of other people, I guess there's nothing you can do unless, when they harmed due to not being "covering" themselves so well, they will change. It's just the matter of time.
• Australia
16 Aug 10
Hi ladym, I agree with you that is just not right. I would have said something to her about showing a bit of decorum in front of my husband and kids and if that did not work, I would have spoken to my relative about it but I definitely would not have let it go. There is a time and a place for everything and that was definitely not it.
@GardenGerty (105224)
• United States
16 Aug 10
I had issues with people who dressed too skimpily.I got the impression, at least sometimes, that this behavior occurred when they did not think much of themselves and had to prove something. Like s recently divorced person ( male or female) or someone who has had some plastic surgery (also male or female). I used to be more relaxed about it as a teenager,and early twenties, but I did not have a teenage son at that age.I would say not only was it rude and tacky, it was pretty immature.
@carmelanirel (20979)
• United States
15 Aug 10
That was tacky and rude and since you didn't feel it was your place to speak up, I would have taken my family elsewhere and if the relative inquires, then tell her the truth, you feel that her friend is not dressed appropriately in front of your family.
@Absinto (2398)
• Portugal
15 Aug 10
Of course if somebody gets a boob job every man is going to notice, but there are 2 kind of men: those who are just looking and those who look and try something.(no offense to men but it is true). Now if your husband behaved properly then thats ok but she shouldnt do that in front of a 13 year old. Thats when they start growing and for shore he noticed something "interesting about this women". Some women just want attention, that is what she wanted but those kind of woman might end up alone for their actions in public.